debodun
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When I was a teenager, I promised myself that one day I would be a millionaire. Back in the 1960s, a million was a good bit of money. Today a billionaire is the new millionaire.
Similar lesson with a different setting: I read an account by a woman who was in a terrible rollover accident following a dinner out with friends. As her life flashed before her eyes, and with absolute certainty that she was going to die in the crash, she thought to herself, "I can't believe I didn't order the F?#$#$# dessert!"I learned money matters from ahma ( Chinese grandma on dad's side). When Chinese New Year comes, she gives all her grandkids ang pao, with different amounts on each. I was in grade school then, I got P50 equivalent to about $7. She asked me what I'd buy....a moon cake! But I thought it was expensive at P25 each. She said, "Will you be satisfied holding on to your P25 instead of enjoying the rich taste of moon cake"? I bought the moon cake, enjoyed every bit of it. But wait....there's more. Ahma tested me and I passed it. She gave me another ang pao with twice the amount. I never told my siblings and cousins the secret I unlocked. Ahma and Angkong escaped from communism and grew wealth in their adoptive country. As they prospered through hardwork, the more they shared wealth.
I think of the moon cake test when I have to choose between holding on to money or buying happiness. Thank you ahma.
That was your goal. What was your expectation for use of this goal? Sometimes that gets lost along the way.When I was a teenager, I promised myself that one day I would be a millionaire.
Very good point.I keep reminding myself what will happen with my savings. I want to enjoy some more things along the way.
Yes! That’s a much more tactful way of saying it but you know me, if there’s a way of offending someone I’ll find it.I don't personally know anyone who "worships" money, though many folks probably do.
On the other hand, I know a lot of people who live in dread fear of the scarcity of money, and they spend a lifetime excessively worrying over it, and scrimping and saving.
The best balance - and one that's difficult to strike - is to consider money a tool. Spend a little, save a little, invest a little (including in the upkeep of one's home), give a little away, and enjoy life.
That has NEVER been my experience with you, I find you to be warm, witty and compassionate.Yes! That’s a much more tactful way of saying it but you know me, if there’s a way of offending someone I’ll find it.
Awwww ! Thank you. I’m never sure if I’ve stepped over that invisible line cause I’m not always sure where that line is.That has NEVER been my experience with you, I find you to be warm, witty and compassionate.
It was the picture of her kitchen that “did me in” and showed real insight into the way Deb has failed to care for her house. I would never ever eat food made in that kitchen, and Deb shouldn’t either. Since Deb appears to be a recluse, with no friends to visit at their houses (as she has said in the past); she has no way to measure how bad her house truly is.I'd bet I'm on ignore to. Way back like about a year ago when Deb was explaining she lived in a wreck of a home then began a series of photos to show just how bad her home was many posters offered reasonable opinions & suggestions.
All were ignored and the pics kept coming of some new disaster in her home.
Maybe it's a cry for pity that is really the basis for the ongoing thread about promising homes to buy that always have some fault that precludes her from actually buying and moving to a place that is not a as she calls it "A Disaster"
Online writing can be challenging ...no voice inflections, body language, eye contact to guide you as to what the person on the other keyboard actually means, sometimes. That's why a lot of...lol's are used to show "humor."Awwww ! Thank you. I’m never sure if I’ve stepped over that invisible line cause I’m not always sure where that line is.
A million is still a good bit of money!When I was a teenager, I promised myself that one day I would be a millionaire. Back in the 1960s, a million was a good bit of money. Today a billionaire is the new millionaire.
Well said, Liberty.One of the major challenges with money is to realize your own weaknesses. As we age, some tend to get more set in their ways and "hording" with it and the definition of money to me is "freedom"...the opportunity to enjoy your life, more fully. So, perhaps the real challenge is "can you enjoy your life when things are good"? Or, is the money just a "burden of riches" to you.
The issue seems to be "how much is enough" money? The person that has a million extra bucks might say "its not enough" and fret about it. When we talk to friends that are very rich, its like a habit with them. Work hard, invest hard and have more and more disposable income. Soon life becomes "all about the money". Where and how you make it and spend it. The lifestyle you spend it in...becomes built in.Well said, Liberty.
Dear husband and I have talked about the issue of having lots of money more times than I can count, and neither of us would be happy.
Enough for a rainy day, great, as for the rest, it's nothing more than empty numbers with a dollar sign in front. Meaningless to me.
Money has never done anything for me.The issue seems to be "how much is enough" money? The person that has a million extra bucks might say "its not enough" and fret about it. When we talk to friends that are very rich, its like a habit with them. Work hard, invest hard and have more and more disposable income. Soon life becomes "all about the money". Where and how you make it and spend it. The lifestyle you spend it in...becomes built in.
One friend of our son makes about 5 mil a year. They buy fantastic starter castles that look great and then remodel them anyway...lol. Soon it becomes all about the money even if that wasn't the original plan...we all know we will pass away and it can be mentally profoundly inconvenient for rich folks to KNOW the money won't accompany them. Puts some pressure on their golden years.
Told son "money doesn't impress me, true spiritually does. Time to be sure you're putting something in your "spiritual bank account."
First, that's a good thing. People should be aware of inequality. Second, it is not "today" it is our human history.All it's done is made people aware of the inequality that exists today between the rich and the poor.
True, also the investment companies have frightened people about how much they need to retire. It can be a vicious cycle, work hard, send the kids to the right schools, move up to your dream house and then what? This materialism issue can happen gradually and gradually, until you don't realize your priorities have changed. Think that is the danger of it. The rock solid "values" of America have been questioned and that is truly a concerning thing. Grass root ethics are incredibly balancing for all of us.Money has never done anything for me.
99% of folk that we know that have money, a lot of money (not rich but not poor), they're cheap, they're materialistic, and they whine and cry every time they have to part with nickel, and personally, I'm just not interested in being around that walk of life.
Problem I see with today, the internet and social media sites have made everyone around the world look at wealth differently, because it's in our face every time we turn around, and IMO it hasn't done society an ounce of good.
All it's done is made people aware of the inequality that exists today between the rich and the poor.
But it seems even worse today.First, that's a good thing. People should be aware of inequality. Second, it is not "today" it is our human history.
It Definitely is Not! The people of Earth, All the people of earth, have more personal wealth and advantages now than ever in history.But it seems even worse today.
I feel sorry for those who live to work, and for those who have no hope in ever retiring, no matter how much they make and how long they work.True, also the investment companies have frightened people about how much they need to retire. It can be a vicious cycle, work hard, send the kids to the right schools, move up to your dream house and then what? This materialism issue can happen gradually and gradually, until you don't realize your priorities have changed. Think that is the danger of it. The rock solid "values" of America have been questioned and that is truly a concerning thing. Grass root ethics are incredibly balancing for all of us.
Son loves to work. He owns a software company and he and his girlfriend travel all over seeing clients.I feel sorry for those who live to work, and for those who have no hope in ever retiring, no matter how much they make and how long they work.
Having dreams of grandeur I believe are common in ones younger years, but in speaking for myself, once you get older you learn to appreciate the simple things in life, like having ones health.
There's no amount of money in the world that I would take in place of my happiness and good health.
In my eyes, dear husband and I are some of the richest people the world over. We have our good health, our mobility, our wits, and we have our happiness.
That trumps seeing a bunch of dollar-signs in a bank account any day.