Moving to a homeless shelter today

Hi Denise! Sorry to be just now replying to your post. To start with, I want to thank you for your openness, honesty and courage that just seem to pour out of you girl. Wherever you go, or find yourself living, you will not be alone. You will find friends and favor, and your life will be a good one. We will keep you in our prayers, and hope that your plans for housing will come to pass sooner than later. Bless you girl!
 

Hi Denise ,
Most members have already said what I would have ,wishing you all the best , I'm sure you will face the experience of the shelter and I t will make you a stronger person for the experience. I also in my younger years when I had young children experienced homelessness. I will be keeping an eye on updates from you as I'm sure all your other " friends" on SF will be on the look out for you even tho many of us are 1000's km away we still care, so you keep your chin up high and know we are all thinking of you :grouphug:
 
Dear Friend, So sorry things didn't work out between you and your sister. You have many friends here who care alot about you, and with your friendly, fun, personality, you will have many more caring a lot about you too. You are Awesome! :)Will be keeping you in my prayers that you will be able to move to California soon, and I'm really happy that you are getting help you need.
Hopefully you will be able to stay in touch with your forum family. Love you :love_heart: :bighug:
 

Denise I just saw this and I am so very sorry you have to go through all this. Prayerfully it is not long until you get an apartment. I am sorry. If we lived closer you could live with us.
My son was in a shelter for a while , the rules just must be followed. That is about all . He said the food wasn't bad at all. You hold your head up Denise , I will be praying for you . And always remember you are not alone when you have the Lord on your side. I do hope you can let us know how you are.
God Bless Denise
 
nwlady said:
and I'm long past worrying about what other, folks think of me. My sister and I are toxic for each other, and her kids have blamed me for the uncomfortable living situation. That doesn't surprise me, I've always been "odd man out" in this family (well, woman). I want to share this stuff because I don't have that many folks around here I know. SF has been a lifesaver for me many times over the last year.

For those that don't know, I am very, low income. Most of that is my fault, some of it was not. This is just how my life is turning out. I take care of myself as best I can, with the help of foodstamps from the government, and the State has provided health insurance for me. Then I finally got my SS retirement at age 62. It's still hard for me to admit that so I guess I'm not totally free of what others think of me.

So, for those that think I am a Republican, or democrat, lol, I'm not either, but I do not want the help I'm getting to go away. I battle with accepting it, feeling less than, or someone one else footing the bill. I also don't like the name calling of people who disagree on something, so then I suppose I'm automatically put on the "other" team.

I am waiting for housing, in a nice little town, and that housing is much more than I ever dreamed to have on my small income. I am grateful to the powers that be, and a good friend that helped me find it and get signed up. I may have as long as a year more to wait but the shelter I've found is very decent. I can live there and still save my money for the move. I will be amongst all sorts of other women with problems, some like mine, some much, much worse. I get to have internet I think, so will stay in touch.

I have an inexpensive storage to move my things to today. Very close so I can go there and check on it easily. I feel a sense of relief, more than fear. I also have my new home to look forward to. When I get the call, All I'll have to do is load my truck and head south;) Denise

PS ANY feedback welcome. Maybe some of you paying taxes will like knowing this woman appreciates the help and doesn't take advantage. You don't see garbage in my shopping cart, and I don't go to the doc unless it's apparent I need one.
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Ma'am, you seem to be one phenomanol lady!!! When many would have "tossed in the towel", you are looking forward to when you will be able to move into the housing. So many want to look back, blaming themselves or others. The remarkable folks are those who only look forward to better days and brighter times. Keep that attitude!!!! The VERY best of luck to you!!!
 
Grumpy Ol' Man said:
Ma'am, you seem to be one phenomanol lady!!! When many would have "tossed in the towel", you are looking forward to when you will be able to move into the housing. So many want to look back, blaming themselves or others. The remarkable folks are those who only look forward to better days and brighter times. Keep that attitude!!!! The VERY best of luck to you!!!
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Amen to that Grumpy Ol' Man! It is a blessing for her to be so positive and NOT look back. She is gonna make it. I believe that.
 
Denise, I'm so sorry to hear of your trouble, but don't for a minute feel bad about getting the help you need. I'm glad you found a good transition place, and I hope you find some nice friends there. You will be in my prayers, girl. I know you'll come out OK.

Take advantage of all the help you can find out there.

I look forward to hearing updates from you.
 
AprilT said:
Wishing you the best Denise, one can never be too far above others to think to look down on anyone as not to find themselves in some way in need in one way or another. Hopefully, for you, your permanent digs will come through for you much sooner than later, in the mean time be well.
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Will get some time here and there online, so happy to see your messages, all of you:) You are right April, and I can remember many times looking down on others. But not since I had something wonderful happen to me, I turned up down and out;) hugs, and thank you so much;) I already have met most of the girls. I was kind of surprised that 9 out of 10, and that about all there is, are my age. There's a little gal, so cute, and she wears tight legging jeans, and she can. But what tickles me is she wears these little slides with feathers or fur, and squash heals. The floor space is huge, and she clic, clic clics, even at 5 a.m., LOL! I didn't feel any anger at all. Just such a variety of folks. More later, hugs for you, denise

AZ Jim said:
You check in with us Denise so we know how you are doing.
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I will Jim, I'm going to have some stories. One is, if we may think shelters are full of scarey, peeps, we should go to McDonalds on a Saturday morning!! LOL!! Hey, I got my discount coffee though;) I'll be having that at the mission most of the time, need to save my dough. But I had to get up and out to store my last load in storage, hugs for you too Jim:) and thank you, Denise

