Help me please; I recently made comments about sex acts between two consenting adults is their business. (Fifty Shades of Gray) movie and books led to the comment I made. I also said that some races or people consider certain sex acts normal. Those comments caused some females to be insulted and very cruel. One of them said that I should not be allowed to communicate about sex in public. What happened to freedom of speech and everyone being entitled to their own opinion?
The Truman quote is appropriate here: "If you can't stand the heat stay out of the kitchen." Having said that you might change the nature of your discourse in such a way that it appears more clinical. There are hordes of people out there who have developed violent feelings about any subject. So, now days, instead of polite discourse you will receive verbal violence from many who disagree.
Sex is such a difficult subject to discuss in a forum like this, or in other public areas. I am a man, but I see women who are afraid to be out alone in public. I did a short study once in college. I went into a couple of night spots located around a university. So there were plenty of women as well as men to observe. This was back in the early 80's. What I saw with the men was some posturing by the men. Some of the men would start approaching the women. The men would become louder. I thought I might see some racial differences. There were a few differences among the men of both races.
What I noticed, at first, was there was absolutely no differences among the women. The women would seem almost robot like in their dealings with men coming to their table. They might smile, but for all intents the women were ignoring the men. Then I noticed by accident that the women were guarding their *******s. They kept their knees firmly together and their hands almost firmly in their crotch area. Especially when men were around. Then they might relax some, put their hands on the table, open their legs slightly. This was OK when they were with just women.
Then I noticed this behavior outside the club, actually I noticed it everywhere. Around men, women were always protecting their *******s, even when wearing pants. I approached one of my female friends with this information and she denied knowing about it.
If she was telling the truth, and I doubted it, she likely grew up with her mother and other females telling her to protect her crotch because men would take it as a sign she was approachable. I doubt if it was really much help with aggressive men.
I bring this up because it just exposes the surface of problems women and girls have with sex. It surprises me that women want to be with men at all except for protection. I have heard women say this to men, "you make me feel safe".
Now days both girls as young as 7, and women are exposed to internet porn, they get harassed on line. The get harassed, groped and sexually assaulted on the playground by young boys. These young boys are also sexualized on the internet with porn. When I was young, in the 60's, we rarely encountered photographs of actual sex acts. Young women can grow up with psychological injuries from sexual trauma. And boys are not far off of that. How can we expect them to understand the rights of another person when we are modeling the reverse?
What we need is to separate the girls and boys. We need to keep everyone safe. It is not possible at present. We need to teach ethics from a young age. We need to teach some form of spirituality. It could be a meditation class like Tai Chee. We need to have classes where girls tell the boys what is happening to them. There needs to be an atmosphere of empathy.
I am not saying that we should give up our rights. I would be the first to advocate for you. In this case however, I would err on the side of empathy.