My name isn't "dear", "dearie" or "hon"

Leann said:
I don't get rankled easily but lately I've noticed that young women have started calling me "dear", "dearie" or "hon". Case in point, I was paying for some groceries last week and as the cashier was giving me my change, she said "thanks, dear". Later the same day I had a similar instance where another person called me "hon". I realize I'm not a young chick but I must be an old hen to these younger people. I don't mind if someone calls me "ma'am" but the other names ... no. It sounds insulting to me.

Have you encountered anything similar?
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Yes, not wishing to appear a grouch, but I really dislike endearments from people who don't really care about me. OTOH, I call my favorite niece hon, and she loves that because she knows that I mean it. When I lived in the south, I understood that respect was meant when someone called me 'Miss Garnetsilver,' but I preferred being called Mrs. In my generation you addressed married women with 'Mrs.'
 
I call my husband … dear :)…

Ive never been called dear apart from a letter/ even emails … where most addressed us as Dear Such n such
now days its Hi …or Cheers …or just the name
 
My wife calls me Rocky.

I usually say Mamm to the strangest ladies and
"Aren't we a couple of smart guys" to the friendly gents.

Today at the gas mart, I carry some holiday cheer up to the counter, the Chick says,
"You just reminded me of it" and goes and gets some tall ones.

Merry Xmas we say together ! Hope you all had a merry Xmas too.
 
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Inept said:
If your first name is Such n such I can't even imagine what your surname might be. :unsure: Downunderee? Aw yeah!
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Yeah wot a stupid name to give a poor innocent child …..when I was born:ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO: …… @Inept

Yep so ya Got my name correct…with one exception. …my last name in Dunnddie …. .,ya no..much the same as Crocodile Dundee.
 
Kadee said:
Yeah wot a stupid name to give a poor innocent child …..when I was born:ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO: ……
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It might be in honour of some long passed family member from Scotland, that'd be right.
Kadee said:
Yep so ya Got my name correct…with one exception. …my last name in Dunnddie …. .,ya no..much the same as Crocodile Dundee.
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I figured as much but I was trying to protect your anonymity being as this is a discussion forum with all sorts of strangers on board. :love:
 
I have had several guys, college ages, asking if they can call me "mom." D'no what's behind all that, but I told them I preferred not to be called that.
 
SamiD said:
I don't care about most endearing singular names. I do take objection to Honey Buns or Sugar Pie. Adding the second word seems to add an unwanted element. I don't mind Ma'am at all. Girl, Chickee, or such is also fine with me if by other females.
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My daughter turns 42 in less than two weeks. I have called her Sugar Pie and Sugar Pie, Honey Bunch since the moment she was born. Of course, her name rhymes with pie so that justifies it. I also confess it was inspired by this song:


She still loves both the endearment and the song. (Though, sigh, she has changed the name.) It has caused a song I've liked since I was a little girl to mean all that much more to both of us. We hear the song, we just smile and look at each other.

Yes, that's a specific term of endearment for a very loved one but I am a Northerner aka Native New Yorker (albeit upstate) and have always used hon, dear, sweetie, etc. I do not over-react to words. Tone that is hostile or condescending is met with like but with all the truly awful things that go on in the world, why overreact to a word - a nice word at that. I mean these are nice, flattering adjectives.

As for the b-word, I am the first one to call myself that. I am a NY B and proud of it. This is my theme song:


Even tho I'm a teetotaller so I sure don't spend my evenings with that past time! I am, however, stone cold sober, as a matter of fact. But call me B any time. Especially these days when my grandson's generation uses that word to refer to young ladies. I'm fine with being made to feel younger even though I fear I cannot live up to that image.

Have a good day, hon.
 
Blaze Duskdreamer said:
My daughter turns 42 in less than two weeks. I have called her Sugar Pie and Sugar Pie, Honey Bunch since the moment she was born. Of course, her name rhymes with pie so that justifies it. I also confess it was inspired by this song:


She still loves both the endearment and the song. (Though, sigh, she has changed the name.) It has caused a song I've liked since I was a little girl to mean all that much more to both of us. We hear the song, we just smile and look at each other.

Yes, that's a specific term of endearment for a very loved one but I am a Northerner aka Native New Yorker (albeit upstate) and have always used hon, dear, sweetie, etc. I do not over-react to words. Tone that is hostile or condescending is met with like but with all the truly awful things that go on in the world, why overreact to a word - a nice word at that. I mean these are nice, flattering adjectives.

As for the b-word, I am the first one to call myself that. I am a NY B and proud of it. This is my theme song:


Even tho I'm a teetotaller so I sure don't spend my evenings with that past time! I am, however, stone cold sober, as a matter of fact. But call me B any time. Especially these days when my grandson's generation uses that word to refer to young ladies. I'm fine with being made to feel younger even though I fear I cannot live up to that image.

Have a good day, hon.
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Can't help myself, no matter how hard I try. Doin' the skate. I can still do it.
 
When I first started wintering in FL,
I noticed that many of the female servers would call me,
Hun, Sweetie, Dear, Etc.
I started returning with "Sweetheart".
I kinda liked it,
They didn't seem to mind,
or at least didn't say so.

When I'd return to WI for the summer,
the habit followed me.
Once at lunch with my Brother,
I addressed the waitress as "Sweetheart".
When she left the the table,
my Brother was agast.
"You called her, Sweetheart?!"

I'm a generous tipper and will often say,
"Sweetheart, this is for you." when I hand her the tip.
Haven't heard a complaint yet.

I think a lot has to do with how you say it,
when you say it,
and not to overdo it.
 
I was at a fast food service and the lady was handing out a bag of food and said, "Here you go sweetie." I said thank you and she said, "Not you, him" pointing to the man behind me. They say sweetie to everyone, I guess.
 

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