We don’t mind if you smoke (well, yes we do)

Bobw235 said:
Interestingly, my dad was a smoker when I was young. Thankfully he gave it up years ago. But here's what he threatened me with should I be caught smoking when I was a boy. I'd have to smoke an entire pack of these nasty Italian cigars that my friend's father smoked. I knew how bad those things were. My father said he'd make me smoke them until I was green, and then if I still wanted to puff cigarettes, I was more than welcome. I never felt inclined to take him up on the offer. :D
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My father did exactly that with my sister, he found her smoking in the street when she was 15 and made her smoke 10 cigarettes one after the other until she had literally turned green,. After she vomited for Britain he then packed his pipe full of strong tobacco and pepper and made her smoke that as well...she was sick as a dog!!


Did it put her off smoking?...not a chance, she smokes roll up tobacco to this day...
 

Yes, I agree 100%, I have a close relative that is PASSIVE AGRESSIVE, and they are hell to be around,to say the least. Telling me one thing, and telling others something else. Right on Tnt, and AC!! I know I got off-track on the discussion, apologies AC, Denise
 
My dad smoked all his life and towards the end, so heavily that after he passed away at the age of 82, his entire house smelled so bad we had to open up all the windows and doors just to be able to stay and clean up. The linens, clothes, all the furniture and drapes stank so bad it was sickening. It's a horrible and deadly habit.
 
I remember being in the airport at Lexington, Kentucky a fer years back. I was somewhat amused when, after looking at large NO SMOKING IN THE AIRPORT signs, I saw that there were ashtrays on every single table throughout.
 
applecruncher said:
I no longer smoke, and I don’t know many people who do. However, I find people’s dishonesty about this subject to be annoying, at best.

Case in point:

I was talking yesterday to someone who is a smoker. Not a heavy smoker, but still a smoker. She had just returned from visiting friends in another state. They are non-smokers. Prior to going, she said “I still smoke. If that’s a problem, just say so and I won’t bring cigarettes or I can smoke outside.” ….or something to that effect. They said “Oh no problem. We have ashtrays in the house.”

When she arrived, guess what? Whenever she smoked, she says they coughed, rubbed their eyes, waved the smoke away, etc. One night after dinner she said the wife (who she has known longer) said “Let’s go to (coffee shop). You can bring your cigarettes and smoke out on the patio there.”

So now they were trying to ration her cigarettes. :rolleyes: This would REALLY tick me off. :mad:

For the remainder of the visit, she smoked very little, and when she did she went outside.

Why these people have ashtrays in their home is beyond me. :confused: It was obvious they don’t like smoking, and that’s fine. What I don’t like is the lying…….once she got there they changed the rules. When she asked about it prior to coming, they should have said “We prefer you not smoke in the house, but outside is okay.” Or, if they didn't want smoking on the property, they should have said so and she could have taken a walk if she wanted to smoke.

After getting back she sent an email telling wife about her disappointment with regard to them not being honest and trying to control her behavior with regard to smoking. It did not go over well. What a mess. And so unnecessary!

Thoughts?
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Maybe the ashtrays are there because they know their 'friend' is rude and wouldn't be able to think it through herself and they are uncomfortable with being confrontational and were hoping to just grit their teeth and endure and then realized that they couldn't so they suggested the coffee shop. I doubt seriously that they were trying to 'ration' her cigarettes at all.

When I smoked many years ago, I would never have smoked in the home of a non-smoker.
 
hollydolly said:
Blimey that's a bit harsh not allowing anyone to sleep in your home even if they smoked outside grumpy, surely they would wash their hands after smoking and then have a shower before bed...?...but your house your rules of course..!!
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People who smoke, smell of it. It's in their clothes, their hair.....and some even stink. I hate standing in a line up behind smokers. Yuch.
 
There was a woman who was a heavy smoker in my workplace and although she didn't smoke inside of course, the whole area around her desk and quite an expanse beyond it stank of her and her clothing, to the point where her co-workers complained to management. I'm not sure if anything changed, but I'm glad I didn't work close to her.
 
I am smoke free now 5 months and 7 days. I don't mind if someone smokes a few cigs in my house; I open a window, put on the bathroom exhaust fan then spray Febreeze after they leave.

Since my place is on the small side, if more than 2 smokers it would get to me and then I would ask them to go outside.
 
Congratulations RadishRose, I've heard getting off cigarettes is one of the hardest things to do. It can have a hold on you like heroin. You should be proud of yourself. I would think being around a smoker would be very hard for you.
 
