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SifuPhil

R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
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It's been a tough few weeks here up in Wilkes-Barre.

Tigger, my roomie's dog, passed away a few weeks ago. Now roomie is in for a heart catheterization on Monday, open heart surgery on Wednesday to be followed by leg artery surgery sometime in the following weeks.

Add to that - this morning at 1:00am Snagglepuss, her cat, laid down on the kitchen floor and started making strange mewlings. Having been a cat owner many times I recognized the sound - he was dying. I sat with him until just a little while ago when he passed.

*sigh* life can be cruel sometimes.
 

Oh good god Phil, what a heartbreaking worrying time you're having at home :( I don't know what to say mate...How very tragic for your room-mate to lose her animals just before facing serious surgery...sometimes life can be so cruel ((((hugs)))) to you both, and please God that everything goes smoothly with her surgery.
 
Thanks, Holly ... now I just played "Funeral for a Friend" and I'm sitting here crying. What a big jerk I am.

Like I've been saying for the past 10 years or so, "No kids, no pets, no plants". Life is SO much easier when you cut yourself off from everyone and everything.
 

No Phil, hurting is an attribute of being alive. The pain allows us to know the opposite side of the coin which is joy without taking it for granted.
Cry away all you want but don't shut down emotionally. You have a good heart because it is a heart that loves.

Hugs, my friend :bighug:
 
Don't beat yourself up about getting emotional Phil, all of us regardless of how strong we think we are, can only take so much at any one time, and you've got it piled on at the moment .

I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself because I can barely walk after an accident 10 days ago..but it's nothing compared to how you're feeling, so just let all that emotion go lovely man..and hope for the best for the future.. :love_heart:
 
Meh - I know death is part of life but I'm tired of dealing with it, and I'm usually the one to deal with it. Maybe that's where I get my morbid sense of humor.

I'm a Taoist and a martial artist - I'm supposed to be trained NOT to be emotional. I wonder if that training fades with age, or if all the damned meds I'm on are doing it - I know they make me nauseous everyday now since I started taking them.

Hope you get back up and hopping, Holly, and Dame, I still think life would have been better as Mr. Spock, even without Pon-Far. ;)
 
SifuPhil said:
Meh - I know death is part of life but I'm tired of dealing with it, and I'm usually the one to deal with it. Maybe that's where I get my morbid sense of humor.
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I understand what you're saying, Phil. I think it does seem to wear you down after a while. I'm sorry you are feeling down.
 
I understand how much it hurts, Phil. When my beloved cat died last year I vowed never to go through that again and my world was bleak. Time eventually healed me. It takes a lot of courage and strength to let yourself feel the sadness and grief. Eventually you will feel better. That is how it is to live on this planet and be human. Take care of yourself.
 
Sorry to hear such sad news, Phil.:( May better days be ahead!:)
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Dame Warrigal said:
No Phil, hurting is an attribute of being alive. The pain allows us to know the opposite side of the coin which is joy without taking it for granted.
Cry away all you want but don't shut down emotionally. You have a good heart because it is a heart that loves.
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As always, Warri has the perfect words, and I totally agree with her. Having a heart that loves is really the essence of what life is all about.
It is always so hard when we lose a pet that we love (often more than we love other people); but they live on in our hearts and our dreams.

I add my hugs and prayers to everyone else's , for you and for your roomie as well. That sounds like a lot of operations one right after the other....
HFL
 
Phil, I'm very sorry to hear all you and your roommate have been going through healthwise, I wish the best for her during her heart surgery. Sympathy to both of you for the loss of Tigger and Snagglepuss...so sad...hugs. :(
 
Big hugs, Phil. Having a big heart is never easy, tears and grief HURT! But shutting down the pain means shutting out the warmth of our own and other's humanity. That is a form of emotional suicide, and belittles who we are. So much crap for you to deal with all at once must be overwhelming. You have friends here who love you just as you are, warped sense of humour, thinly disguised sensitivity/humanity and all. We are here for you. Pain has it's own timetable, I hope yours eases soon.
 
