Run-in with a jerk

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feywon said:
1) Maybe Nathan didn't forget anything, maybe he just perceives the world differently than you do.

2) Many rape survivors if they get the proper counseling and support see themselves as survivors, not victims, and some of us vow not to be victimized that way ever again. While you may think you're being all enlightened talking about the emotional burden of being a rape victim (because you have some mental hangup about viewing yourself that way) until you've been sexually assaulted by some one who beat the crap out of you to subdue you, you don't get to make pronouncements about which trauma was worse--hell i have been thru exactly that and i would not consider speaking for any other sexual assault victim about what was the worst trauma! Different human beings experience the same basic thing in individual ways. For some reason that seems a difficult concept for you.
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QFT.
 
senior chef said:
It's ok. really. I understand that you have problems with men. If it helps you deal with your past traumas, by finding fault with me, then I fully understand.
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I work with trauma victims, some male, some female. Perhaps it helps you to deal with your issues by finding fault with women who disagree with you. You certainly seem to have less tolerance for their opinions that you do for men’s.
 
Shalimar said:
I work with trauma victims, some male, some female. Perhaps it helps you to deal with your issues by finding fault with women who disagree with you. You certainly seem to have less tolerance for their opinions that you do for men’s.
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It should come as no surprise that men understand other men.
 
feywon said:
i get where you're coming from, Gary. But i think we have to remember that some of our generation are not necessarily (uhhh, how can i say this?) 'not jerks' just by virtue of their age.
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Oh, I know
There's a good lot of young folks
Oftentimes, seems the ones most prominent aren't as 'nice'
Although, some make good wood workers, turns out
 
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Nathan said:
Granted, we're just tryin' to keep you from gettin' killed bro...
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I don't spend a lot of time worrying about getting killed. I try to go about my business in a peaceful manner. But sometimes bullies try to take advantage of my age.
 
senior chef said:
I don't spend a lot of time worrying about getting killed. I try to go about my business in a peaceful manner. But sometimes bullies try to take advantage of my age.
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I do get what you're saying, totally.
I used to work in a prison, as a staff member(and being 65 yr.s old) I had to watch out for myself, present an air of confidence and take no $h!t from anybody, no matter what. I always found a way to not escalate any conflicts, and pursue a peaceful result.
The inmates respected me, called me "OG", which doesn't mean old guy but "original gangster"...

IMO it's always better to find some common ground, rather than to butt heads.
 
senior chef said:
It's ok. really. I understand that you have problems with men. If it helps you deal with your past traumas, by finding fault with me, then I fully understand.
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You understand very little about being human and about women.You know where you can put the patronizing attitude.

i don't have a problem with men--i've raised two very fine ones who know the difference between being assertive and being aggressive. One did 20 yrs in the Navy, the other is a damn good Dad to his son. What's more i have some very good long time male friends.

What i have a problem with is people like you. Who try to pretend you care about others and that you are open minded when in fact you are all bound up in all kinds of stereotypical thinking not only about others, but about what makes a man someone to be respected.

Funny how you don't make any condescending remarks to the men who disagree with you, tho maybe some sly implications that because they'd prefer to avoid violence unless absolutely necessary that they are weak and have a victim mentality. Speaks volumes about you and gives clues to your true nature and issues.
 
Warrigal said:
Patronising, much.
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Extremely and he is very lucky this is not an in person conversation, and also that i won't resort to laying out his issues for all to see because i enjoy most of the people here too much to something that might get me suspended or banned. Giving this fella his come-uppance isn't worth losing the rest of you!
 
win231 said:
There are many types of thugs.
Leaving your cart where it blocks an aisle makes you a passive-aggressive thug.
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Clearly, you don't know what it is like on our city buses, here at the Mexican border. More often than not, people are partially or even completely blocking the aisle. It is quite normal. So, do you now suggest that they are all passive aggressive thugs ? Or is only me ?
 
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