My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"

The man next door is probably a bit younger than I, but he calls me "young lady". I think it's cute.

Yesterday getting gas I had to go inside first due to the pump having a problem with credit cards. The lady said "Have a great day, Mama", as we said goodbye. So cute.

I tend to call young people Honey or Sweetheart as a way of showing affection when I'm thanking them for their help.
 
Many years ago, I was getting some petrol into my car, then I proceeded to check my water and engine oil, then checked the air in my tyres. The owner of the garage came over to me and said, "You are the first "chick" I have ever seen who has done all that to their car". I said," I always do it, because I'm the only one I trust ". But being called a "Chick" put a smile on my face because I would have been all of 60 + He made my day.
 
It used to be quite common in the Canadian Maritimes for waitresses to call you "dear" no matter how old you were. I liked it, and my wife took those endearments for granted! I still like it if someone calls me "dear!"

The nurse at my doctor's office calls me that and she is far from condescending! I don't think "age," even though that might make kindhearted, younger people call you dear or sweetie, but my heart is strangely warmed nevertheless! My Son-in-law holds my arm as we walk, even though I feel steady enough! I like it, other old timers might feel insulted that anyone would doubt their capabilities!

I find that being ignored by the younger crowd is far more prevalent and hurtful!
 
hollydolly said:
this is the River Mimram where I live...pic taken in late Autumn /winter

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“The River God” (1950) is haunting, dreamlike, strange and open to interpretation. “The River God” may symbolise Death, Nature, the relationship between men and women, especially possessiveness. The poem was inspired by the River Mimram in Hertfordshire (AQA).
 

My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"​


Neither is mine, it's Tim, well, there is also a catalogue of other rude names a certain lady over the road calls me, but, she only calls me those names when she in a good mood. 😊
 
LOL>.why would I want that book ?... I've lived here for nigh on 50 years, I could write that book...incidentally the product info states that the Mimram ends at Horns Hill.. that's not the right name...
 
It makes no difference to me unless it is meant to be condescending or the person saying it is an uncouth disgusting animal, hahaha!

Working on male dominated jobs most of my working years, plus growing up a single child on a high mountain ranch with the closest neighbors having three boys (I refer to as my fake brothers), I have heard it all.

Now, at 72, I think my favorite is from the guys that were on my underground mining crew back in 1980-82, "The Boss Babe."
Probably my least favorite is, "Honey Buns or Sweet Cheeks." My reply was always, "How do you know they are sweet as honey? You haven't even kissed them yet."

Another woman calling me "darling" as she holds her long cigarette, makes me smile. I pity her living in such an entitled fairy tale world.

Honey, hun, hon, baby, babe, girl, lady, love, sweetheart, sweetie, darling, old woman, young woman, chick, chickadee, etc., doesn't bother me one way or the other unless as I already said, it is done so in a condescending or degrading way.

AHEM AHEM, I do take offense to a certain disparaging feline wildlife name! Such has cured me of referring to young hunks, in Speedos, with their muscular bodies as Beefcakes, etc.

I have special names for old condescending guys that think they are clever using names to try and impress old women with their masculinity. Old Fart, Old Billy Goat, Old Buzzard Puke, and the list goes on and gets unprintable hahaha!
 
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LOL>.why would I want that book ?... I've lived here for nigh on 50 years, I could write that book...incidentally the product info states that the Mimram ends at Horns Hill.. that's not the right name...
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Dream on and I will give an opinion when I have read it. To enhance your knowledge of the River, or a small wet stream as one person described it, it does of course contain small Trout and Grayling as chalk streams often do. Grayling are often called "The Lady of The Stream" and have a long and attractive dorsal fin. Some say they smell of cucumber, but that is doubtful. While minor, your stream is still important due to the rarity of chalk streams, some 80% being in England.
My river is the Arun and Arundel my town sits on its banks, more majestic and very tidal through most of its length. The River Avon, my name, once the finest is now on the decline like all English rivers, due to the pollution of man.
 
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Dream on and I will give an opinion when I have read it. To enhance your knowledge of the River, or a small wet stream as one person described it, it does of course contain small Trout and Grayling as chalk streams often do. Grayling are often called "The Lady of The Stream" and have a long and attractive dorsal fin. Some say they smell of cucumber, but that is doubtful. While minor, your stream is still important due to the rarity of chalk streams, some 80% being in England.
My river is the Arun and Arundel my town sits on its banks, more majestic and very tidal through most of its length. The River Avon, my name, once the finest is now on the decline like all English rivers, due to the pollution of man.
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Dream On ? :unsure:


We have caught Rainbow trout in the Mimram in the past, I don't think there's any in there now ...but yes the Chalk stream... and the horrebndous chalk we have in our drinking water.. as well..highest in the country
 
hollydolly said:
Dream On ? :unsure:


We have caught Rainbow trout in the Mimram in the past, I don't think there's any in there now ...but yes the Chalk stream... and the horrebndous chalk we have in our drinking water.. as well..highest in the country
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Of course there are.
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Dream On ? :unsure:


We have caught Rainbow trout in the Mimram in the past, I don't think there's any in there now ...but yes the Chalk stream... and the horrebndous chalk we have in our drinking water.. as well..highest in the country
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Don't knock it
hollydolly said:
Dream On ? :unsure:


We have caught Rainbow trout in the Mimram in the past, I don't think there's any in there now ...but yes the Chalk stream... and the horrebndous chalk we have in our drinking water.. as well..highest in the country
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Don't knock what is a rare blessing.

Chalk occurs all over the world in the Anglo-Parisian basin, running from Flamborough Head in Yorkshire to the coast of Dorset, and across the channel into Normandy in northern France. Some chalk occurs in the great Cretaceous deposits of Russia, and in Kansas, Iowa, Nebraska, Texas and S. Dakota in the United States. Hard white chalk occurs in Ireland in Antrim, and on the opposite shore of Scotland in Mull and Morven. There is chalk in Australia and Israel.

But it is only in England and Normandy that massive chalk deposits and a temperate climate have coincided to give us chalk-streams as we know them: a globally unique ecosystem.

The reason is subtle, but crucial: only in this Anglo-Parisian basin is the chalk close enough to the surface to create the kinds of rivers we know as chalk streams.

There might well be chalk across great swathes of Ukraine, for example, but it is buried deep under peri-glacial drift or younger layers of sand, mud and clay. In England and France, the chalk layers deposited in shallow seas during that Cretaceous epoch have been lifted to the surface and polished clean by glaciers, but they have not been worn away. It is this clean but intact chalk downland and our rain-swept landscape and temperate climate that gives us chalk streams as we know them.
 
Gee, what's the big deal? Lots of ladies call folks, "Love" in the UK and it seems no one runs home for their guns. Seems to me too many folks are upset over such small things as pronouns. It could be a lot worse. You might be called "stupid" or "ugly" or other things that I cannot print here without being deleted.

If you want to worry about real problems, worry about global warming or Putin's War on The Ukraine.

Don't sweat the small stuff!
 
I use lots of terms of endearment to those I know (mostly some unusual mock up of their names).
Shopkeepers or even folk in street I natter with (male or female), I find myself calling them 'duck', 'flower', 'petal' or whatever springs to mind. I can't use 'luv' - it feels alien.
When younger, I remember using 'doll' or 'sweetie pie' :oops:

Every year when phoning round for bldg insurance/car ins quotes and it's a bloke at the other end I still call 'em 'flower' or 'petal' - only after wondering if I've insulted them or it's not 'PC' (or whatever the terminology is these days) to say those to a bloke.
But do I care? Nope :sneaky:
 

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