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Denise1952

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I am not looking for someone to take me in, please know that upfront. I can't leave Oregon because I have health coverage here, and will need surgery this Summer. I have a little money I get by on, until I hope to make more on what I am doing, if I don't end up with a regular job (which I am still applying/interviewing here and there). In December, some of you know I will get my SS, or somewhere close to that I guess. Like everything else, SS is slow, although I know I can file 3 months prior, to get a jump-start on it.

Ok, well, this a.m. we were all notified that the owners are coming back from Korea (where I rent). Al is the landlord I first met, and he has been more like a dad to me. On the other hand, his wife never wanted renters, but she insisted on working in Korea, her home-land, and so Al did what he wanted, rented out rooms to students. He wanted to help them. I started out as a student, and then they kept me on here to help with things, kind of a house-mom.

We all know Kim does not want us here, and she will run the show. Al is ill (increasing dementia possibly). So I have little time to move on, and I don't plan to stay here, to be asked to leave, I know the drill. As some of you know, at least one of the renters is causing trouble, and that doesn't help our case in staying here. Anyway, I just know I have to move on now.

In a way, it is good, I think this is going to force me to be creative, LOL!! I have no relatives I can live with, don't even ask, LOL! I have some friends, but honestly, I'd like to keep them as such. Someone posted on people being more self-centered, basically taking care of themselves and their own, it's true from where I am standing. I don't blame them either, please don't misunderstand. We do have shelters in Oregon, and it wouldn't be the worst thing, I've stayed in one before. That's how I managed to get back to my home-town, stayed in one until I could afford to rent my own place.

Well, I posted this because I wanted my friends here to know about me, and I dont care what my "non" friends think about me. I don't care about airing dirty laundry, which sometimes is just being honest about how a person feels, the hardships of life. I know plenty of you already, that have suffered much worse/harder times then me. I am not glad, but it is a comfort to know someone understands. And again, the bright-side is, in December, I get my SS and can rent a nice little apt. for 30% of my SS. It will be tight, but I will have a home at last, to call my own (hope I have a little dirt to dig in, with my bucket and shovel, I might even plant something, :lofl:)

Oh, and now those that thought Denise had the perfect life/place, will see it was only temporary, but I have enjoyed being here with the river, and my hike:)

Denise
 
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I am going to be fine, you being here to talk to, is enough:) That's all I need, you guys have always encouraged me:) I actually feel kind of excited, you know, a new chapter in my life:)

I'm doing good here, just got an ad together to do animal-caretaking, going to post that soon. Who says don't do things out of desperation, I was thinking about that this a.m. and sometimes you have to. I'll bet looking back over history a lot of people had to do things out of desperation, and made it!! Like I said, I love a challenge, and I've got one goin on now, maybe just what I needed;) hugs:love_heart:
 
Maybe they would let you stay until December when you get your SS? Who knows,if Al has dementia,the wife may need help with him. As far as SS-yes,it`s a very simple process to apply. Do it 3 months before your 62 birthday. I didn`t really know it worked this way as hubby applied after his 62nd birthday,messed something up on the app,so it wasn`t complete. By the time we discovered there was a problem,months had passed. Got it fixed and they paid very quickly-retroactively,so he got $7,400all at once. But for me,I turned 62 on June 24th. So my first "payment" was for July,and I guess it`s paid the following month for the prior month,so my first "payment" was Aug. 28th. (This was 2 years ago) The thing I`m trying to figure out though,is I`ve always heard that if a person dies,the last payment that is paid has to be returned. So if I were to die on Aug. 3rd and get paid on Aug. 28th for the month of July (all of which I was alive)that money would have to be returned?? Doesn`t make sense to me.....
 
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Maybe they would let you stay until December when you get your SS? Who knows,if Al has dementia,the wife may need help with him. As far as SS-yes,it`s a very simple process to apply. Do it 3 months before your 62 birthday. I didn`t really know it worked this way as hubby applied after his 62nd birthday,messed something up on the app,so it wasn`t complete. By the time we discovered there was a problem,months had passed. Got it fixed and they paid very quickly-retroactively,so he got $7,400all at once. But for me,I turned 62 on June 24th. So my first "payment" was for July,and I guess it`s paid the following month for the prior month,so my first "payment" was Aug. 28th. (This was 2 years ago) The thing I`m trying to figure out though,is I`ve always heard that if a person dies,the last payment that is paid has to be returned. So if I were to die on Aug. 3rd and get paid on Aug. 28th for the month of July (all of which I was alive)that money would have to be returned?? Doesn`t make sense to me.....
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It's possible Mrs. R, but I am hoping I won't need to ask. I want to move on, I have been pretty stuck. I think this could be a blessing in disguise, put a burr under my saddle ya know;) I am excited right now. I know I will have my "down" times, but 17 days is not long to get it in gear, so working on it right now, LOL! Written two ads so far, and we'll see what might develop. Have to go into town later, for a couple things. All this weeks applications have been online. I have to call to follow up on those, but they would barely have gotten them at this point. There is one from last week I can check on.

