@GeorgiaXplant, I get where you're going with this and completely agree that I tend to not show a lot of empathy or patience when it comes to people's
long-term "stuckness" - including my own.
As it happens, I'm not much a "there-there" kind of person. I'm more a "since you've described a problem for which you're requesting assistance, this is where you might want to invest some effort and due diligence to solve your situation so you can move on from it."
We all have our own ways of looking at life and addressing our issues. Our styles run the gamut on this forum.
On my bulletin board is an an edited portion of the Bene Gesserit litany from Frank Herbert's
Dune:
"I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past, where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
It helps me remember that I am bigger than my fears. Surrendering to them paralyzes me, preventing me from constructive action.