Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist?

[LadyEmeraude]

Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist? Should men do things for women like pull out their chairs at a dinner table or wait for them to go through a door first?

What do you think about it?

 

[Rakaia]

Ooh...
I know a trick question when I see one.

 

[Paladin1950]

Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist? Should men do things for women like pull out their chairs at a dinner table or wait for them to go through a door first?

What do you think about it?

I see nothing wrong with that.

 

[smiley]

polite for the old - sexist for the young - [they don't get it no more?]

 

[oscash]

I love it, and nice to see some gentlemen exist.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

I think it is a harmless thing. Courtesy and politeness.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

It’s a polite idea and much appreciated from my point of view. When doors are held for me I say thank you and smile.

 

[spectratg]

Okay I'll say it, so throw stones at me, but there is an obvious sexual connotation to the question.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

Okay I'll say it, so throw stones at me, but there is an obvious sexual connotation to the question.

ok, let's hear what you have to say Won't throw stones

 

[Aunt Bea]

IMO it’s simply good behavior for both men and women to show a bit of kindness and respect for each other.

Save the ists and the isms for things like equal pay, equal rights, etc..,

 

[HollyRockRoad]

Every time I hold a door open for a young woman, I can't help but think that in 40 years there's going to be a whole lot of tattooed old women.

 

[January]

The chair pulling out is a bit naff IMO, dont really see how it helps anyone

Opening doors - I see that as non gender specific - I hold open a door for anyone coming in after me as do most people regardless of gender. and get up t o open a door if anyone else is going to find it difficult due to carrying a baby, pushing a pram, being disabled or frail elderly etc.

Ladies first seems more a tradition or courtesy used when some people have t o go first and everyone can't go at once - for example a group at a buffet.
If somebody said "for a change we'll have men go first this time - I wouldn't see that as a problem either.

 

[Knight]

Never thought about it one way or another. Automatically pull the chair out for my wife. As for doors if I'm 1st. at the door I'll hold it open no matter what gender is entering after me.

 

[Jules]

As for doors if I'm 1st. at the door I'll hold it open no matter what gender is entering after me.

This. It’s just the polite thing to do. And everyone says thanks.

 

[horseless carriage]

Ladies first and pulling out chairs stem from historical chivalry, some view it as outdated but why get all politically correct over a simple act of kindness? Ladies first signifies thoughtfulness, not helplessness, though the interpretation varies. Why can't the gentleman be gallant?

 

[smiley]

All of us being more polite [genuinely] would be a big asset in these troubled times

 

[Lewkat]

It is considered polite in civilized societies, but there are those these days who'd call it sexist.

 

[Dr.Colosso]

IMO it’s simply good behavior for both men and women to show a bit of kindness and respect for each other.

Save the ists and the isms for things like equal pay, equal rights, etc..,

Once a guy was stuck in the snow with his car. I biked there. He couldn't get out. Awww. So I pushed the car. Then I remembered I'm a woman and not a very strong one. The guy had a good laugh.

I always hold the door open after going through it, but everyone does that. Man or woman doesn't matter.

My neighbour is the perfect gentleman. Young guy. We were throwing out the couch, but that thing was heavy. It was even hard for my 2 teen sons. He saw us, said to his friend: come on and they just carried that thing to where they'd pick it up. Awesome. Sometimes a neighbour asks if I need help carrying groceries, but also women, which is funny. No I'll carry that bag for you.

 

[Dr.Colosso]

Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist? Should men do things for women like pull out their chairs at a dinner table or wait for them to go through a door first?

What do you think about it?

The only thing I'm really against is women and children first with a disaster or war. Oh just let the men die? Ukrain, I saw a testimony of a pastor that God told him which way to take to flee the country in time before they were not allowed to leave anymore. The women could just leave. That is sexism and discrimination.
An older Dutch woman was complaining on Facebook that the youth nowadays didn't want to go in the military in our country to defend the country. So I said: Why don't you go in the military? Bah bah bah totally offended. Do you want to let me get killed? No but I'm not gonna offer up my sons either for you.

I saw in the paper a few years ago that evil Russian women whose exes didn't pay child support would call to betray them, so they were forced to fight and they were guaranteed money, if he died or not. So evil. They're spoiled rotten there anyway, always being taken care of by men. That's another thing. If a man wants to be the gentleman and provide great, but the entitlement is what irritates me.

I once said to my mom: You may be very grateful that dad always worked so hard. She said: Ah that's just normal. A man has to provide. Oh well no man ever wanted to provide for me except dad so consider yourself lucky. It was a few years ago. She thought for a minute and then said: Yes you're right. And then to my dad: Thank you sweetheart. Cause he was just sitting there too during the conversation.