Afraid for my Philly

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Glad to hear both are doing better. Waiting for the day we hear from them personally. A speedy and full recovery to both.
 
Glad both are doing better. Please pass on my best wishes. Really appreciate the update, Duncan. Thanks for keeping us posted.
 

Shalimar said:
Duncan here folks, thanks again for your concern. Phil is doing much better, anticipating returning home soon, barring anything unexpected. Further tests will be required to solve the mystery of his hemoglobin. Lee is still in hospital, hopefully not

for much longer. I am sad to announce that a member and sf friend leaked her private health info onto another sight, without her permission or Phil's, and when another sf member/friend contacted all hospitals nearby mining for PI re Shali, and was unsuccessful

(HIPAA), the consensus was that the suicide attempt was bogus. Can you imagine the distress this trolling has caused? Phil and Shali are very upset. I am livid.
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Duncan, is Shali going to be all right? I've been praying for her. I DO miss her, and Philly too. Please keep us posted, and give them both my best wishes and love.
 
Shalimar said:
Duncan here folks, thanks again for your concern. Phil is doing much better, anticipating returning home soon, barring anything unexpected. Further tests will be required to solve the mystery of his hemoglobin. Lee is still in hospital, hopefully not

for much longer. I am sad to announce that a member and sf friend leaked her private health info onto another sight, without her permission or Phil's, and when another sf member/friend contacted all hospitals nearby mining for PI re Shali, and was unsuccessful

(HIPAA), the consensus was that the suicide attempt was bogus. Can you imagine the distress this trolling has caused? Phil and Shali are very upset. I am livid.
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Thank you so much, Duncan, for keeping us in the loop. We all care about Phil and Shali. I hope you'll continue to let us know how they are doing.
 
To all of my friends who have wished Shali and I good health and fortune, thank you - it's appreciated.

But for those few who have created stories and insisted on taunting us with your asinine tales - I have nothing but loathing for you. You've managed to cause a rift between Shali and myself, because I have been remiss in taking on your idiocy and replying in kind. I might even have called you friend at one point, but that ship has sailed forever now.

If your goal was to cause hurt through your pettiness, wild-assed guesses and mean-spiritedness, congratulations - you've succeeded. Now go peddle your poison somewhere else, where other loathsome trolls such as yourselves reside.
 
Good to hear from you Phil, happy you're feelin better and hopefully on the mend. Best to both of you.
 
Phil, I'm so sorry that this has happened to you and Shali. I do hope the two of you can mend it. It is unfortunate that some have a need to spread poison. It is deep inadequacy and immaturity on their parts. Know that there are those of us on this site who wish you well, always. May the sun once again shine into your heart and heal all things.
 
Glad you're back with us Phil. I have NEVER posted ANYTHING detrimental to your relationship

with Shalimar. I consider you BOTH my friends and always will.

Waiting for you to get back here and post some of your posers for us to ponder. :D
 
Hi Phil. I'm a fairly newcomer here and have only a vague understanding of events. I do wish the best for you and Shalimar and hope you both return to good health very soon.
 
Philly ,you would surly have admit it's all been very mysterious / odd ....DUNCAN who lives In DUNCAN .:shrug::shrug::shrug:.having access to Shali account ? If she is in a coma / life support ..how did she pass that information / passwords ..UN ...onto DUNCAN to pass on messages to members of the forum ??? Any person with common sence would smell a "rat"

There has been no mention of who is caring for Shali 'S elderly mother and her son ..:confused::confused:

so don't be to hard on people who have doubted the information that's been passed on to caring / worried members

It would have sounded more genuine if DUNCAN supplied the name of the hospital Shali was/ is and her close friends could have at least ,sent her flowers / cards ...but that was obviously kept from her close friends as well .....we are ALL mature adults here on this forum ..and we xpericenced allot of ups and downs in our life ..usually by our age we can smell a rat a mile off .

.If the hospital had been mentioned after all any one can look up the name of hospitals in DUNCAN ..but only those who know Shali real , name could contact her ...and from my personal experience ..my brother being in intensive care Although
not on life support ..it was limited to 1 family / close friend at a time

Thankfully it's still a free speech world ..well it is in Australia ..so anyone is entitled to have an honest opinion ..without without having strips ripped off them ...THEN AGAIN ....
 
I would like to add my concern that something had gone wrong that has caused upset. Reading between the lines I get the sense that privacy was violated, not on this forum, but by a member of this forum. That is very regrettable and I believe further discussion around this issue is only rubbing salt into the wound. We should all now follow the maxim, 'least said, soonest mended.'

