Love playing cards with the ladies.

fancicoffee13

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We get together every so often and play cards or dominoes. It is good for the brain and love to be with friends. We share goodies, and stories, and friendship. Does anyone else get together at a senior building or church or someone's home?
 

We get together every so often and play cards or dominoes. It is good for the brain and love to be with friends. We share goodies, and stories, and friendship. Does anyone else get together at a senior building or church or someone's home?
The little bit of stuff for seniors around here is to help with problems only, no seniors center for fun or socializing, never have had one as far as I know, I guess because this is a university town? Anyway, that kind of stuff sounds really fun; but around here since there is no seniors center, you have to already know people to get together for something like that. In other words, you kind of have to already be a member of a group or club if you want to belong to one, like the old saying, you can't get there from here, you have to be born there, ha ha.

Every so often over the years a bookclub will get started and I've belonged to a few but it seemed like no one was friendly, just trying to talk over the top of each other, showing off how well they understood the book; so not fun. A few years back, I was thinking about trying to start my own face-to-face bookclub, so I did a poll on a couple of other websites, asking people that were in f2f bookclubs how theirs were run, how long they had lasted, any conflicts or feuds, etc. I got a lot of responses back, ranging from really businesslike-run ones that didn't allow any talk at all about anything other than the book to easy-going ones where they only talked about the book for the first 5 minutes and then spent the rest of the evening happily snacking and chatting. Anyway, of the ones that had lasted with little or no conflict, you know what they all had in common? Most or all (almost always all) of the members were already friends before they even decided to start the club.

And Covid seemed to permanently put an end to most of the social stuff at a lot of the churches around here. I think maybe the intent originally was to start stuff up again after the lockdown but the wind seems to have been knocked out of everyone's sails and nobody's got the heart to start socializing again. I really think that in most of this country, socializing and having friends is going to become more and more a thing of the past. Hope I'm wrong, but I don't think so.
 
I love playing cards. In high school, I played pinochle with a group of friends all the time. We'd go to each other's homes in the evenings and play. Now there's no one to play with. The people I know have no interest in cards.

Not long ago, out of curiosity, I went to a local senior center one afternoon to check out a program they were offering. I got a less than warm reception. Instead of being welcomed, I was treated like an interloper. Most of the seniors there were older than me, but I'm still a senior. The truth is that it just isn't my scene. I knew that before I went, and it pretty much panned out as expected. Although I'm not really a joiner, I just thought I'd give it a shot on the off chance that I might find something interesting there. I didn't and won't be returning.

@officerripley - Sadly, I think you're right. Meeting people and making friends at this age is difficult. COVID restrictions haven't helped. And as you know, trying to work your way into a long-established clique is next to impossible. Wouldn't it be nice if people were as welcoming as the folks at SF?

I'd be going to the gym for yoga classes if it weren't for the fact that I'm still not comfortable being around a group of people. The gym is a breeding ground for germs. At least that would be some level of social contact and an opportunity to meet people, but it's still off the table for the foreseeable future.

Bella ✌️
 
Many years ago I played canasta with a group of friends at the hospital where I worked. Then we were bought out by a larger corporation and we were all laid off. We had problems getting together after that as we all went to work at other hospitals and lost touch.
 
We don't play cards, but twice a month we play Bingo downstairs in our community room. No money is involved. Just for fun. One of my friends here goes to someone's house to play cards every now and then. The senior center here as far as I know only does a meal every week day. I don't know if they have any activities.
 
The little bit of stuff for seniors around here is to help with problems only, no seniors center for fun or socializing, never have had one as far as I know, I guess because this is a university town? Anyway, that kind of stuff sounds really fun; but around here since there is no seniors center, you have to already know people to get together for something like that. In other words, you kind of have to already be a member of a group or club if you want to belong to one, like the old saying, you can't get there from here, you have to be born there, ha ha.

Every so often over the years a bookclub will get started and I've belonged to a few but it seemed like no one was friendly, just trying to talk over the top of each other, showing off how well they understood the book; so not fun. A few years back, I was thinking about trying to start my own face-to-face bookclub, so I did a poll on a couple of other websites, asking people that were in f2f bookclubs how theirs were run, how long they had lasted, any conflicts or feuds, etc. I got a lot of responses back, ranging from really businesslike-run ones that didn't allow any talk at all about anything other than the book to easy-going ones where they only talked about the book for the first 5 minutes and then spent the rest of the evening happily snacking and chatting. Anyway, of the ones that had lasted with little or no conflict, you know what they all had in common? Most or all (almost always all) of the members were already friends before they even decided to start the club.

And Covid seemed to permanently put an end to most of the social stuff at a lot of the churches around here. I think maybe the intent originally was to start stuff up again after the lockdown but the wind seems to have been knocked out of everyone's sails and nobody's got the heart to start socializing again. I really think that in most of this country, socializing and having friends is going to become more and more a thing of the past. Hope I'm wrong, but I don't think so.
I hope you are wrong also. Because, I too, like to socialize and today, at a meeting, I will find out if our senior center will be up and going or if it will take a year ot two or three to get there. Yes, there are some who are already friends and they show up together, then there are those that come looking to make new friends and socialize. Just getting out and going somewhere to socialize is important for seniors. So, here I go again, to the meeting. Don't give up. There is probably a few people that feel like you and are looking to find others to socialize with.
 
Growing up in Wisconsin everyone seemed to play cards on a regular basis. On the island where we wintered for 20 years we had a large group that played hand & foot every Saturday, guys against the girls. Several people volunteered to bring desert, and it was great fun. The guys got together once or twice a month to play poker. Doesn't happen here, mostly due to remoteness, and covid.
 
Everyone to his own. Some like to get out and do stuff like that and some don't.
Well @fancicoffee13, I tried (pre-covid) to go out lunching with the girls a few times.
They were the opposite of me politically and loudly condemn my candidate and views
and they gossip constantly about people. The rest of the time they criticized everything.
It's hard to meet people and make friends but I realized I have more fun alone.

But, I'm so glad this is right for you! Enjoy!
 
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I enjoy card games, especially 500. I am reluctant to join a seniors group,latter experiences haven't been good.
I heard where you can play cards online with others, my neighbour enjoyed it so I am going to check it out.
 
We get together every so often and play cards or dominoes. It is good for the brain and love to be with friends. We share goodies, and stories, and friendship. Does anyone else get together at a senior building or church or someone's home?
Cards: Not at this time. I tried to get people to meet to play cards a few years ago. I thought my dad would enjoy. For one reason or another, the plan never fell into place. I don't know a place people play cards locally. The lady who lived next door in the past played online, so I guess some people have moved in that direction.
 
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Cards: Not at this time. I tried to get people to meet to play cards a few years ago. I thought my dad would enjoy. For one reason or another, the plan never fell into place. I don't know a place people play cards locally. The lady who lived next door in the past played online, so I guess some people have moved in that direction.
Well, our group is facing our senior center may dissolve in order to start up under a different name and get going in a couple of months maybe. And that is a BIG maybe because our center has been moving around for the past 3 years. We meet at a different person's house 3 days a week. So, we started out playing together at the senior center and wanted to continue playing together and some of the ladies agreed to meet at their house. It has worked out, so far. We also bring snacks, some have coffee on. I am sure you have done that also. Some people get used to staying home and just don't want to step out and go somewhere else. Don't give up.
 
The town I moving to in Mass has 1,800 people. As I meet, I'll be scrutinizing them to see whether any are rabid bridge players, like I am. By rabid, I mean play often, and play through the night and past dawn, and love the game.
 


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