I'm sure I'm not the only one but I am 72, married for 36 years and I do love my husband. He is 5 years younger than me and is still working. Unfortunately he loves working crazy hours, like 2 AM on. Even when he's not working, he's up in the middle of the night. It's like we live on different planets. He goes to bed by 6 PM . He gets up when I'm going to bed. I spend every evening alone. Thank heaven for my dogs. We really have nothing in common any more. I'm just really lonely and I'm trying to find ways to cope. Armchair therapist suggestions?
@LindaB , first of all, congratulations on your long marriage, my hubby and I have been married for over forty years and having such a long term relationship is very special and always has some challenges. We both retired at the same time, so it must be hard for you to still have him working at such odd hours. That's hard to keep up with, I wouldn't even try, I certainly wouldn't bend over backwards trying to insert yourself into his busy schedule.
Are there any days he doesn't work that you two can spend some time together at home, have a nice dinner and chat with each other? I would definitely shoot for that goal, to spend a little time letting each other know you still care. Honestly though, aside from his hectic work life, there are a lot of folks in marriages where the love is there, but there is loneliness. Have you had a heart to heart with him to express how lonely you're feeling? Does he show you affection often, even a little hug or kiss when its a slow time?
Do you have a friend who you can talk to, spend time with and do things with? That would help if you did. As already mentioned, the members here are very caring and there are many interesting threads, posts, pictures, videos, etc. to browse through when you have time.
What kind of dogs do you have, do you take them out for daily walks? I take my dog to the park every day, he follows me around the house like my shadow.