Congrats RR! Wishing you continued success as a smoke free person. I quit smoking so many times before it finally 'took'. But the last time was at least 30 years ago so it's possible and you're on the right road. Good for you.
 
RadishRose said:
Thanks my friends. I know this is off topic, but I can't count, I quit 3/23/15, so it's over 6 months. Your encouragement means alot! More than you know.
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You were right the first time, RR. 5 months, 8 days. (9/23 will be 6 months).

Anyway....Congrats! :)

(my 1 yr anniv is tomorrow 9/1)
 
Does anyone have those "Thank you for not smoking" cards or signs in your home or lknow someone who does? One of my relatives does and a friend used to but removed them.

About 10 yrs before I quit, I left my cigarettes at home; never took them when visiting or going out.

In the story in my opening post, since it was an out-of state trip, I think I would have just smoked outside, taken a walk, etc. The “oh, no problem, we have ashtrays, we don’t mind” was BS – and it usually is.

People who don’t smoke do not want people smoking in their homes.
 
applecruncher said:
I no longer smoke, and I don’t know many people who do. However, I find people’s dishonesty about this subject to be annoying, at best.

Case in point:

I was talking yesterday to someone who is a smoker. Not a heavy smoker, but still a smoker. She had just returned from visiting friends in another state. They are non-smokers. Prior to going, she said “I still smoke. If that’s a problem, just say so and I won’t bring cigarettes or I can smoke outside.” ….or something to that effect. They said “Oh no problem. We have ashtrays in the house.”

When she arrived, guess what? Whenever she smoked, she says they coughed, rubbed their eyes, waved the smoke away, etc. One night after dinner she said the wife (who she has known longer) said “Let’s go to (coffee shop). You can bring your cigarettes and smoke out on the patio there.”

So now they were trying to ration her cigarettes. :rolleyes: This would REALLY tick me off. :mad:

For the remainder of the visit, she smoked very little, and when she did she went outside.

Why these people have ashtrays in their home is beyond me. :confused: It was obvious they don’t like smoking, and that’s fine. What I don’t like is the lying…….once she got there they changed the rules. When she asked about it prior to coming, they should have said “We prefer you not smoke in the house, but outside is okay.” Or, if they didn't want smoking on the property, they should have said so and she could have taken a walk if she wanted to smoke.

After getting back she sent an email telling wife about her disappointment with regard to them not being honest and trying to control her behavior with regard to smoking. It did not go over well. What a mess. And so unnecessary!

Thoughts?
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I just happened to notice this post. I agree with your viewpoint; some additional comments from my own experiences:
- individuals who 'don't like' cigarette smoke shouldn't claim to be 'allergic' if they aren't;
- I think it's beyond offensive for someone to say they don't want you in their house, car, etc., because even if you're not smoking the odor is still on you- no different from saying they don't like your perfume or your perspiration is bad;
- as a smoker, I still have manners- I don't light up in nonsmokers' homes, wherever people are eating, or even at bus stops where people aren't smoking.
 
My relatives and I recently celebrated my 81st birthday at a classy Seafood Restaurant.

Of the nine of us, three eventually had to have a smoke, so they left the establishment and went outside to burn one.

How come the remaining six of us didn't have to do that?

It's because we're not a slave to the coffin nail!

I would like to see smoking outlawed within the city limits, even outdoors!

I smoked for 21 years and had the stuff to quit Chily Chicken, 40 years ago. The other three know the practice sucks, but they just don't have the stuff to quit!

HDH
 
HiDesertHal said:
I would like to see smoking outlawed within the city limits, even outdoors!
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Me too. I hate the smell of cigarette smoke. Pipes and cigars aren't quite as bad. People who smoke stink. Their sweat stinks, their hair stinks, their clothes stink, their houses stink, and their cars stink. I guess they don't notice it because they get accustomed to the stink, but non smokers sure as Hell do. I hate it when people go right outside the door of a building and stand there smoking. Then when I go in or out, or past the door I have to hold my breath and pretend like I'm swimming underwater to get through the stink area. If people need to take a smoke break at work they should be required to go around back and take it next to the dumpster, keeping one hand in contact with the dumpster at all times while they are smoking.
 
Some of the nicest people I know are smokers. Don't think it's a total coincidence. They (obviously) tend to be interested in other things, besides their own health.
 
My sister smokes and I keep a crystal ash tray outside on the patio for her when she smokes. When I visit her I have to wash my clothes several times. I try to bring clothes I don't care about. I bring one really good outfit to eat out with them and have it cleaned after visiting.
 

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