Thanks for the info on SS, I so appreciate it! hugs, Denise
 
Hi nwlady, Just want to tell you how much I admire you attitude and courage.
I wish you all the best and hope something good turns up for you.
 
nwlady said:
I am not looking for someone to take me in, please know that upfront. I can't leave Oregon because I have health coverage here, and will need surgery this Summer. I have a little money I get by on, until I hope to make more on what I am doing, if I don't end up with a regular job (which I am still applying/interviewing here and there). In December, some of you know I will get my SS, or somewhere close to that I guess. Like everything else, SS is slow, although I know I can file 3 months prior, to get a jump-start on it.

Ok, well, this a.m. we were all notified that the owners are coming back from Korea (where I rent). Al is the landlord I first met, and he has been more like a dad to me. On the other hand, his wife never wanted renters, but she insisted on working in Korea, her home-land, and so Al did what he wanted, rented out rooms to students. He wanted to help them. I started out as a student, and then they kept me on here to help with things, kind of a house-mom.

We all know Kim does not want us here, and she will run the show. Al is ill (increasing dementia possibly). So I have little time to move on, and I don't plan to stay here, to be asked to leave, I know the drill. As some of you know, at least one of the renters is causing trouble, and that doesn't help our case in staying here. Anyway, I just know I have to move on now.

In a way, it is good, I think this is going to force me to be creative, LOL!! I have no relatives I can live with, don't even ask, LOL! I have some friends, but honestly, I'd like to keep them as such. Someone posted on people being more self-centered, basically taking care of themselves and their own, it's true from where I am standing. I don't blame them either, please don't misunderstand. We do have shelters in Oregon, and it wouldn't be the worst thing, I've stayed in one before. That's how I managed to get back to my home-town, stayed in one until I could afford to rent my own place.

Well, I posted this because I wanted my friends here to know about me, and I dont care what my "non" friends think about me. I don't care about airing dirty laundry, which sometimes is just being honest about how a person feels, the hardships of life. I know plenty of you already, that have suffered much worse/harder times then me. I am not glad, but it is a comfort to know someone understands. And again, the bright-side is, in December, I get my SS and can rent a nice little apt. for 30% of my SS. It will be tight, but I will have a home at last, to call my own (hope I have a little dirt to dig in, with my bucket and shovel, I might even plant something, :lofl:)

Oh, and now those that thought Denise had the perfect life/place, will see it was only temporary, but I have enjoyed being here with the river, and my hike:)

Denise
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Just hope everything works out for you and are happy for the rest of your life.:)
 
Denise, We all end up doing what we have to, it keeps us alive, so you do whatever you need to to keep yourself alive and well. Just remember that there are many of us here that care for you, and we are pulling on God's ear for you. When you get down, remember all of us. As for being selfish, there isn't a one of us that is not concerned for ourselves. There aren't many in this world that can give up themselves. :dontworry::fingerscrossed::bighug:
 
When all else seems to fail or that it sounds too fluffy... this is what I tell myself: "We get past it all." Somehow, with all things we have always made it from' here to there' ... and here we are! As much as possible, try to always concentrate in the NOW...right in the moment. I have faith in you!!!!
 
Denise, I admire your strength and honesty, and I've always enjoyed your sense of humor. Good luck to you; who knows, some wonderful doors may be opening for you!
 
Sorry to hear that Denise, but as Sunny said, you're a strong woman, and I've always admired you also. Perhaps this is fate, and a way of moving on and out of a rut. I wonder if there are any living arrangements available in your area. It may not be in the employment classifieds, but maybe in 'situations wanted', when someone has a basement apartment with private entrance, in exchange for assistance with housework, errands, etc. I have no double you'll make it my friend, and I hope your path is smooth, you deserve it. :love_heart:
 
I'm terribly sorry to see anyone having to go through this, but having seen my sister struggle almost her entire life, I do know that it somehow manages to work out. My best wishes to you and prayers that you find something that you really will enjoy doing soon.
 
