Is Polygamy a thing where you live?

Jondalar7 said:
Sometimes they call it family, but I just rent rooms to whomever reads my post and comes for an interview. If they seem pleasant and not too much baggage, then they rent a room. I am the gardener, handyman and jar opener. I try to be all the things a woman needs a guy for except romance. When I have had men here they find some way or time to be inappropriate with a woman here and make them uncomfortable, so I do not rent to guys anymore. I make sure that I do not send any signals that make a woman uncomfortable in my home. I never enter a woman's room with the door closed or have conversations that are secret. There have been women who wanted a romantic relationship with me and that was good for a time. The last gal thought she should run things and actually asked others to leave when she did not like them, so she was asked to leave. We ask that dates not spend the night. This is actually a way for me to stay in the very nice and large home that I built in 1989. I occasionally bring a girlfriend to visit or have dinner and speak as if I always have one. This morning, as I was sitting on the patio three women walked by and turned to come into the yard when one of them who I know saw me having coffee. I showed them around and they all asked said it would be nice to live here. The one who was married said she just wanted to hang out in shang ra la
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Did she mean Shangri-la or a similar name with a reproductive connotation?
 
Pepper said:
Could never have shared a man. Don't like men enough to make one so happy.
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Nor I! Even the idea that these women all get along while sharing their ā€˜oneā€™ man, is so foreign to me.šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

Perhaps many of these women agree to this lifestyle out of necessity more than preference so arenā€™t really as emotionally invested as women in monogamous relationships.

Note: thatā€™s not to say that women canā€™t ever be as emotionally invested in a polygamous relationship āœŒļø
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Nor I! Even the idea that these women all get along while sharing their ā€˜oneā€™ man, is so foreign to me.šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

Perhaps many of these women agree to this lifestyle out of necessity more than preference so arenā€™t really as emotionally invested as women in monogamous relationships.

Note: thatā€™s not to say that women canā€™t ever be as emotionally invested in a polygamous relationship āœŒļø
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Perhaps believing all a person reads on a forum is not the brightest idea.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Perhaps many of these women agree to this lifestyle out of necessity more than preference
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In my experience in Utah many don't really "agree to" it so much as are groomed and brainwashed into it from birth, and then married at an age too young for them to understand what they are getting into. Not true for all, but all too common.

I think much of the polygamy as practiced by Muslims is very different.
Avon said:
Perhaps believing all a person reads on a forum is not the brightest idea.
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Awe come on, surely everything on this forum is true, LOL.

Forums are for discussions, lots of competing points of view, and some inaccuracies. I think that's what makes it interesting.
 
Avon said:
Perhaps believing all a person reads on a forum is not the brightest idea.
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Haha! šŸ˜‚ I absolutely donā€™t believe everything I read on the internet. My opinions on this topic mainly come from documentaries made about polygamous families. These families were specifically from Utah, meaning, this is what they are/were accustomed to so most were used to this lifestyle. Itā€™s surprising how many of these women truly got along well.

This isnā€™t to say, I completely understand this lifestyle or that it was without fault, but it did give me some needed understanding which I didnā€™t have before.
 
Alligatorob said:
In my experience in Utah many don't really "agree to" it so much as are groomed and brainwashed into it from birth, and then married at an age too young for them to understand what they are getting into. Not true for all, but all too common.

I think much of the polygamy as practiced by Muslims is very different.

Awe come on, surely everything on this forum is true, LOL.

Forums are for discussions, lots of competing points of view, and some inaccuracies. I think that's what makes it interesting.
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I watched a documentary the other day about a teenage girl being married off to a man in his 80ā€™s. This poor women didnā€™t know how babies were made or really anything about marriage yet this was the life she was born into that she had to endure. It was difficult watching it without being judgmental and I couldnā€™t help feeling bad for this young woman. This old man had some type of seniority in this compound and already had 26 wives. šŸ˜³
 
Alligatorob said:
In my experience in Utah many don't really "agree to" it so much as are groomed and brainwashed into it from birth, and then married at an age too young for them to understand what they are getting into. Not true for all, but all too common.