Phil, I am sorry for all that has happened, both the things that could have been avoided and those that could not. I wish you both healing of body, mind and spirit. You owe us nothing but remember that you are held in the hearts of many on this forum.
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Philly, I'm so sorry somebody hurt you guys like that. Wishing you both a speedy recovery so that you can begin your lives together again.
 
A couple is two people. A couple is not two people and all the people on the internet. Both Phil and Shali have said they have found the love of their life. Both Phil and Shali have serious health problems at this present time. My opinion is to spend as much time together loving one another as you possibly can and help each other heal and just forget the internet. Both of you should be the most important person in each others lives right now. Forget about the internet crowd and just concentrate on each other. To hell with what anyone else is thinking and saying. To hell with what I'm thinking and saying. If I had been lucky enough to find the love of my life again nobody around here would even see me posting here for a long time. I'd be so wrapped up in 'my new love'. Take care of your health situations and your people in your life love/family... My sentiments are that you both should just heal up ,mend up, and spend your time you have in love and happiness and healing your hearts and bodies. My advice is not to bring any third party into your relationship with you. In this case a third party would be the internet websites. Leave the websites out of your relationship. That is my advice because a couple is TWO people. I wish you health, love, and happiness.
 
Kadee46 said:
Philly ,you would surly have admit it's all been very mysterious / odd ....DUNCAN who lives In DUNCAN .:shrug::shrug::shrug:.having access to Shali account ? If she is in a coma / life support ..how did she pass that information / passwords ..UN ...onto DUNCAN to pass on messages to members of the forum ??? Any person with common sence would smell a "rat"

There has been no mention of who is caring for Shali 'S elderly mother and her son ..:confused::confused:

so don't be to hard on people who have doubted the information that's been passed on to caring / worried members

It would have sounded more genuine if DUNCAN supplied the name of the hospital Shali was/ is and her close friends could have at least ,sent her flowers / cards ...but that was obviously kept from her close friends as well .....we are ALL mature adults here on this forum ..and we xpericenced allot of ups and downs in our life ..usually by our age we can smell a rat a mile off .

.If the hospital had been mentioned after all any one can look up the name of hospitals in DUNCAN ..but only those who know Shali real , name could contact her ...and from my personal experience ..my brother being in intensive care Although
not on life support ..it was limited to 1 family / close friend at a time

Thankfully it's still a free speech world ..well it is in Australia ..so anyone is entitled to have an honest opinion ..without without having strips ripped off them ...THEN AGAIN ....
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What I'd like to know is what happened to you in your life to fill you with so much venom? I find it really sad that you have attacked Duncan, Phil and Shali. They are good souls, we are fortunate to have them in our lives. I suggested you get down on your knees before the universe, and ask it to teach you kindness.
 
Thank you all for your good wishes - again, both Shali and I appreciate it. It's why this forum will always be special to me, because of the kind-hearted friends we have here.

Kadee46 said:
Philly ,you would surly have admit it's all been very mysterious / odd ....DUNCAN who lives In DUNCAN .:shrug::shrug::shrug:.having access to Shali account ? If she is in a coma / life support ..how did she pass that information / passwords ..UN ...onto DUNCAN to pass on messages to members of the forum ??? Any person with common sence would smell a "rat"
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Kadee, it isn't mysterious at all to me, but then, I'm not on the outside spinning fantastic tales and conspiracy theories. I have first-hand knowledge of what is and is not going on.

There has been no mention of who is caring for Shali 'S elderly mother and her son ..:confused::confused:
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Possibly because, oh, let's say, neither one requires care? See what I mean when I say that drawing conclusions from erroneous data can be so misleading?

so don't be to hard on people who have doubted the information that's been passed on to caring / worried members
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Doubt is one thing - it can easily be held close to the chest. But some don't seem capable of that - they need to elaborate and broadcast their theories to the world, and then go a step further with direct communication when such action has been clearly unwanted.

It would have sounded more genuine if DUNCAN supplied the name of the hospital Shali was/ is and her close friends could have at least ,sent her flowers / cards ...but that was obviously kept from her close friends as well .....we are ALL mature adults here on this forum ..and we xpericenced allot of ups and downs in our life ..usually by our age we can smell a rat a mile off .
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Duncan did the right thing - he kept the information private. Any of that type of info would and should only be revealed upon direct request from the interested parties.

As for smelling rats - perhaps some ought to have their olfactory senses checked.

