Would you make preparations for your own funeral?

Mr. Ed

Mr. Ed

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My dad did, he did it so he would have the last say in who and how the services would run. He chose an African American woman to pray because of the way she prayed, he chose the songs and music, it was a celebration of his life that I refused to participate in. He may have been narcistic…?
 

I know I should make arrangements. I'm an atheist so I don't want a church service. Plus, I don't like being embalmed, and, like a moose head, put on display for 3 days. And for some reason, I don't want to be buried. I figure sooner or later, they're going to build a parking lot over me; and I don't want somebody's crummy car leaking oil on me. So, I want to be cremated. I want my ashes dumped in my septic tank. If you knew all the grief I had to go through to get it, you'd understand.
 

Hmmmm... not sure.

I told my daughter not to spend loads of money when I die, and all I ask is that however she disposes of me, that she visits me regularly.. so if it's a grave visit regularly, if it;s ashes have them somewhere where she can say hi, often...

She says she'll have my ashes put into jewellery
 
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Cremations are already arranged and paid for, Get a keg or 2, fire up the grill and have a weekend long party. Don't mourn my passing, enjoy my life and memories of it.
On a side note I wound guess the county Emergency Services would probably do something.
 
My wishes are for my church to have an ice cream and cake party instead of a formal service- when I die.
They can pay for that out of my willed and largest final donation to my church.

I have been preparing for the last few years a file that holds all the important stuff my beneficiaries will need.
It gives me peace of mind.



I am an organ donor so I will be cremated.
 
My funeral is already paid for, with money left over for whatever extras that our children would want to arrange. I've not made any decision for my ashes. I'll leave that decision for our son and daughter. They may want a plaque somewhere for both of us, but I really don't care about such details. Because a funeral service is for the mourners, not the deceased, I will leave the words spoken and the style of the service to our son and daughter.

I do want a service in our local church and I will probably have some input into readings and music I will leave the words spoken and the style of the service to our family. I hope it will be a celebration of my life, not a lament for my passing.
 
We're going to make arrangements to be cremated(when ready) at a local mortuary. Once the ashes are delivered to [insert loved one] then they can do what they want.
 
Yes I have...

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hearlady said:
I would, just to spare my family from the task.
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Me too, why not?
We are all going to die so best to prepare and spare your family the task when they are in shock. I have written it with my will how I want my funeral. There are hymns I like and so on. Of course you can only prepare if you have notice, like a slow but fatal illness.
 
Rose65 said:
Me too, why not?
We are all going to die so best to prepare and spare your family the task when they are in shock. I have written it with my will how I want my funeral. There are hymns I like and so on. Of course you can only prepare if you have notice, like a slow but fatal illness.
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My mother prepaid her funeral. Not every detail was made ahead but it made it easier when the time came to lay her to rest.
 
My late husband and I had this discussion just before he died suddenly in October. We didn't get the chance to go make arrangements before this happened but I knew what he wanted or didn't want. I plan to make final arrangements for myself in the near future. You just never know what will happen and I don't want to leave the kids with the responsibility.
 
Well...yes and no. I actually prefer nothing. I mean, people that matter know that I am opting for cremation. I am not really of a mind to have any type of ceremony or service. I feel, that by the time it is my time, I will not have much in the way of family left...closest being my niece. I have suggested she invite some people she cares about, and go out for dinner. Scatter my remains somewhere and go on with life
 
Well ..... I have to do mine ..... as there's no one else to do it for me.

I need to do as @hawkdon has done. Don't know why I keep dragging my feet ?

I'm an atheist so,cremation for me, no service .... I'll buy one of those niches to put the jug in. There is some old family there, plus my father .... maybe they can find a spot for me ?
 
I will be cremated and bought an urn plot at the local cemetery. I told my kids to have a small celebration of life with food. My mom bought her Plot and headstone 30 years before she died.

She also wrote her own obituary. Because she died slowly from cancer she had time so planned her funeral. She asked people to sing certain songs ahead of time. It was very important to her.
 
One of my pre-retirement co-workers had a great response when her daughter asked her about funeral arrangements/cremation/etc. "Surpise me."
 
You know, this is a topic I could not care less about. When I die, wrap me in a sack and put me into the compactor with the rest of the garbage. I don't hold any value proposition for the empty, worn out, carcass I carry around all day.

That said, I'll gladly have any bits taken out and reused in others if that's a possibility, and if they want my body for a teaching college, that would be fine too. But I don't want a grave, it's so wasteful.
 
We are working on buying our plots. I've had to plan other funerals & hope not to do this anymore other than mine & my husbands. My kids will have enough to do without this burden.

My SIL for years told my husband what she wants, but wouldn't do any planning. After MIL passed, I told her she was going to plan her own party because if we have to do it, she gets what we decide. I made appointments at the funeral home & cemetery for her & now it's down on paper & paid for. Her ashes will be buried in a paper urn at a cemetery in a plot set up for cremations that places everyones name on a common monument.
 
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