Maybe if people are accustomed to the hustle and bustle of a large urban area, living across from a high school in the boondocks wouldn't be any hardship. I go ballistic if my neighbors have a noisy backyard party. It's all what you're used to.
I think you have had a very isolated life by choice. Like many of us, you are very settled in your ways which is fine. I am settled in my ways as well, most older people are, IMO. But you did not take care of of your house over the years. I take very good care of my house, and have improved on every house I have owned.
Even brand new builds need work. You enjoy looking at other houses, and thinking about buying a new house, and talking about buying a new house, but you are not going to buy one, IMO. Otherwise you would have. You’ve lived in this house, as I understand it, all your life.
It is a love-hate relationship, IMO. Cause if you loved the house, you would have kept it up. It’s almost like you are punishing the house, for whatever you might be unhappy about. It is hard for us all to understand why, since you have the money, you don’t fix it. I, for one, would like to know why you did not take care of your house.
Why, since you love where you live, don’t you tear this old nasty wreck of a house down, and build a new house on the lot? Why don’t you have a house, designed to your needs-both current and future-built on the lot you love?
I have lived in KS, AL, CO, IN, WI, IL, and mostly in CA until we moved to UT. In Ut, I lived 35 years in one town, in one house, then four years in a close by town, in one house, and now back to the town I lived in for 35 years, in another old money pit house.
All houses are money pits, some more than others. I like the town, I am in. I know my way around it. Everything I need, except doctor and hospital, are within walking distance. I get why you want to stay on your area. But I could not live in a house in the shape your house is in.
Why do you keep living in this house?
@debodun