Sometime before i pass on

From time to time, I have been hugely attracted to a man based on his appearance. I grew up at the very end of the free love generation. I had fun, no regrets. Superficiality had it’s own rewards. My criteria for a relationship did not necessarily match my criteria for a night, or many nights of passion.
 

What is important to me in a man is intelligence, attractiveness that doesn't have to be really apparent at first, kindness, sensitivity, love of animals, lots of fun to be with.
 
I'm rather surprised that male singers have not been mentioned very much.
In 1964, I saw the Beatles live in New Orleans and tens of thousands of crying, screaming girls rushed the stage. Later in my life I heard many women talk about their frenzy over Elvis, several of whom admitted to throwing their panties at him.
 
Can't see the attraction of fame myself but for some I am sure it is an aphrodisiac. Teenage girls just love screaming hysterically IMO and the actual focus is pretty much immaterial at any particular time. Boy bands come and go and are assembled to tap into this kind of hysterical adulation. Some of them may have talent but it's fame that is the attraction.

I'm not sure you'll find many grown women on this forum who are still stuck in that developmental stage although there will be some nostalgia for the days of youth and the idols of that time.
 
Oh, of course. I certainly don't expect full grown women on this site, or any other, to still be stuck in that kind of youthful stage. However, I thought that many would remember those days and might like to share their thoughts.
 
Just off the top of my head, I had a crush on Don Grady from My Three Sons, Paul Peterson of The Donna Reed Show, and Johnny Crawford of The Rifleman. I was in love with Gordon Waller of Peter & Gordon and John Walker of the Walker Brothers (just to name a few). I never went crazy over any of them. I liked the early songs of The Beatles. I liked a lot of the British Groups--remember them from on the radio in the early sixties living in Belgium when you could hear them from Pirate stations in the channel.
 
While this thread is supposed to be about how women feel, I'd like to share that even an old man like me can still get worked up over Cher.
Especially her last concert tour: Cher: The Farewell Tour. (on DVD). Smokin Hot !
 
Traveler said:
While this thread is supposed to be about how women feel, I'd like to share that even an old man like me can still get worked up over Cher.
Especially her last concert tour: Cher: The Farewell Tour. (on DVD). Smokin Hot !
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And she is 70 years old, too! :)
 
OK Traveler, you might gain some insight into this revelation.

This image captures my attention and causes me to keep looking.



Mostly it is the clear blue eyes and the strong jaw line and underneath that jacket is a very manly chest that is definitely worth a bit of a perv. However, he is not real. He is a fantasy and IRL the actor could be totally narcissistic and no use to womankind.

A real relationship needs to unfold slowly. There may be instant attraction but when that happens it is often for the wrong reasons and can lead to regret further down the track.
 
You keep asking as if all women think the same way. Different women will have different thoughts on the matter.

I don't care who brings in the biggest pay cheque but I wouldn't want someone who squandered the family income on gambling or irresponsible spending on indulgent hobbies. Nor would I want someone who used money to control me. I'd rather live in a tent with a drover.
 
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I guess all I can go by is what attracted me to my husband. Very handsome. He was bigger than me. I was 5'2 and all of 98 lbs. I felt safe in his arms. He was practical but if he gave gifts they were good quality and romantic because of how well thought out they were.
He was responsible and had goals which he has mostly met. I admire that.
He was very sexual but not sexist. He had no problem with you perusing any task but he did expect you to research and do it right. In other words don't mess up the car engine then bat your baby blues- it won't work. He certainly would have no problem with me making more money. It would make him proud.
I grew up in the north, he grew up in the south but he felt like family. I knew he'd be a good father.
He is Taurus the bull. I'm cancer the crab. Picture them together. Yes, that's how it is. Snap, snap, snap the claws, bull rears back nervously, finally roars and charges. Crab runs into hole until bull forgets.
The main thing is I knew he loved me as much as I loved him. I'd never want someone who didn't.

He is not dead. Lol. I'm looking back to the first attraction.
For physical "instant" attraction I always love the Latin looks. Dark hair and eyes. Middle Eastern too.
My husband is light and blue eyed. Handsome and familiar.
 
jujube said:
The actor Javier Bardem.......I love homely/handsome men. He can eat crackers on my pillow ANY time.
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OMG jujube, I just saw Javier Bardem for the first time a couple of nights ago in the movie EAT PRAY LOVE with Julia Roberts. The fact that he played such a faithful and romantic character (what every woman wants) just added to his handsome appearance.
 
I think that way because you keep referring to us in a generic way.

What role does being a good provider play in women's attraction to men ?
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The phraseology implies a universal answer. Perhaps if you were to write something like this?

"Ladies, can you tell me how much weight you place on a partner being a good provider?"

I will try in future not to react to your writing style and I will assume that you are expecting a multitude of answers. I will happily give you mine.
 
Just throwing this out there...........Dr. Phil say's...

According to Dr. Phil, if men want to be successful in their marriage and family life, they have to change and broaden their definition of what it means to be successful as a man. Being a good provider, protector, leader and teacher is a privilege that comes with responsibilities that many men aren’t aware of.

[h=5]A Provider[/h]Most men believe that being a good provider means supporting a family financially. It means much more than that. A man should also contribute to the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well-being of his family. In order to do this, he must recognize that there are other currencies, in addition to money, that need to be provided.

[h=5]A Protector[/h]This doesn’t mean beating up the guy next door if he insults your wife. It means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as your children’s. It can also mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that you and your family value.

[h=5]A Leader[/h]Instead of waiting for your wife to take the initiative when you are having problems, take the lead. Get in the game and create what you want in your family instead of whining about your family situation. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership. It’s a 100/100 partnership. That means you give 100 percent. And remember, you get what you give.

[h=5]A Teacher[/h]What are you teaching those around you — especially your children — with your behavior? It’s important to provide a good example for your children, loved ones and community with both words and deeds. Set high standards and teach by doing.
 

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