.If the hospital had been mentioned after all any one can look up the name of hospitals in DUNCAN ..but only those who know Shali real , name could contact her ...and from my personal experience ..my brother being in intensive care Although
not on life support ..it was limited to 1 family / close friend at a time
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So what is your point here? Canada has their own version of our HIPAA laws (known as PHIPA) but they serve the same purpose - the preservation of privacy. That includes refusing to reveal who is a patient except, as you said, to immediate family members.

Thankfully it's still a free speech world ..well it is in Australia ..so anyone is entitled to have an honest opinion ..without without having strips ripped off them ...THEN AGAIN ....
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Then again ... an opinion can be held or expressed in a decent fashion. When it comes to the point of implying that there is some massive conspiracy theory taking place, that enters into a totally different world.



And again, thank you all for your concern. Hopefully Shali and I will be back here sometime in the future.
 
Kadee46 said:
Philly ,you would surly have admit it's all been very mysterious / odd ....DUNCAN who lives In DUNCAN .:shrug::shrug::shrug:.having access to Shali account ? If she is in a coma / life support ..how did she pass that information / passwords ..UN ...onto DUNCAN to pass on messages to members of the forum ??? Any person with common sence would smell a "rat"

There has been no mention of who is caring for Shali 'S elderly mother and her son ..:confused::confused:


so don't be to hard on people who have doubted the information that's been passed on to caring / worried members

It would have sounded more genuine if DUNCAN supplied the name of the hospital Shali was/ is and her close friends could have at least ,sent her flowers / cards ...but that was obviously kept from her close friends as well .....we are ALL mature adults here on this forum ..and we xpericenced allot of ups and downs in our life ..usually by our age we can smell a rat a mile off .

.If the hospital had been mentioned after all any one can look up the name of hospitals in DUNCAN ..but only those who know Shali real , name could contact her ...and from my personal experience ..my brother being in intensive care Although
not on life support ..it was limited to 1 family / close friend at a time

Thankfully it's still a free speech world ..well it is in Australia ..so anyone is entitled to have an honest opinion ..without without having strips ripped off them ...THEN AGAIN ....
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They DO NOT have the obligation to provide us with any information at all, if they don't wish to. There's been nothing mysterious or odd about it -- Philly has been very ill and so has Shali. How or if they chose to communicate with us at all is none of our business. Why in the world would you "smell a rat" in their behavior? Why would you even look for "a rat?" It is their private business, not ours, and they have a right to keep information to themselves as they wish.

As to the password thing -- that's just silly. I don't even REMEMBER my own password. My computer is set up to recognize me and sign me in automatically, perhaps hers is, too. Who cares, anyway, and who cares who Duncan is? He kindly let us know how our friends were doing and I thank him for that. And why in the world should he/they share with us who is caring for Shali's extended family? Puh-leeze!!
 
SifuPhil said:
Thank you all for your good wishes - again, both Shali and I appreciate it. It's why this forum will always be special to me, because of the kind-hearted friends we have here.



Kadee, it isn't mysterious at all to me, but then, I'm not on the outside spinning fantastic tales and conspiracy theories. I have first-hand knowledge of what is and is not going on.



Possibly because, oh, let's say, neither one requires care? See what I mean when I say that drawing conclusions from erroneous data can be so misleading?



Doubt is one thing - it can easily be held close to the chest. But some don't seem capable of that - they need to elaborate and broadcast their theories to the world, and then go a step further with direct communication when such action has been clearly unwanted.



Duncan did the right thing - he kept the information private. Any of that type of info would and should only be revealed upon direct request from the interested parties.

As for smelling rats - perhaps some ought to have their olfactory senses checked.



So what is your point here? Canada has their own version of our HIPAA laws (known as PHIPA) but they serve the same purpose - the preservation of privacy. That includes refusing to reveal who is a patient except, as you said, to immediate family members.



Then again ... an opinion can be held or expressed in a decent fashion. When it comes to the point of implying that there is some massive conspiracy theory taking place, that enters into a totally different world.



And again, thank you all for your concern. Hopefully Shali and I will be back here sometime in the future.
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Philly, please DO both of you stay in contact. I, for one, have very much enjoyed interacting with both of you on this board. Both of you are kind, bright, fun and funny people, and have added a lot to this community. Please don't let one bad apple spoil it for the rest of us!

All the best to you both. When's the wedding??
 
Phil and Shalimar, so very glad that your both OK. There's not much that can be done about people talking or exchanging information, even forum to forum. Sad this happened to you and I hope you will be well. Sending good wishes.
 

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