What's the best way to get a man to like you at age 53

[Aunt Marg]

Is there a full moon tonight?

Posted on wrong thread! ROFLMAO!

 

[grahamg]

I once knew a lady who seemed to have a good insight into the way men dealt with rejection, and the breakdown of a relationship, compared to women, (I think she was an American called Georgina, or born there, but had lived in the UK for many years).

She said women were more likely to confide in their friends their feeling after the breakup, and seek support that way, so were often better able to come through it, than the men who didn't seem to have that outlet, or "the need to be macho, or look that way, meant they felt uneasy about revealing their hurt."

So she thought it took longer for men to start the process of recovering, perhaps over a year, I think she said, (funnily enough other women in the group of singles took a dislike to this woman, but I thought she was basically okay, - not sure if that's relevant though?).

My point therefore is the woman in the OP may be finding men hard to connect with to some extent because so many are "once bitten, twice shy" !

 

[Lakeland living]

When you meet a man who appeals to you just say hello and give a little smile, if he's one you'd be interested in. Just be yourself as I'm sure you have many fine qualities.

Hello works just fine up this way. I will side with Ruthanne on this one.

 

[Gary O']

I wonder what percentage of marrieds that lose a spouse aft 20-25 years of marriage have the desire to remarry.

Good question, fm
I wouldn't
For me, after having the best, for over 51 years, it just wouldn't be fair, to either party
No
But, from time to time, I WOULD frolic
Oh yeaaaah

 

[Aunt Bea]

Time to start training for Sadie Hawkins Day Friday, November 13, 2020.

 

[Lakeland living]

Good question, fm
I wouldn't
For me, after having the best, for over 51 years, it just wouldn't be fair, to either party
No
But, from time to time, I WOULD frolic
Oh yeaaaah

Two on the frolic. Things still being human and so on.

 

[dobielvr]

Need more info;

The reason I request this, is
I've got this friend
He lost his wife a couple years ago
Hungarian fellow
Pretty well mannered
But a little rough
He lives in an off grid cabin in southern Oregon

Anyway, he's not on the prowl or anything, but he'd 'like to have some contact with something soft......soon'
Guess bears and cougars ain't cuttin' it

What region of this planet do you call home?

He's willing to travel

Do you cook?

Do you have pictures?
.......of yer cookware?

How old is he?
Asking for a friend lol

 

[Lakeland living]

OH NO!! A friend asking for a friend....RUN!!!!

 

[fmdog44]

About 10 years after my dad lost my mother he remarried and never said he loved his new wife. He often said she was "a good wife." He summed it up sadly with a Christmas present one year that I visited them. It was $500 cash. I sank when I saw her open it. He and I shopped for a gift for here but he never bought anything but I never thought he would do that.

 

[Phoenix]

One of the things to do is to start up miscellaneous conversations with people in the grocery store or waiting in line, being careful to maintain social distancing. This would be a good place to practice. You could start out with whomever happens to be there and say something about how much candy bars cost these days or some such nonsense thing. My dad could start up a conversation about fishing or hunting with whomever happened to be around, even if they weren't into fishing or hunting.

If I was alone and was looking for companionship I'd volunteer at an animal shelter or and old folks home. In the old folks home people come in to visit their parents. Since you are 53, you might meet someone's kid who is perfect. This part should probably wait until after the vaccine is available.

 

[Pepper]

About 10 years after my dad lost my mother he remarried and never said he loved his new wife. He often said she was "a good wife." He summed it up sadly with a Christmas present one year that I visited them. It was $500 cash. I sank when I saw her open it. He and I shopped for a gift for here but he never bought anything but I never thought he would do that.

I don't understand your story. Please, what was wrong about gifting her money - $500?

 

[Phoenix]

I don't understand your story. Please, what was wrong about gifting her money - $500?

Money isn't personal. It can be nice to know someone selected a gift just for you. Now, if she'd been wanting something and didn't have the money to buy it, then getting the money is okay, but it would be better if he knew what it was and got it for her. It depends on the person.

