This pretty much sums up how I feel at this point in my life

Leann

Leann

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I saw this today in Instagram and it sums up how I feel at this point in my life:

"I can't afford anymore situations in my life that bring out the worst in me. It's exhausting and requires too much for me to recover from.
I need calmness and gentleness in my life.
I don't have the capacity for anything outside of that.
This is my soft and tender era"

There has been a lot of tumult in my life so I welcome and embrace a soft and tender era. How about you?
 

I have this feeling that we are not over the ruff era yet. I try not to dwell on negative outcomes. Trying to stay positive at this age and increasing pain is a full time occupation. I am not sure if it will settle down in my lifetime. BUT, I am finding ways to stay positive and participate with others and things like. My Dad once told me, "Buddy, it is no fun getting old".
 

Leann said:
I saw this today in Instagram and it sums up how I feel at this point in my life:

"I can't afford anymore situations in my life that bring out the worst in me. It's exhausting and requires too much for me to recover from.
I need calmness and gentleness in my life.
I don't have the capacity for anything outside of that.
This is my soft and tender era"

There has been a lot of tumult in my life so I welcome and embrace a soft and tender era. How about you?
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Oh My Goodness, that's so spooky I was just thinking pretty much exactly that of my own life.. just yesterday.. wow!! Leann , I hope we both get it.. 🧡🥂
 
@Leann, The gentleness and tenderness is within YOU!
We're not riding the waves anymore with the hurricane
above, whipping the waters around.
the top of the ocean.
We're below, in the deep, calm sea.
We're soft now. Soft and gentle.
No matter what happens in our outer world,
we have this inner strength to fall back on.
It's not that we can't deal with it anymore.
It's: We don't need it. We don't want it.
 
For sure! I quite the "rat race" years ago because if you win the race you are still just a rat! I have also left the consumer rat race of "Keeping up with the Joneses." Just buy healthy things to eat and not much else! Life is better on the slow lane and we all live longer if we leave the rats behind.
 
Leann said:
I saw this today in Instagram and it sums up how I feel at this point in my life:

"I can't afford anymore situations in my life that bring out the worst in me. It's exhausting and requires too much for me to recover from.
I need calmness and gentleness in my life.
I don't have the capacity for anything outside of that.
This is my soft and tender era"

There has been a lot of tumult in my life so I welcome and embrace a soft and tender era. How about you?
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Yes, all of this is me. Also I'll add: "the yard work can wait until...next season...whenever that may be"
 
I spent my life as type A personality measuring my days by accomplishments, no one thought I would be able to handle retirement.

When I stopped working it was like a switch flipped in my head, suddenly I was relaxed and stress free. I still keep busy and like accomplishment but now can simply walk away and plan to finish the task tomorrow....or maybe the day after.lol

Such a pleasant way to live.
 
Gaer said:
@Leann, The gentleness and tenderness is within YOU!
We're not riding the waves anymore with the hurricane
above, whipping the waters around.
the top of the ocean.
We're below, in the deep, calm sea.
We're soft now. Soft and gentle.
No matter what happens in our outer world,
we have this inner strength to fall back on.
It's not that we can't deal with it anymore.
It's: We don't need it. We don't want it.
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Oh @Gaer , I'm saving this. So perfectly stated. Thank you!
 
Packerjohn said:
For sure! I quite the "rat race" years ago because if you win the race you are still just a rat! I have also left the consumer rat race of "Keeping up with the Joneses." Just buy healthy things to eat and not much else! Life is better on the slow lane and we all live longer if we leave the rats behind.
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@Packerjohn I think you have life figured out. You travel where you heart takes you, you have your priorities in order and you know what is important. You'll live a long life, I'm sure!
 
C50 said:
I spent my life as type A personality measuring my days by accomplishments, no one thought I would be able to handle retirement.

When I stopped working it was like a switch flipped in my head, suddenly I was relaxed and stress free. I still keep busy and like accomplishment but now can simply walk away and plan to finish the task tomorrow....or maybe the day after.lol

Such a pleasant way to live.
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I love this @C50. Congratulations!
 
I’m OLD,and my generation has met and worked through many problems: other spurts of disease, wars, recessions, re-casting expectations regarding sex and race. With determination, imagination, hard work, patience. I’m all for ease, patience, hard work.

But the thing that worries me most about one effect of the PD, is that so many people seem to b trying to Profit off it! I feel that every where I turn someone is trying to steal or hold back from me. Gas, groceries, rent, utilities, professional services.Invoking the Legend of the Broken Supply Chain to justify it.
Any sense of Basic Trust outside my own family is gone. And I really would liked to still have that in old age.
 
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I feel ya Leann. I think that by the time we're seniors, we all need that gentle calm in our lives. I remember a couple of years before my husband died (about 6 years ago), I realized that being at peace was the most important thing to me at that point, even if it meant I had to be a bit "selfish" at times. I hope your life from here on out is filled with soft, tender moments.
 
For the last few years of her life, my mom decided that she wasn't going to let the unpleasantries of the outside world into her life. No TV, no radio, no newspapers.

She said that if there was anything she *needed* to know, we girls would tell her.

She was the happiest person you'd ever want to know. I think that's how she made it to 95, mind and body intact. She had a very active social life but pretty much just heard what she wanted to hear.
 
Lewkat said:
While I long for peace and quiet in my life and have achieved much of it, I still fight like a demon when I become aware of some of the injustices I see in this world. Even more so than before, as much of it is caused by sheer ignorance and stupidity.
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I celebrate people like you. Too much stupidity is simply accepted these days. Soon the outrageous becomes the norm. You give me hope.
 

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