Scared, Landlord Selling Building, Will Have To Move

Catlady said:
How did you know she put you on ignore? I BET I'm on ignore, too. Going off to look.
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I doubt many are on ignore. People who like to play the "Poor Pitiful Pearl Card" need as big an audience as possible.
 

Marie5656 said:
My Social Work background gives me a sense of empathy, as is my nature. BUT, there have been times in recent years where I have had to turn to real life problems, those of others and my own and say "Suck it up Buttercup" and work on fixing the problem.
This past year has been Hell for me, and yes, I have wanted to whine and complain . But I was given a wake up call and told that I would not be helped unless I made a move to help myself.
Have I had issues over the past few months? Absolutely. Have I worked to solve them all....well, I tried. But I just am not sitting back and say that 2020 can only get better. Right? But only if I work to make it better.
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Many times since April, I've been in awe at how you've coped marie.. I'm a mentally strong person myself, life turned me that way.. but you're an inspiration ☺
 
Gary O' said:
I don't, but, after several non-replies to direct questions, one surmises
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Well, she hasn't replied to the question about when she filed for bankruptcy asked by MANY posters. And she would not reply to me about her daughter living in El Paso. I remember her saying she tried to discourage her from moving and said she would not be able to afford to visit them.
 
Gary O' said:
Well, after a couple years of my 'WTF??' questioning, she did manage to find the wherewithal to put me on ignore
So, she can do some things

Nutshell;

Some folks get on with it
.....some get off on it

I believe she is of the latter
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Yep, grief is also something you don't "handle"...it comes in waves, and learning how to let those wave wash over you and keep on keeping on is what its about.
 
gennie said:
People who chose to be victims will always be one.
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Wow! I completely agree that as members we don’t want to support negative behaviour. It turns us into enablers which serves nothing however to mock & shame this woman by calling her troll and that she’s a victim and won’t ever change is so unbelievably unfair.

Deteriorating health includes the psyche , mental health as well as physical. We don’t know the details of this but I don’t think these last few dozen posts are helpful. We don’t know why she does this repetitive behaviour but please stop labelling this women negatively. 🥺
 
Keesha said:
Wow! I completely agree that as members we don’t want to support negative behaviour. It turns us into enablers which serves nothing however to mock & shame this woman by calling her troll and that she’s a victim and won’t ever change is so unbelievably unfair.

Deteriorating health includes the psyche , mental health as well as physical. We don’t know the details of this but I don’t think these last few dozen posts are helpful. We don’t know why she does this repetitive behaviour but please stop labelling this women negatively. 🥺
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I agree.

I participated in and became frustrated by several of Patnono's threads until I finally realized it's not my circus, not my monkeys.

Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is move on to the next thread and leave the OP in peace.
 
Aunt Bea said:
I agree. I participated in and became frustrated by several of Patnono's threads until I finally realized it's not my circus, not my monkeys. Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is move on to the next thread and leave the OP in peace.
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I wish I were as wise as you, Bea. I seem to have a tendency to want to beat dead horses ( but they don't suffer pain, I would never beat live horses, LOL).
 
Aunt Bea said:
Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is move on to the next thread and leave the OP in peace.
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Exactly. If you haven't anything pleasant or encouraging to say, do as your mothers taught you: say nothing. Speculate from now till the cows comes home; maybe OP is a troll. More likely she's elderly, broke, and scared. Not all of us are blessed with plenty of financial resources, nearby family, or family in a position to help. Some of us are just one financial disaster away from living in the streets. Y'all don't make it any easier on her and should be ashamed of yourselves for piling on.
 
This has really been working on me. Some of the posters are downright mean. Cruel. Not to mention smug, self-satisfied, and self-righteous. How nice for you that you have no worries, no health problems, are financially independent, families that you can count on and who live nearby, and mobile. Yanno what? It can happen to you.

You believe that Patnono is a troll? Maybe so. I would rather err on the side of compassion than condemn because it can't be true. That kind of stuff doesn't happen to people like us. Right?
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
This has really been working on me. Some of the posters are downright mean. Cruel. Not to mention smug, self-satisfied, and self-righteous. How nice for you that you have no worries, no health problems, are financially independent, families that you can count on and who live nearby, and mobile. Yanno what? It can happen to you.

You believe that Patnono is a troll? Maybe so. I would rather err on the side of compassion than condemn because it can't be true. That kind of stuff doesn't happen to people like us. Right?
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Actually, it doesn't happen to many of us, because we get off the pity bus at the next stop and take action.
If you have read many of PatNono's threads, they have a common theme. This has been going on for 2 years or so. I don't think people are mean at all; just tired of repeating the same advice that gets ignored each time. One of her first posts here was about wanting to move out of the same place she's still in... two years later.

She also has posted that she has SS benefits and a pension/IRA so I don't believe she is destitute... but who knows. Personally, I don't think she actually wants any advice; she just likes to complain.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
If you haven't anything pleasant or encouraging to say, do as your mothers taught you: say nothing. Speculate from now till the cows comes home; maybe OP is a troll. More likely she's elderly, broke, and scared. Not all of us are blessed with plenty of financial resources, nearby family, or family in a position to help. Some of us are just one financial disaster away from living in the streets. Y'all don't make it any easier on her and should be ashamed of yourselves for piling on.
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Georgia, I personally applaud yer thought pattern.
And I think yer pretty right on.
I'll do my best to ignore Patnono from here on.

Hell, I had to deal the nono types for decades in the work place
They'd come into my office, shut the door, and moan about alllllll their ills and maladies.
Mostly about how their fellow workers treated them.
It was all I could do to control my urges (reach across the desk and strangle the living shit outa them)
There's plenty of nonos on this planet
and SF has a few
Gratifying as it is, I'll take yer advice, and refrain

As far as walking in someone else's shoes, we've all got them shoes.
Some, however, prefer to just sit while wearing 'em.
...and show them off.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
This has really been working on me. Some of the posters are downright mean. Cruel. Not to mention smug, self-satisfied, and self-righteous. How nice for you that you have no worries, no health problems, are financially independent, families that you can count on and who live nearby, and mobile. Yanno what? It can happen to you.

You believe that Patnono is a troll? Maybe so. I would rather err on the side of compassion than condemn because it can't be true. That kind of stuff doesn't happen to people like us. Right?
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If you feel THAT strongly about all this, put your money where your mouth is. Ask the ''will-be-homeless'' person to move in with you, then you can solve her problem and she can solve yours. She's almost homeless and you feel lonely and isolated from your family across the hall. Problems solved!
 
Catlady said:
If you feel THAT strongly about all this, put your money where your mouth is. Ask the ''will-be-homeless'' person to move in with you, then you can solve her problem and she can solve yours. She's almost homeless and you feel lonely and isolated from your family across the hall. Problems solved!
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My point is the cruelty displayed by so many. There is simply no need.
 
Catlady said:
If you feel THAT strongly about all this, put your money where your mouth is. Ask the ''will-be-homeless'' person to move in with you, then you can solve her problem and she can solve yours. She's almost homeless and you feel lonely and isolated from your family across the hall. Problems solved!
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How absurd and totally defensive, meaning Georgia has a different outlook from you so you rush to the jugular. It's beneath you.

Another poster, whose name I will not mention, has said in a brief moment of honesty in the recent past that s(he) is never empathetic as s(he) has no real problems and can't relate to those who do. Just wait, poster, life has a way of catching up. Maybe you'll be charmed to the end, I don't know.

There's no logical reason to call the OP names. Leave her be before you do. It's better for everyone.
 

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