What's the best way to get a man to like you at age 53

Reading posts of SF men considered regulars here, I can sense those who are married love and respect their wives which makes them HVM in my book. They're the kind of men I can, and will, respect knowing they value and know women's worth in their lives.
 

hellomimi said:
Men attracted to doormats are most likely LVM (low value men). High value men seek their equals, they don't control nor want to be controlled.

Women who know their worth shouldn't fall for men looking for 'slaves'. We teach people how to treat us (and vice versa) so let's make ourselves respectable and valuable to be treated right.

IMO, of course.
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Yup, I take full responsibility for my poor choice in men. But I was answering the question.
 
win231 said:
"39 police officers in the U.S. have been killed so far this year?" That pales in comparison to the number of non police officers killed so far this year. A police officer has one of the safest jobs in the world. In fact, statistically, a store clerk has a much-riskier job.

In 2013, out of approximately 900,000 sworn officers, just 100 died from a job-related injury. That's about 11.1 per 100,000, or a rate of 0.01%.

Policing doesn't even make it into the top 10 most dangerous American professions. Logging has a fatality rate 11 times higher, at 127.8 per 100,000. Fishing: 117 per 100,000. Pilot/flight engineer: 53.4 per 100,000. It's twice as dangerous to be a truck driver as a cop—at 22.1 per 100,000.

Exaggeration is impressive.......to the ignorant.
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The operative word is "killed." Logging, fishing and truck driving are certainly more dangerous than police work. But is anybody walking up and shooting loggers, fishermen or truck drivers? There is a special type of menace in that kind of near-random homicide.
 

hellomimi said:
Reading posts of SF men considered regulars here, I can sense those who are married love and respect their wives which makes them HVM in my book. They're the kind of men I can, and will, respect knowing they value and know women's worth in their lives.
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Hmm, I am not as sure as you. I have learned to be very suspicious of men and their motives. I don’t personally know any of the men on here. And very few of their partners post as well. I reserve judgement on how anyone is, in their marriage.

I had a married friend. Her husband was great, knew them for 40 years before they moved away. Salt of the earth guy, would do anything for a neighbor, never heard them fight. She was a very critical disapproving up in your business judgmental person. She would call the police or social services on you without batting an eye. But I liked her, loved him as did everyone.

One day she showed me the bruises. One day she told me the dent in the water heater was from him banging their son’s head against it. One day she asked me what to do. They were married in the LDS church when she was 19. They are still married and now in their 70’s.

I had no advice for her. I am married in the Catholic Church, still married. I had no clue to how he was in the marriage. 😢 @hellomimi I make no judgement on people’s marriage.
 
JimBob1952 said:
The operative word is "killed." Logging, fishing and truck driving are certainly more dangerous than police work. But is anybody walking up and shooting loggers, fishermen or truck drivers? There is a special type of menace in that kind of near-random homicide.
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Actually, yes.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Hmm, I am not as sure as you. I have learned to be very suspicious of men and their motives. I don’t personally know any of the men on here. And very few of their partners post as well. @hellomimi I make no judgement on people’s marriage.
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Unless the men who boasts how much they value their wives have Dr Jekyll n Mr Hyde personalities, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt they're being truthful. I can't blame you for being suspicious of men and their motives based on your experiences.

I'd like to think my future is shaped by my thoughts now, so I'll lean on the positives.
 
911 said:
They need to pick a different uniform. It seems that in today's society, most police uniforms have a target on the back. At last count, I read that 39 police officers in the U.S. have been feloniously killed so far this year.
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I really admire you 911 for being a Police Officer. Everytime you go to work you are putting your life in danger. I admire Firemen all so. I had a good friend that was a Police officer and thankfully he did well. My other good friend was a Firemen and sadly died fighting a fire. You should be extremely proud of putting your life on line to save others.
 
Sassycakes said:
I really admire you 911 for being a Police Officer. Everytime you go to work you are putting your life in danger. I admire Firemen all so. I had a good friend that was a Police officer and thankfully he did well. My other good friend was a Firemen and sadly died fighting a fire. You should be extremely proud of putting your life on line to save others.
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It should be remembered that this is not a thread about the police, but I'll compound things by this more nuanced comment. Police I've encountered over a family matter have been very fair by and large, and I do feel the police should be admired generally. However my late father once lost his temper when stopped for some traffic offence, told the officer he should be spending his time catching thieves etc., and privately he used to say "they were not all straight"!
Back to considering why its so hard to find a good man these days, (or even an average man, or passable woman I'd say :whistle::)!).
 
We are living through a time of turmoil on so many fronts. At least this way we can more readily see who people are and avoid the ones who need to climb back under rocks.
 
win231 said:
"39 police officers in the U.S. have been killed so far this year?" That pales in comparison to the number of non police officers killed so far this year. A police officer has one of the safest jobs in the world. In fact, statistically, a store clerk has a much-riskier job.

In 2013, out of approximately 900,000 sworn officers, just 100 died from a job-related injury. That's about 11.1 per 100,000, or a rate of 0.01%.

Policing doesn't even make it into the top 10 most dangerous American professions. Logging has a fatality rate 11 times higher, at 127.8 per 100,000. Fishing: 117 per 100,000. Pilot/flight engineer: 53.4 per 100,000. It's twice as dangerous to be a truck driver as a cop—at 22.1 per 100,000.

Exaggeration is impressive.......to the ignorant.
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Nowhere in my post did I mention that policing was the most or even a dangerous job. I don't know how much time you spent looking up all of these stats, but you must have a lot of time on your hands. I wish that I had that much time to look up worthless statistics.

BTW, the line should have read, "At last count, I read that 0 police officers in the U.S. have been feloniously killed so far this year." No one should want to kill a police officer for no reason, even though I am sure that you will undoubtedly have some smartass comeback.
 
911 said:
Nowhere in my post did I mention that policing was the most or even a dangerous job. I don't know how much time you spent looking up all of these stats, but you must have a lot of time on your hands. I wish that I had that much time to look up worthless statistics.

BTW, the line should have read, "At last count, I read that 0 police officers in the U.S. have been feloniously killed so far this year." No one should want to kill a police officer for no reason, even though I am sure that you will undoubtedly have some smartass comeback.
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911 I totally support you. So many times when someone spouts statistics, they slant them in their favor. I'm afraid those who are attacking you could be doing the same thing. I've decided to ignore such individuals, once I realize what they are up to. You are welcome to join me in doing just that.
 
Phoenix said:
911 I totally support you. So many times when someone spouts statistics, they slant them in their favor. I'm afraid those who are attacking you could be doing the same thing. I've decided to ignore such individuals, once I realize what they are up to. You are welcome to join me in doing just that.
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911: I second that! I have a great respect for your judgements, your experiences and for law enforcement.

Ok, NOW Let's try to get back to the thread's purpose. My sincere apologies for helping taking this off track!
 
911 said:
Nowhere in my post did I mention that policing was the most or even a dangerous job. I don't know how much time you spent looking up all of these stats, but you must have a lot of time on your hands. I wish that I had that much time to look up worthless statistics.

BTW, the line should have read, "At last count, I read that 0 police officers in the U.S. have been feloniously killed so far this year." No one should want to kill a police officer for no reason, even though I am sure that you will undoubtedly have some smartass comeback.
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And no police officer should want to kill anyone for no reason, but that's not how things are.
Statistics that tell a truth you'd rather not acknowledge are often worthless.
 
I remember when my uncle died after a long-term illness, my aunt said that if she were to marry again the guy would have to provide a certificate of good health. She was 56 at the time. She's now 93 and still single.
 

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