Josiah said:
Denise, I wish you well in the ordeal your facing. Sounds like you're being very brave and upbeat, but that's who you are. I imagine some of the other ladies in the shelter will benefit from knowing you and seeing how a classy lady operates. Certainly all of us here have been impressed with all you've contributed and all that you'll continue contributing.
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Wow, just love your description of me, now if I can just keep you from ever meeting me in person, LOL!! hugs for you too Josiah;)

Glinda said:
Denise, I'm sorry things did not work out with your sister. I think you'll find you have more strength and courage than you realize. You certainly don't need to apologize for anything so don't even go there. Just remember, we're all here for you any time you need to talk or vent. Just hang in there and try to look at the bright side - like you always do. We'll be sending our positive thoughts your way, Denise.
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I don't know about brave, but I think this is going to be a very, positive experience. I don't believe things happen at random or fate, I think they are to teach me something about me mostly;) thank you and big hugs Glinda, Denise

I'LL BE BACK!! LOL!!!

 
You've got such a great spirit in the midst of all of this Denise! What a wonderful example of determination and bravery! I would hope that if I ever find myself in that sort of situation, that I will remember what you are teaching me here today! Thinking of you always dear.
 
Denise, I find your bravery and positivity inspiring. I am privileged to have met such a classy lady. Good luck, (Bonne chance), in all your endeavours, you always have us to help see you through the tough times. Big hugs from a little Canuck.
 
Denise, as others have said you've got the right attitude and you'll get through this just fine. You'll probably become best friends with the other ladies there by the time you get into your own home. :)
 
nwlady said:
Will get some time here and there online, so happy to see your messages, all of you:) You are right April, and I can remember many times looking down on others. But not since I had something wonderful happen to me, I turned up down and out;) hugs, and thank you so much;) I already have met most of the girls. I was kind of surprised that 9 out of 10, and that about all there is, are my age. There's a little gal, so cute, and she wears tight legging jeans, and she can. But what tickles me is she wears these little slides with feathers or fur, and squash heals. The floor space is huge, and she clic, clic clics, even at 5 a.m., LOL! I didn't feel any anger at all. Just such a variety of folks. More later, hugs for you, denise

I will Jim, I'm going to have some stories. One is, if we may think shelters are full of scarey, peeps, we should go to McDonalds on a Saturday morning!! LOL!! Hey, I got my discount coffee though;) I'll be having that at the mission most of the time, need to save my dough. But I had to get up and out to store my last load in storage, hugs for you too Jim:) and thank you, Denise



Wow, just love your description of me, now if I can just keep you from ever meeting me in person, LOL!! hugs for you too Josiah;)



I don't know about brave, but I think this is going to be a very, positive experience. I don't believe things happen at random or fate, I think they are to teach me something about me mostly;) thank you and big hugs Glinda, Denise

I'LL BE BACK!! LOL!!!

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That a girl!!! :coolpics::praying: I will keep lifting you up friend!
 
Denise, I admire you for your honesty. There are many on this forum that understand where you are. I can honestly say, that I do not know what the future holds for me. Hold your head up high. I feel this is going to be a good move for you. There is no need to beat yourself up. You have paid in the system. So go forth, woman, and be proud of who you are. I am glad you are getting out on your own. I think that toxic situation you were in, was bringing you down. Feel free to write me privately if you need to.
 
I'm sorry to hear this Denise. Please keep us up on how things are going for you. One of my sons, who found himself in a bad situation for awhile, always told me "I just look at my feet mom and I know I'm where I'm suppose to be." I bet there are people there you are helping without even realizing it. Maybe by your attitude and smile. One of my grandson's lived in a homeless shelter for awhile. Once for a break he climbed on top of the city library and spent the night there. :( He told me a lot about homeless people and homeless shelters. He's doing great now and that's all behind him. I usually carry a few loose dollars in my pockets to give to people I come across on the streets who look like they need it. It's getting a little harder now because there are so many con artists out there. I just use my intuition and my heart and it usually works out OK.
 
I am so sorry to hear of your position, I wish you well in this new path your life has taken, from my experience of change, with a positive attitude like yours they turn out for the better.

Lots of hugs, take care and as others have said stay in touch.
 
Denise, if you should happen to read this and wish to reply, OK, but I am just wondering what your sister thinks of all of this? I mean, after I read your story and then most of the posts, it occurred to me that if it were me being responsible for my sister leaving my home where I had invited her into to stay, I can't explain it exactly, but I would feel at least partly responsible and would try to talk it out. I can't see where anything would be gained, if I acted so poorly that my sister felt compelled to leave. I guess we (my sister and I) grew up in a different type of home. We were a very close family. My Dad was career Army, so he taught us to be loyal to one another.

Your sister certainly must have some feelings with this.
 
Denise said she'd get to the library for free internet use sometime. Hope she does so soon, I'm anxious to hear how she is doing. She did say a majority of the women there were around her age, so I'd think that would make them all connect in some way and look after each other.
 
I have a sister to whom I have not spoken in fifteen years. She belongs to a religious cult which denigrates almost everyone, and is a very angry venomous person. I would infinitely prefer living in a homeless shelter to residing with her. Sad, but true, she is the most toxic individual I have known in many years.
 
Shalimar said:
I have a sister to whom I have not spoken in fifteen years. She belongs to a religious cult which denigrates almost everyone, and is a very angry venomous person. I would infinitely prefer living in a homeless shelter to residing with her. Sad, but true, she is the most toxic individual I have known in many years.
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How awful. There seems to be a lot of people on here who haven't spoken to siblings in decades. I guess I'm lucky, all 4 of us get along even with our differences.
 

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