 

[hellomimi]

When a man asks me, "What are you looking for in a man?

Me: I'm looking for one who talks/acts like his everyday self that I can observe and decide if we're a good match.

 

[hellomimi]

Need more info;

The reason I request this, is
I've got this friend
He lost his wife a couple years ago
Hungarian fellow
Pretty well mannered
But a little rough
He lives in an off grid cabin in southern Oregon

Anyway, he's not on the prowl or anything, but he'd 'like to have some contact with something soft......soon'
Guess bears and cougars ain't cuttin' it

What region of this planet do you call home?

He's willing to travel

Do you cook?

Do you have pictures?
.......of yer cookware?

Got his picture? How old is he?
Yes, I got current pics, will be 3 scores in 5 months. No joke.

Asking for myself...LMAO

 

[Knight]

I ask because I'm losing it my husband died 13 years ago and ever since I haven't seen a man talk to me
why?

You aren't locked up in an all female prison are you? That could account for you asking Why?

 

[Gary O']

Got his picture? How old is he?
Yes, I got current pics, will be 3 scores in 5 months. No joke.

Asking for myself...LMAO

Well, he made me swear not to post his pic anywhere, but that's back when he wasn't looking for companionship.

Soooooooooo;

Heeeeere's Alex!

 

[hellomimi]

Oh me, oh My! For whatever reasons, I was hoping he'd be a clean shaven gentleman. Maybe he'll be somebody else's type.

Next time you know @Gary O'

 

[Gary O']

Got his picture? How old is he?

He's three score and three

Here's the inside of his trapper's cabin;







Quite the guy
plain and simple
No BS

I consider him a friend


Ain't much, but, as he says, he 'don't need much'
Cooks up one helluva goulash on his tiny wood stove

 

[Gary O']

Oh me, oh My! For whatever reasons, I was hoping he'd be a clean shaven gentleman.

Not too many of those living out that way.

 

[Phoenix]

Oh me, oh My! For whatever reasons, I was hoping he'd be a clean shaven gentleman. Maybe he'll be somebody else's type.

Next time you know @Gary O'

Beards don't give you whisker burn. They are good things.

He's three score and three

Here's the inside of his trapper's cabin;

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Quite the guy
plain and simple
No BS

I consider him a friend


Ain't much, but, as he says, he 'don't need much'
Cooks up one helluva goulash on his tiny wood stove

I'm sure there's a lady out there perfect for him.

 

[Gary O']

I'm sure there's a lady out there perfect for him.

Oh, he's got one he's getting acquainted with, but, since he's a friend, I thought I'd show him off

 

[Gary O']

Beards don't give you whisker burn. They are good things.

Yes

yes they are


Never had a complaint in that dept

 

[hellomimi]

Beards don't give you whisker burn. They are good things.

I know, it's just that I'm drawn to men who are tall (everyone's taller tha me..hehe) and lanky like Josh Lucas

 

[win231]

This thread reminds me of another Trooper who lost his wife to cancer. He was maybe 50 y/o. Whenever he would meet a woman and get to talking for awhile, they eventually would get around to what they did for a living.

He came to work one day and told us that he met a very beautiful woman that was built nice and dressed nice. When he told her that he was a State Trooper, she laughed at him. He asked her why was she laughing. She said to him, “Do you know how many times that I have heard that line? It seems that every man that I meet is either a state cop, FBI agent, CIA agent or an astronaut.”

Who would admit to being a state cop?

I've chatted with a few women who are turned on by a man in uniform.

 

[hellomimi]

I think the best way you will meet somebody to hang out with, become friends, and maybe more one day down the road... But as someone says, start hanging out the places you like... See a guy who may be interesting... go and start up a conversation... YOU just might meet someone you like... Basically the same thing YOU did when YOU were 20... But may have to try a little harder nowadays...

Yes, meeting people pre covid was challenging enough but now, even most meet-up groups have moved to virtual get together.

However, there's still that chance, though slim, that two lonely people will meet and bond. Falling in love is exhilarating at any age