Denise, check with your local senior housing...there's almost always a waiting list so you need to get on it NOW. Look up "council on aging", "senior services", "senior housing" or some such, in your town or county. The website will list what's required to qualify, probably have a calculator to figure out what you'd pay, tell you what services are available, what amenities there are and plenty of other info. You may even be able to apply on line. When your name comes up, if you've already found new digs, you can decline with polite thanks. If you haven't found a place or haven't found a permanent place, you can accept. But you have to get on the waiting list first!

Believe me when I say that senior housing is NOT the old folks' home of yore. I think you'll be surprised to find that there are nice apartments that are well-maintained and pleasant with community rooms, activities, shuttle service to grocery stores, medical appointments and lots of new friends.

Also, that 30% of your income isn't '30% of your gross income; it's 30% of your income AFTER any financial obligations that you have. And rent in senior housing usually includes the utilities; all you'd probably have to pay is for cable if you want it.
 
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Denise, check with your local senior housing...there's almost always a waiting list so you need to get on it NOW. Look up "council on aging", "senior services", "senior housing" or some such, in your town or county. The website will list what's required to qualify, probably have a calculator to figure out what you'd pay, tell you what services are available, what amenities there are and plenty of other info. You may even be able to apply on line. When your name comes up, if you've already found new digs, you can decline with polite thanks. If you haven't found a place or haven't found a permanent place, you can accept. But you have to get on the waiting list first!

Believe me when I say that senior housing is NOT the old folks' home of yore. I think you'll be surprised to find that there are nice apartments that are well-maintained and pleasant with community rooms, activities, shuttle service to grocery stores, medical appointments and lots of new friends.

Also, that 30% of your income isn't '30% of your gross income; it's 30% of your income AFTER any financial obligations that you have. And rent in senior housing usually includes the utilities; all you'd probably have to pay is for cable if you want it.
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Hi Georgia, I can't literally get on the list, until I actually turn 62, I can fill out the app. ahead of time and will have it ready for December;)
 
It is always hard when life throws these challenges up at us, but (as was said) sometimes what seems like a calamity turns out to be a blessing, and a door opening into something much better for you in life. Most of us, even when we are not happy with our lives, don't put forth the effort to make a major change unless we are forced to do so; and then we are often thankful that we did it.
Here is a webpage that is for finding a live-in kind of job. It has all different kinds of positions, from being a manager at a trailer park or motel, to a caretaker on a farm or a storage shed. Some are permanent, some are temporary (like working at a summer resort), and they are located all over, but you can specify the area where you want to search.
New ones are posted every day, so keep checking it. It is free to look, and then you have to pay to join; however, many of the ads have contact information in the ad, so you shouldn't need to sign up if you find one with contact information.
Even Craigslist, or the local newspaper may have someone that needs a live-in person to help out around the house, that would work for you until SS time.
I am sure this will work out for the best, Denise. Hugs and prayers !

http://www.workingcouples.com/jobs-category/innkeepers-motel-hotel-jobs
 
Denise,
Just wanted to wish you all the best and let you know you're in my prayers. You have one of the best attitudes I've ever seen.
Kim
 
Denise, I am sorry that you have so many unknowns that lay ahead. I agree with Pappy, and am praying for you. Bless you girl.
 
Denise....sounds like you know you're in for a bit of a roller-coaster ride for a few months but with your determination and drive, I feel positive you're going to come out of this nicely settled in your own little apartment before very long and I can feel your excitement at the new challenge albeit that it's come on you unexpectedly.

You'll do well I'm sure...but if you don't then just hitch a lift over the pond...we can always find room here in good old England if you need it.. :yougogirl: keep us updated.
 
nwlady said:
I am not looking for someone to take me in, please know that upfront. I can't leave Oregon because I have health coverage here, and will need surgery this Summer. I have a little money I get by on, until I hope to make more on what I am doing, if I don't end up with a regular job (which I am still applying/interviewing here and there). In December, some of you know I will get my SS, or somewhere close to that I guess. Like everything else, SS is slow, although I know I can file 3 months prior, to get a jump-start on it.

Ok, well, this a.m. we were all notified that the owners are coming back from Korea (where I rent). Al is the landlord I first met, and he has been more like a dad to me. On the other hand, his wife never wanted renters, but she insisted on working in Korea, her home-land, and so Al did what he wanted, rented out rooms to students. He wanted to help them. I started out as a student, and then they kept me on here to help with things, kind of a house-mom.