I think much of the polygamy as practiced by Muslims is very different.

Awe come on, surely everything on this forum is true, LOL.

Forums are for discussions, lots of competing points of view, and some inaccuracies. I think that's what makes it interesting.
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Must be me being cynical, Bob. I have had sex with more women than I can remember, let alone remember their names. Had I had a dozen living in my house and not had sex with any, they must have been gruesomely unappealing.
 
Alligatorob said:
There is something to that. Many of the women take to the sister-wife thing and enjoy each other's company, and the extended family.
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That was my thought exactly. If you are forced into this lifestyle, since you know nothing else, why not build good relationships with the other women going through the exact same thing. It makes a LoT of sense when I truly think about it. Instinctively, since I didnā€™t grow up in this type of setting, the sharing of the man, I just canā€™t relate to but thatā€™s to be expected.
 
I found this very interesting. It blows the one wife-one husband marriage UP!

Associated polyandry[edit]​

Another form of polyandry is a combination of polyandry and polygyny; whereas women are married to several men simultaneously and the same men may marry other women. It is found in some tribes of native Africa as well as villages in northern Nigeria and the northern Cameroons. Usually, one of the woman's husbands will be chosen to be the husband of a woman from another tribe who would also have many husbands; this double-polyandrous union serves to form a marital alliance between tribes.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyandry
 
Pepper said:
What about dates & locations? Where were you Saturday, August 24, 1977? Taking a train, perhaps?
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Just one.

And I hope you and yours are keeping well.
I received a mail from Lee off Seniors asking me to go back.
So I have!
I don't know the fluck why, but she was wondering why you haven't been posting.
If you fancy posting again then I will look forward to jostling with you again! Lol.

Best regards

Kenny
 
Alligatorob said:
I knew that about you, and nothing I have said is meant to cast judgement on you. To the contrary I think you are a good lady and made the right choice for you.

I suspect many or most polygamous people are good happy folks. But the ones who aren't are more fun to talk about. ;)
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I haven't read through the entire thread yet Rob. But I already know that you would never sit in judgement of me nor say anything to hurt my feelings.
 
When Israel was first founded, they had "collectives" which managed one farm or business. Each man had about 8 to 10 wives whereby 1 wife stayed home to manage all the children and the rest of the wives and the 1 husband worked and managed the business. It was called a collective farm, or "Kibbutz."

Communist Russia had similar collective farms especially when first founded in 1919. America also had them when they were conquering the land from the Indians.

Many American Indian tribes had the same arrangement whereby the "Chief" fertilized all the women while the "braves> went out to hunt bison or other wild animals for food.

Thus, it is not so uncommon to have situations like that.
 
For some reason I have watched episodes of "Sister Wives" for many years-even before Cody married Robin and I watched a few repeat episodes yesterday and was shocked to see how this family is suddenly breaking apart.

I always felt that their kids seemed to have been raised well, but I dont think any of the kids would want a plural marriage.

I was drawn into the unusual family paradigm, and I think the show itself is most of their financial support.

And actually I have lost much interest in the show-they are always moving somewhere else and I do not understand the land contract that says they must start building homes on the land, within a year, or something like that.
 
"Polygamy" is widespread among the wealthy. They usually have 1 wife combined with many "mistresses." The result is de facto polygamy. Middle class and poor simply do not have the money to support many women.
 
Mitch86 said:
When Israel was first founded, they had "collectives" which managed one farm or business. Each man had about 8 to 10 wives whereby 1 wife stayed home to manage all the children and the rest of the wives and the 1 husband worked and managed the business. It was called a collective farm, or "Kibbutz."
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The word ā€œkibbutzā€ (plural ā€œkibbutzimā€) means ā€œgroupingā€ or ā€œgatheringā€ in Hebrew.
In a nutshell, itā€™s a community where people voluntarily live and work together on a noncompetitive basis .
Itā€™s a social system and a way of life which has played a crucial role in the development of the State of Israel.

It has nothing to do with having multiple wivesā€¦ where in tarnation did you get that idea?
 

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