Can you have too much sex appeal, (no, not me obviously!)?

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grahamg

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Now this is a subject where we should all tread carefully shouldn't we, (all clean humourous posts warmly welcomed though :giggle:!), but I have to ask whether you think it is possible to have too much sex appeal, or to put it another way, feel too attracted to someone on the basis of their sex appeal?

As stated in the thread title it is not that I believe I have too much myself, certainly not anymore, though my dear mother used to tell me there would be young girls queuing up when I was a handsome teenager, (as mothers do say, "bringing it all down to sex",...., strangely though I dont remember much of a queue).

My mother did state that: "Sex is the strongest urge in the body", (they seemed to know alot about "urges in the body" back then didn't they!).

However, if there is a serious side to this thread it is the thought that we can probably all get carried away by the feelings of attraction to someone without thinking about all the possible drawbacks, "incompatibility" or whatever, so here there is certainly rub isn't there(?).

I think I'll leave it a while before checking back as to what has become of this thread, "just to be on the safe side", (good luck to all who venture forth and post their views 😘🤬🥵).
 
I think most everyone has been concerned about their own sex appeal at some point. Do you tone it down or up depending how your getting along attracting someone? Just think how much our society uses sex appeal to sell almost EVERYTHING. We are bombarded by it in advertisements and video's and movies. Some people love the sex appeal game...while others thinks it is stupid.
We all fit somewhere in between. :)
 
Paco Dennis said:
I think most everyone has been concerned about their own sex appeal at some point. Do you tone it down or up depending how your getting along attracting someone? Just think how much our society uses sex appeal to sell almost EVERYTHING. We are bombarded by it in advertisements and video's and movies. Some people love the sex appeal game...while others thinks it is stupid.
We all fit somewhere in between. :)
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Really balanced post in my view.

I do have some comments to put forward, made by members of my father's farming circle of friends, one being a clean one, "Marriages may be made in heaven, but they are lived down here on earth", (so dont get too starry eyed being the message).

The second is riske, and is that:- "When you first meet your wife/future wife you feel so strongly attracted to her you could eat her all up, (or think of a bawdier term there if you like 🤬), but after you're married you wish you had" 🤯!
 
When I was young....in my late teens and early twenties...I used to feel uncomfortable if I walked into a room and men would stare at me. I don't remember doing anything to attract them, it just happened. I guess it was due to their hormones? Or maybe something about me attracted them. I had no clue and really wasn't interested....yet...

Because we were Christians, we didn't date just for the sake of dating. Dating meant marriage within a few months, in the eyes of my parents, so we had to be careful in showing interest in men, especially in college, when guys would constantly be asking me to go on a date. Becoming friends in a group was easier. We still hung out, but it was platonic, and that was safe. No sex until marriage was the message, loud and clear from my family and religion, while growing up. Hard if the rest of the world is freely helping themselves to the cornucopia of pleasure, but not hard if you've grown up believing in God.

I'd see my friends baring flesh to get attraction, and they did get plenty of attraction. But the men that they attracted weren't the marrying types, if you know what I mean. They'd go out with them, and soon they'd be going out with someone else. It was like a roller coaster. They weren't friends with me for long, though. We didn't see eye to eye. Call me old fashioned. I remember being told by one guy after I refused a date, "Where have you been living all these years?"

Now, looking back on all of this, I know there's a place for sex in procreating, having families, etc. But it has really become almost like an addiction. A high. Like a drug addict, really. This lust is all about pleasing the mind. Others drink alcohol to get the buzz. Using the body to please the mind...doesn't last...and neither does the relationship...unless you're in a loving marriage. That's a totally different chapter, for another time. :)
 
Males, especially younger adult males with short term relationship interests, are often hopelessly too attracted to females for usual well-known attractive physical features and outward sexiness alone without adequate consideration of other human facets like personality, compatible interests, lifestyle etc. And many women are happy to go fishing so.
 
If no one ever attempted to flirt with anyone else then it would be a dull world wouldn't it, (with a far lower population in all likelihood!), but I'd have to admit I've been "suckered" by that kind of charm at least twice in my life, leading me into relationships I at least thought were serious, (one being my seven year marriage that most would consider as such).

I say "suckered" not because I dont like girls who are a bit forward, or more confident in their own female charms perhaps, but because I now feel those who might come on to you somewhat, in a fairly obvious way, (my ex did so by persuading my cousin she should try to sell me a raffle ticket at a "Young Farmer's" dance, and hopeless romantic and tight devil that I am, I told her I would buy the tickets if she would dance with me, little knowing I was already being eyed a week previously when starring in a Young Farmer's hockey match!).

However, the trouble is I feel, anyone who comes on to you may well, more than likely come on in a similar fashion to other men they meet, (I'd guess the women contributing to this thread would assert: "ditto" the men they've encountered?). :rolleyes:
 
If people were not attracted to someone's looks, there would be less divorces. I always try to look my best but I always felt my personality was what attracted people to me. When I met my husband he looked like Buddy Holly and I fell in love the moment I saw him, while I was dating a handsome guy. I think men are more attracted to women for their looks then women are.
 
I have so much sex appeal I just can't stand it....neither can anyone else! LOL

I have seen men and women with tons of sex appeal. I don't think a person can help how much they have...lol. I believe it's hard on those with tons of sex appeal. Although there are many who do flaunt it--I'm talking about some actors/actresses, musicians. They use it to their benefit.

So, it can be a good thing for some.
 
Heart had too much sex appeal in the 80's and the sisters hated it. They were serious musicians in the 70's, with songs like Magic Man and Dreamboat Annie, but the 80's introduced MTV and their manager insisted they wear bustiers and strut around like vixens. Even the songs were trite. Sad, but that is what sold at the time.

 
Ruthanne said:
I have so much sex appeal I just can't stand it....neither can anyone else! LOL
I have seen men and women with tons of sex appeal. I don't think a person can help how much they have...lol. I believe it's hard on those with tons of sex appeal. Although there are many who do flaunt it--I'm talking about some actors/actresses, musicians. They use it to their benefit.
So, it can be a good thing for some.
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Madonna is a good example, and as far as men goes, "Prince, or the artist formerely known as Prince" used raunchiness pretty much all the time didn't he, (on the sleazy end of things I'd say, though not wishing to speak I'll of the dead).
 
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