I agree with Phil too. Be open to new possibilities but always consider the problems just around the corner, particularly the health problems.
I would not be too keen on facing serious ill health of a partner, including strokes and dementia, unless that person was very special indeed.
I did reply to this, oopsee, but thanks again, and I do agree with both you and Phil
Just want to chime in here, as one of the ones where the second time around has lasted--so far at least. :laugh: I was married, had two little ones and split in 1974. I was alone 20 years (albeit as single mom with kids). When they were in junior high school I (we) lived with someone for six months until he showed his dark side and I packed up and left. A few years later I met someone very different from any guy I'd ever gone with--truly a "nice" guy who treats women with respect. We have been together 21 years. We're older now and while he may not be the most exciting man I've know, we have a pretty good deal going.
It sounds like your mind is racing ahead with "what ifs." Staying in the present is hard to do but it will save you a lot of turmoil. If you go out with him for dinner or whatever, focus on the meal, the company and enjoy some reminiscing. Listen to your gut and you will know how it feels to you inside. That's what counts. At the end of the evening, at the least you will hopefully have been given another pleasant memory. You are then free to do what feels right to you--maybe going out again, maybe saying it was fun but not something I want to repeat. Trust in yourself. You ARE your best friend.
Best wishes
Thank Jnos
Yes, those what ifs can spoil things
I'm glad it didn't work out for now, probably never would. I just have a totally different take on a relationship, and that means finding someone that doesn't have an unhealthy dependency on a mate (possible mate at that, geesh)
Neesy, it looks like, here, to me anyway, that all nice ladies and one nice ladies' man are evaluating your situation.
So, here's the IMPlicity conclusions...........
You are in your new place only a week, and feel unsure about that, a bit.
You are feeling deep down inside like age 18 again.
Go for it for a spell; if long-term results are likely to flourish, they will take care of things themselves, not to worry. If short-term results are looking likely to not fluorish into long-term ones, they, too, will take care of themselves.
Straight from the wishing well, you can believe an imp!
Well said and thank you Imp, I like your imp'licity
Things have a way of working out for the best if I just don't try and figure it out myself, lol
Denise,don't be afraid to live and feel.just remember your worth.
Ok vicky
If I am to meet a fella, he will come along, and things will go a bit smoother (ok, a lot smoother) and he won't be in such a hurry. Dating is all I would care to do
If it led to more, making out up on lover's lane etc., then we would take it a step further, maybe. And maybe just "sucking face" (from On Golden Pond, lol) may be enough for the both of us, :kiss-tongue:
So ... I'm just ... *sniff* ... icing?
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Love this cake!! LOL
yummy!!
"Just Desserts"
Women who marry solely for money get their just desserts. That's today's attempt at humor.
Denise, aren't you glad you got that one figured out before you drove all that way? If you'd gone up there, you'd have figured it out then, but this way you've saved yourself a whale of a lot of driving, not to mention $$ for gas! Now you can use that $$ for something for your new place or a treat for dinner or or or...anydarnedthing you like!
Yes Georgia, I didn't even want to attempt a trip now after moving, and he had a problem with me not coming up. So that tells me he isn't very considerate or thoughtful
hugs, denise
