Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist?

The chair pulling out is a bit naff IMO, dont really see how it helps anyone

Opening doors - I see that as non gender specific - I hold open a door for anyone coming in after me as do most people regardless of gender. and get up t o open a door if anyone else is going to find it difficult due to carrying a baby, pushing a pram, being disabled or frail elderly etc.

Ladies first seems more a tradition or courtesy used when some people have t o go first and everyone can't go at once - for example a group at a buffet.
If somebody said "for a change we'll have men go first this time - I wouldn't see that as a problem either.
 
Aunt Bea said:
IMO itā€™s simply good behavior for both men and women to show a bit of kindness and respect for each other.

Save the ists and the isms for things like equal pay, equal rights, etc..,
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Once a guy was stuck in the snow with his car. I biked there. He couldn't get out. Awww. So I pushed the car. Then I remembered I'm a woman and not a very strong one. The guy had a good laugh.

I always hold the door open after going through it, but everyone does that. Man or woman doesn't matter.

My neighbour is the perfect gentleman. Young guy. We were throwing out the couch, but that thing was heavy. It was even hard for my 2 teen sons. He saw us, said to his friend: come on and they just carried that thing to where they'd pick it up. Awesome. Sometimes a neighbour asks if I need help carrying groceries, but also women, which is funny. No I'll carry that bag for you.
 
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I hold the door open for anyone when entering or exiting a building, if I arrive at the door first. I never pulled out a chair for my wife in a restaurant, and I don't see that normally done here. I did not get out of the car and walk around to the other side to open the door for my wife, but when we were going into a building together, I did hold the door open for her to enter first.
 
This struck me funny because a couple weeks ago a lady around my age and I got to a pull open door at the same time.
I smiled and said, let me get that, she said "That's Ok I will get it" we both still reached for it.
We looked at each other and I asked, how old are you? She said 70, I said OK I lose I am 74, you get it.

We were laughing so hard the people behind us opened the door us both.
 
IrishEyes said:
This struck me funny because a couple weeks ago a lady around my age and I got to a pull open door at the same time.
I smiled and said, let me get that, she said "That's Ok I will get it" we both still reached for it.
We looked at each other and I asked, how old are you? She said 70, I said OK I lose I am 74, you get it.

We were laughing so hard the people behind us opened the door us both.
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You are 74??? I thought you were my age. I'm 55. You look young.
 
I am still dating, so I do all of the polite or respectful things that are shown or taught to do using proper etiquette.
I open the door and allow her to enter first, help her with her wrap, seat her first at the restaurant, etc. On occasion, she tells me not to do all these things, so I will only open the doors and help her with her wrap.

I do the same at the grocery store for all of the women and will also ask her if I can load her groceries into her vehicle while we are in the parking lot. Some say yes, thanks and some say, no, thanks.
 

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