Separate bedrooms.

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pleinmont

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For the last 20 years or so, my husband and I have had separate bedrooms, which suits us well. He snores, and I am a very restless sleeper who tosses and turns most of the night. I like a single bed and my own space, as does he nowadays.

Do other posters and their partners have separate bedrooms?
 

Yup.... he snores like a train, it's not possible for anyone to sleep when he's asleep in the same room, also I've retired now and he still works full time so he has to be up at 5am ...so he sleeps in one bedroom

and I sleep 2 rooms away... I have a queen size bed... ,,but even given that we have brick walls between the rooms I still have to wear earplugs to block his snoring
 
Same bed. When one of us is sick we move to the family room couches so we're still in the same room but not breathing directly on one another.

The only time we've slept in separate rooms but the same house was when DH got norovirus. I moved out of the bedroom immediately and for a week I treated him, his laundry, his dishes, and all surfaces in the home like I was battling Ebola.

I didn't get sick, BTW.
 
My wife and I sleep in same bed, same room.

But, I had a friend, a very close friend that was diagnosed with bone cancer. To illustrate how close we were, he called me on the way home from the Oncologist’s office after he was given the diagnosis and prognosis of 6 months-1 year to live. Stage 4, 0 chance of survival, so he took the short route of denying any medications. About a week after his diagnosis, he had a hospital bed brought into his house, along with his O2 generator. At his request, they set the bed up in front of the window in his living room, so that he could look out and watch the world go by. Another Trooper and myself removed the furniture from their living room and stored it off site in a climate controlled building. Hospice also visited him everyday.

It was the saddest thing that I ever witnessed in my life. I would stop by his home everyday for the 7 months that he survived. The only medication that he received was for pain. I gave the eulogy at his service. (He was cremated.) His wife was unable to sleep when he no longer slept in their bed, so she bought a day bed and slept in the living room with him. They called it their matrimonial dormitory. A few times while visiting, I would also fall asleep while we were watching a ball game on TV. They had a few chairs in the room and 1 of them was a very comfortable Lazy Boy recliner.
 
We sleep in the same bed....(Only when hubby came home from his surgery) he went into the other bedroom...The Nurse's came
every other day for 2 weeks...So It was comfortable for him to sleep alone....That was the only time hubby stayed in another bed in
our 54 years....
 
Me and my Hubby still sleep in the same bed, since we married 53yrs ago. Some nights are great but because of his restless leg syndrome other nights are bad because he keeps kicking me with his jumping legs. We have another bedroom with twin beds so we could use that room, but I rather we sleep together.
 
pleinmont said:
Do other posters and their partners have separate bedrooms?
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If one of us is ill, we will separate especially if one of us is coughing, sneezing, being noisy kind of thing. It's very easy to separate in the same room. You simply get a frame large enough for two mattresses and have separate mattresses. We've done that our whole married life. We have different mattress types to suit us.
 
We sleep in the same bed and have for 40 years. We tried the separate rooms route when he started snoring so bad I couldn't get any sleep. I moved into another bedroom. He found out I was serious about him getting a cpap machine. After a few weeks of neither one of us getting any sleep, he went to the sleep clinic. That night I moved back in and have been in there ever since. He started using it for me 💓 but after awhile he used it for himself. He really does get a better night's sleep using it.

You have to pick your battles. 🛌
 
Have only slept in separate rooms three times in our 20 years together. But, will sometimes sleep in different beds in a motel/hotel room.
My hip replacement, when she slept upstairs in our bed and I slept downstairs on the couch. Couldn't make it up the stairs, so. Rotator cuff surgery. I slept in a recliner, downstairs and she was upstairs. We bought a set of plug-in intercoms. One by the couch and recliner and other by the bed upstairs. We'd say "goodnight, love you" every night while I slept downstairs.
Another rotator cuff surgery, but different living place. I slept in recliner in living room, right outside our bedroom. Kept bedroom door open so we could say the same "goodnight, love you" each night.

IOW, we don't sleep in different rooms or different beds unless it's a surgery that requires that or, sometimes, when we stay at a motel/hotel. Always same room at motel/hotel, but different beds.

No "boy" or "girl" day or night out either. We go out, it's always together.
 
One room, one bed for us. I'd prefer two rooms because sometimes I have asthma attacks in the night and worry that I'm disturbing his sleep. We're talking about renovating the house and maybe moving me to another ensuite bedroom.
 
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Linda said:
We share a king size bed with 2 small dogs at the foot. Although some mornings we wake up and Minnie Mouse is snuggled up by John's neck with her little head on one of his shoulders.
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It is bad enough sleeping with the human animal, I would detest sleeping with one of another species, YUCK! :eek:
 
Separate bedrooms as well. She snores terribly, and has bladder issues so is up several times during the night, which interrupts my sleep that often can't be returned to. Whatever works for a couple is what's right for them...
 

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