Marriage and Taking Spouse’s Surname?

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Jules

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Ladies, if you (re)married, would you take your spouse’s surname?
Did you the other times?

Gents, would you expect your spouse to take your name.

Hyphenated names?

It seems that young folks don’t bother changing their surname now.
 
Yes, I took my husband's surname. If I should remarry, I don't think I would take my new husband's surname unless he'd be upset if I didn't. Only because it would be a pain to change it on all documents, but I don't think I'll have to worry about it, lol.
 
CinnamonSugar said:
I took my then-husband's name and it's the one good thing (aside from children) that came out of the marriage... Maiden name was a clunker for sure... Married name is short, easy to spell and I don't have to repeat it 12 times when someone asks me my name.
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Same exact situation with me. Last name is ex-husband's which I kept because it was the same as my daughters. Now they are both married and have taken their husbands surnames. And my maiden name was ALWAYS mispronounced so it's just easier to keep the ex-clunker's name.

Marriage will never happen again for me so no more name changes for me.
 
I didn’t like my maiden name, took my first husband’s name (it was ok) because that’s what you did back then, and then took second husband’s name (it’s impossible to say or spell) but no way was I keeping the ex’s name.

My daughter has been married twice and is progressing towards her third. When the second ended, she started using her maiden name. I hope she keeps it. Too many changes.
 
I took my husband's name, and it has been mine ever since. But I was 20 when we married. If I ever remarried now (which won't happen), I'd probably just keep my old name. Everyone is used to it, and it's my son's last name and my daughters' maiden names. But I might add my new husband's surname as a middle name.
 
The radio presenter Colin Murray told the story that his parents had originally wanted to call him Luke. Luke Murray sounds OK, but he added that his parents had separated and that Murray was his adopted name. His original surname was Wright, so he would have been called "Luke Wright".:unsure:



If Mrs L and I had surnames that looked good when hyphenated , we might have done that - but they didn't.
 
My maiden name was fairly common and easy to spell. My late husband's name, which I took, was not. It was not pronounced as it was spelled and I learned quickly to respond to just about every mispronunciation. ("Mrs......uh...... <garble-garble>?" " Yes, that's me.")

That said, I've had 53 years to get used to it and I'd probably not want to change it.
 
I took my first husbands name, divorced, took my second husband's name. If I had it to do over I would probably keep the first husband's name since it matches my son's. I didn't considered keeping my maiden name. It was a very common name and it was my father's name so I never got the "keep your maiden name to stick it to the patriarchy" idea.

I would never hyphenate. Working in banks, it caused me a world of trouble, and now that my husband's doing taxes, it's causing him trouble.
 
I changed my name like people change driver's licenses (just kidding.) Now, as the family elder with no male siblings to pass on my father's name, I have gone back to it. It's a common name, easy to spell, and I hate to see it disappear from the family tree - but it will. /-;
 
I took my first and third husbands' names. Didn't see importance of keeping my maiden name at time. But since 2nd DH was 'common law in Texas and left before daughter born i put maiden name on daughter's birth certificate. By then i'd begun to realize how grateful i was for my father so it felt right.

Lived in Wyoming for 3rd divorce and they have this nifty process where you fill in maiden name, check box you want to reclaim it and when divorce final it is your legal name again. Hassle to change ID etc but worth it: 1) i doubted i'd marry again 2) if a man could not deal with my keeping HE would have to decide if that was a deal breaker if how and how much he complained about it did not become deal breaker.for me.
 
It was just becoming a little bit common ~40 years ago when my friend decided to keep her maiden name. When the babies were born, she gave them the father’s name. Then she decided she wanted them to have her name and changed theirs. Her reason was there was no one else to pass down her family name.

There does seem to be a societal expectation in N.A. that the family will have a son to pass on the family name. With smaller families there are fewer probabilities that it might happen.
 
I was married twice and both times my ladies took my last name. I guess it was tradition. I did not "hit them over the head with a crawl bar" or force them anyway. Both of them wanted to have my surname. If they wanted to do otherwise, I don't think I would have objected. Maybe they didn't think the name game was an issue with them. If they did, they never told me and now it's all in the past.
 
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