SifuPhil said:
Like I've been saying for the past 10 years or so, "No kids, no pets, no plants". Life is SO much easier when you cut yourself off from everyone and everything.
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But you don't know that because you've never done that. Right? You have too big of a heart to let go of your life's purpose and to let go of helping others like your roommate. All of us need to feel needed. You are needed. So while it's hard, it's also rewarding and gives your life meaning. It's okay, kids, pets, and plants are stressful (though most of those 3 give back more than we give them)…But it's not okay to cut yourself off from everyone and every everything. You're just going through a really hard time right now and need to rant…understandable.

Soon you'll be remembering these thoughts:

"Don't confuse your path with your destination. Just because it's stormy now doesn't mean that you aren't headed for sunshine."
"Life isn't about waiting for the rain to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain."…I've observed you being good at that here on SF:)
 
I hear you Phil. My sympathy for your plight. I cry often. God I miss my life! If I haven't cried for a few days, I look at a special picture of my gal with our six month old first born. That always sets me off. If I stop crying for too long, it means I'm forgetting, and that terrifies me. The memories are worth the tears.
 
Lara said:
But you don't know that because you've never done that. Right?
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Well ... I don't get to speak to my kids, at least my youngest, and my eldest is down in Georgia in grad school, I have a blue thumb when it comes to plants and now once again I am without animal companionship.

Three for three.

"Don't confuse your path with your destination. Just because it's stormy now doesn't mean that you aren't headed for sunshine."
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No, it means the Susquehanna will probably flood again. :playful:

"Life isn't about waiting for the rain to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain."…I've observed you being good at that here on SF:)
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I don't mind dancing in the rain; just that my shorts bind up after a while.



Thank you.
 
Underock1 said:
I hear you Phil. My sympathy for your plight. I cry often. God I miss my life! If I haven't cried for a few days, I look at a special picture of my gal with our six month old first born. That always sets me off. If I stop crying for too long, it means I'm forgetting, and that terrifies me. The memories are worth the tears.
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I'm just not used to "wimping out" (as I call it) - I'm from the School of Men Who Don't Cry. Yeah, I know that has been poo-pooed by modern culture but my heroes have always been more John Wayne than Alan Alda. Yes, I had a happy upbringing but a series of family deaths when I was a pre-teen kind of put the kibosh on crying - I just ran out of tears, I guess - and the martial arts taught me to pony-on through pain.

"The memories are worth the tears" ... that's something I'll have to investigate. Thanks.
 
Ahhh, John Wayne, "We're gonna take that hill"...Well, it's a new day and I'm glad to see your sense of humor is still in tact Phil…..that's your fuel that will get you through this :)
 
Lara said:
Well, it's a new day and I'm glad to see your sense of humor is still in tact Phil…..that's your fuel that will get you through this :)
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That's pretty much all I have left, Lara - the body and looks have disappeared and I sold my last Gomer Pyle collectable ...

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Roomie is back from the hospital, after a veritable comedy of errors.

First, her cardiac record had been MIXED UP WITH SOMEONE ELSE'S! Yes, the doctors in the first hospital she was going to had somehow mixed up her test results with another person's.

Luckily she went for the catheterization and subsequent open-heart work to a second hospital with different doctors, who discovered the mix-up.

As a result, she did NOT need the heart surgery. The first hospital had told her she had 3 blockages of 30%, 40% and 70% - turns out she has ONE minor one.

So, she ended up having a stent placed in her affected leg and she's scheduled for home rehab. Much better results.
 
OH fantastic news, I was only wondering this morning how she was getting along, what a huge relief all round. ...but dear God getting her cardiac results mixed up with someone else...jeezus...sounds like you have a health service like ours!! :mad:
 
Unfortunately I think you're right. :(

I guess that's why they say to always get a second opinion ...
 

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