We all know Kim does not want us here, and she will run the show. Al is ill (increasing dementia possibly). So I have little time to move on, and I don't plan to stay here, to be asked to leave, I know the drill. As some of you know, at least one of the renters is causing trouble, and that doesn't help our case in staying here. Anyway, I just know I have to move on now.

In a way, it is good, I think this is going to force me to be creative, LOL!! I have no relatives I can live with, don't even ask, LOL! I have some friends, but honestly, I'd like to keep them as such. Someone posted on people being more self-centered, basically taking care of themselves and their own, it's true from where I am standing. I don't blame them either, please don't misunderstand. We do have shelters in Oregon, and it wouldn't be the worst thing, I've stayed in one before. That's how I managed to get back to my home-town, stayed in one until I could afford to rent my own place.

Well, I posted this because I wanted my friends here to know about me, and I dont care what my "non" friends think about me. I don't care about airing dirty laundry, which sometimes is just being honest about how a person feels, the hardships of life. I know plenty of you already, that have suffered much worse/harder times then me. I am not glad, but it is a comfort to know someone understands. And again, the bright-side is, in December, I get my SS and can rent a nice little apt. for 30% of my SS. It will be tight, but I will have a home at last, to call my own (hope I have a little dirt to dig in, with my bucket and shovel, I might even plant something, :lofl:)

Oh, and now those that thought Denise had the perfect life/place, will see it was only temporary, but I have enjoyed being here with the river, and my hike:)

Denise
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Please be very careful what you share on an open forum! You don't know who any of us are unless you have met us in person. Most are possibly who they say they are but some are not. You could find your problems a whole lost worse if the wrong people got hold of your information.
 
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Denise,

I feel awful that you have to go through this. You are so sweet and you seem to be fun to be with - I am sure anyone would be willing to lend a hand to you - even if you don't want to ask. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and do what we must to jump through these obstacles. I like Georgia's answer with suggestions and also, I would take a look at Seniorshelpingseniors.com and see if there is anything close to you.
 
Denise, aka Abi normal. :D You, have a great attitude, and strength, and therefore, I see you being okay. I like how you take a life challenge as an adventure..You, will be in my thoughts and prayers..Also, I do believe justme, gave great advice as well..
 
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Please be very careful what you share on an open forum! You don't know who any of us are unless you have met us in person. Most are possibly who they say they are but some are not. You could find your problems a whole lost worse if the wrong people got hold of your information.
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Justme,

You confuse me, which is it, you don't care anything about the people, just the information you read on forums, or you really care about people. I don't think I've said anything to get me in trouble, and I don't plan on doing it in the future. But I see many replies here from supportive folks that don't mind hearing me spill my guts. I know some people are just not comfortable with someone doing that, I'm sorry but they don't have to read my posts. You see, when I share something that is happening in my life (that seems scarey for me) when I come out the other side, I like to think it will encourage and support someone else.

I just can't be shallow, hide my identity (I don't give out my address or phone-number in public) and if someone tears me to shreds for being honest about how I'm feeling, I know that it can be because they are frightened to let people "into" their lives. Again, because I know I've mentioned this, these are people we are talking to here, not bots, real people with real issues. No matter how hard someone puts on their life is a bowl of cherries, many are in the pits. I think it was Erma Bombeck I am quoting there;)

By the way, things are on an even keel right now, still may be able to stay on, just won't know until after the 7th. I admit to being a bit afraid that we all might be given our "walking papers", but, they will give us 30 days, I do know that;) Denise
 
Good to know that you'll be afforded a thirty day notice, that is really the least they can do. And I agree, there are a lot of caring folks here that are concerned about you, and will be almost as relieved as you :love_heart: when things turn around and you're on your feet again. Life isn't always a bowl of cherries for any of us, and it's nice to have a place to come and share our day to day problems, or joys. Like when you posted the slideshow of your walk outdoors, that was so pleasant and left many of us smiling as if we were out there walking with you. :)
 
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Good to know that you'll be afforded a thirty day notice, that is really the least they can do. And I agree, there are a lot of caring folks here that are concerned about you, and will be almost as relieved as you :love_heart: when things turn around and you're on your feet again. Life isn't always a bowl of cherries for any of us, and it's nice to have a place to come and share our day to day problems, or joys. Like when you posted the slideshow of your walk outdoors, that was so pleasant and left many of us smiling as if we were out there walking with you. :)
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Oh yeah, and I can take videos now too. I will have to try that today. Of course I'll have to narrate, LOL!! So there, you are all for-warned, :giggle:
 
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