Where does our preference for a significant other come from ?

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I have always wondered how it is that I came to fancy a "certain look" in girlfriends? And why I'm not the least interested in a different look that other men find very attractive ?
Take my friend for example. He found Salma Hayek extremely attractive, but she leaves me cold. On the other hand, the girls that I found attractive, left him cold.
Curious.
I sure would like to know how people come to fancy a certain type ?
 

It's an interesting subject....why are we all attracted to different types? There are many men who I can appreciate are good-looking and I can understand why other women like them. Yet they have no effect on me. Other men can set my heart racing with a certain way of smiling or the look in their eye.
There are also certain types of clothing or the way they are worn which get us going....some women like medallions, tattoos, dimples. We are all different.
 

I believe it is a gender neutral term that signifies another person's closest friend with whom they have a relationship with. But don't take my word for it.
 
I mave never been attracted to the normal standard of "beauty" or handsomeness" in a man as a partner. Have I admired a handsome man Yes. Which is different, in my opinion , as an attraction for a potential mate.
I found my hubby, Rick to be a good looking man, in my eyes...even though he was a big guy (hey, I am no runway model either).
I prefer real in appearance, rather than showy, or model perfect.
Here is us....my guy and me. Perfect, for each other, at least, Also helps to have a few shared interests...though perfectly shared is not needed. We had some different interests..I love to read and browse the internet. He was a sports and car fan. I aquired his taste in country music. Our TV/movie viewing were not always compatible, but we managed.

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When it comes to appearance not too selective here, the one trait I find most attractive in a woman is one who likes me.

Thinking back hair, eye or skin color has little to do with it. The one trait I could think of that has been somewhat consistent is the "ample", like @Gary O' , but even there its more just not too skinny. Even had a few exceptions to that one for ladies who liked me.
 
When I was younger I was drawn to tall men with light hair and eyes. Those were the types I tended to date.

Over the years looks became less and less important to me. After my divorce, when I started dating again, I realized that I had no particular physical preference. I was drawn to intelligence, positivity, humor and kindness.
 
Just think about what foods we like and dislike....this is a matter of taste...No? Maybe how we were brought up, and our genetic makeup would determine would kind of person we like also. Personally, I prefer Misa the most. Exotic, long brown hair, 5' 6", about 150 lbs. Nothing looks better for me.
 
When I first met my husband he told me he thought I was the best looking woman he'd ever seen. I thought that meant I was his type. It took me till after we were married to realize I was wrong. He was describing someone he had once dated -- ash blonde hair, ash blond skin, extremely skinny and flat. Then he said, 'You know, my type." and I realized all his ex-girl friends looked like that. I don't. I had long dark hair, very light skin, and although I was 5'6" 110 lbs I still had curves fore and aft. Suddenly I realized why he was always acting like I needed to lose a little weight. I also realized all his eight sisters looked like The Type.
 
Might of had something to do with me going to Panama with the Army when I was barely over 18 coupled with that I spent 7+ yrs. in the orient but strictly from an eye appeal standpoint I've always been drawn to the slightly petite brown skin gals......like Asian, Mexican, south American, Polynesian etc.
 
I read somewhere, a long time ago, that we are unconsciously attracted to people who remind us of our parents. "That dog don't hunt" in my case. My dad was Swedish (fair skinned) and when I was younger I was always attracted to Italian types. Now it doesn't seem to matter. A nice smile and pleasant personality seems to get my attention!
 
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My grandson is my type these days
 
Been There said:
I believe it is a gender neutral term that signifies another person's closest friend with whom they have a relationship with. But don't take my word for it.
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Do you mean the term 'significant other'? I think it's nothing to do with gender, but the fact that so many people choose not to marry these days. 'Partner' is another blanket term.
 
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