There was a brilliantly constructed advert, or trailer for a show, lasting about thirty seconds only, where a couple meet for the first time to have a meal in a restaurant, and they go from telling one another how gorgeous they think the other is, to proposing marriage, to deciding how many kids they should have, then it suddenly turns around and they're splitting up again and arguing about who keeps what, as they storm off from the table, having not even had the starter!
It's been shown many times, and I think the tag line was something about "some things are uncertain in life, but then there is this credit card that won't let you down", (or whatever the product, or message was about, tv licences perhaps?).
It contained a real grain of truth though, because if you could really uncover what each party to a marriage was about, what they really believed, as far as how much they put their own interests first, and what they mean when they say they love someone, or if they mean it at all, you'd be a long way forward and yet it would be a painful process for both parties perhaps(?).
I remember too, a tv documentary about the attitudes of two young tribespeople in Africa about to be married, or just married. There was some kind of dispute between them, and certainly the man believed he must not be the one to back down and start speaking to his new wife again, or this would undermine their relationship, or set the tone for the rest of the marriage. My late father told me his dad and mum split after a very few weeks of marriage, maybe because of my grandfathers quick temper, but he waited the week or so until my grandmother returned too, so wouldn't give in, but welcomed her back and revered her thereafter.
A long way from considering the importance or otherwise of infidelity all this, but that is my point (if I have one), there was no infidelity in my grandfathers marriage, nor anything close to it, once they'd come to understand and appreciate one another.
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