Worrying: Do You Relate?🥺😗🙃🥲😐🥴😏

I used to be a worrier but now that I’m older it’s mostly gone. I do have security issues because of some bad experiences when younger so I bought a condo in a secure building. I do check to make sure the door is locked before going to bed.
 

I was a worry wart for many many years, the anxiety was just awful. Then I got divorced and even though the kids stayed with me the cause of 49% of my worries was gone. Nine years later I stopped working, and there went another 49% of my worries.

So now I only worry 2% of the time, and that ain't nothing to worry about.
 
Ruthanne said:
Do you relate to worrying in any way? Or what are your thoughts on it?

I worry about my brother every day. He has MS and doesn't even want to talk about it much. He's told me he doesn't want to attribute everything to it and just knows he has to take a medicine 💊 to stay ok. I can accept that but worry he may be getting worse even though I have no grounds for that.

So, how do you relate to worrying?
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Yours worrying won't help. It's natural but futile.
Just let him know he can ask for help if he needs. Otherwise trust him to cope.

Having said that, I worry far too much too.
 
C50 said:
I was a worry wart for many many years, the anxiety was just awful. Then I got divorced and even though the kids stayed with me the cause of 49% of my worries was gone. Nine years later I stopped working, and there went another 49% of my worries.

So now I only worry 2% of the time, and that ain't nothing to worry about.
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I found similar. I used to get severe migraines. Then a certain person in my life left. I have had none since !

It really can be other vexatious people who selfishly inflict their problems onto those around them. We must learn to deflect that. If so called 'friends' are toxic, get rid. If toxic family, limit your contact.
 
Snow74 said:
I can’t honestly say I am a worrier, but, I remember too well…I replay instances in my life over and over no matter how hard I try to occupy my mind with more pleasant thoughts…I often think I should see a therapist to just air it all out the resentment, the I should have,etc….rather than have had it all cooped up inside and never having shared…my children are fine..friends are doing well..no worries just this morbid replaying!
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I do that.
I find reading and getting out walking and such distraction helps. It's a habit and can be broken.
 
I worry a lot, and I relate to everything everyone here has said. And I have IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) bc even when I'm not overtly worrying, the angst is there in my subconscious. Number one worrying topic is my disabled son, who TG has round the clock caregiving (thank you California!) It all sucks.
 
Worrying: Do You Relate?
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My happy-go-lucky outlook evaporated after the military. Then, when working in the jails & a prison being hyper-vigilant was not just a symptom, it was part of your job description. I'm pretty much past the hyper-vigilance now, having been retired/away from the working world for 26/8 years, but I still worry about the safety and security & health of my son,wife and dogs. Tax time and other financial matters make me tense, which I guess is a combination of fear-anger+the unknown.
 
No, I don’t. I figured out a long time ago it doesn’t do any good. I also learned that by taking an action to alleviate the worry, I made things worse. Of course, by not being worried, others interpret that as not caring. I do care, but the worry part isn’t helpful or productive. I put that part out of my mind.
 
I worry that some day I will understand & use either 'woke' or 'multiverse' or both in a sentence without knowing what the hell I just said. Look at it I just used them both, and still don't know what I'm talking about. I also worry about something I did or said as a child, young adult or a senior & wonder if I can ever go back & correct it because it was embarrassing. Although it could have been a 'woke' moment in a 'multiverse' world, then it won't matter.

Now I am worried, I almost understand what I said.
 
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Don't feel bad. I worry too. Sometimes it is hard to control. Too much news, too much screen time, too much ruminating. The other night I was worried about the rain. It was falling too hard and what if it doesn't stop and the creek nearby begins to rise. Honest to God, I couldn't get back to sleep and had to get up for a while.

It turned out to be a normal spring rain. My husband used to make up the worst scenarios, my mother did too. Add the Weather Channel and other news sources daily spewing catastrophes and there you have it. Sorry you are dealing with this too.
 
Ruthanne said:
Do you relate to worrying in any way? Or what are your thoughts on it?

I worry about my brother every day. He has MS and doesn't even want to talk about it much. He's told me he doesn't want to attribute everything to it and just knows he has to take a medicine 💊 to stay ok. I can accept that but worry he may be getting worse even though I have no grounds for that.

So, how do you relate to worrying?
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My son says I worry all time and if I don't have anything to worry about I will find something......I do not feel this is true.......when I really have something to worry about I tell myself that worrying will not change anything , do something if you can and if not let it be...........................
 
gilead said:
I worry that some day I will understand & use either 'woke' or 'multiverse' or both in a sentence without knowing what the hell I just said. Look at it I just used them both, and still don't know what I'm talking about. I also worry about something I did or said as a child, young adult or a senior & wonder if I can ever go back & correct it because it was embarrassing. Although it could have been a 'woke' moment in a 'multiverse' world, then it won't matter.

Now I am worried, I almost understand what I said.
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You made me smile and that is a good thing! Good way to start the day.
 
I was worried incessantly when one of my boys was deep into his drug addiction. 15 years of that and several years of weekly Naranon attendance, plus some therapy and antidepressants taught me that I have zero control over anyone but myself and that worrying will not change any outcome.

He finally began working a dedicated recovery, and has been clean now for many years, ending that source of worry for me.

Then my other son died, and I am again worrying incessantly, fearful that something will happen to another of my loved ones. When the impossible, the unimaginable has happened, it opens the door to the deeply unsettling realization that the worst CAN in fact happen, that the “it won’t happen to me or mine” mindset is sheer fallacy and that no one I care about is safe.

I don’t worry about whether or not I left the stove on, the rise is our property taxes or if I’ll continue to remain healthy. My worries now are extinction event concerns…who of my loved ones will be the next to die? If I don’t get a timely response to a text or there’s an unanswered phone call, if one of them is running late, if I hear about a wreck on the freeway, it’s so difficult to keep my panic under control.

When the worst has happened, one lives in constant worry and fear waiting for the other shoe to drop.
 

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