I know full well what a "straw man" is. You repeatedly post extremely condescending posts about me. I wish you would stop it. How would you like it if I kept posting snide remarks about you ? I also wish that you would learn how to argue without resorting to Ad Hominem.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Where did I ever say that YOU don't know the definition of "straw man?" Do you always take every statement this personally? Actually, I looked up the definition because the term popped into my head upon reading your arguments in this thread, and wanted to be sure that I remembered it correctly. And there it was, accurately depicting what's been going on here.
I never said or implied that you are unintelligent or uneducated. What I did say is that you have created a straw man argument in all its glory, in order to knock a fake premise down.
Traveler Have you ever read, or seen, a play by Shakespeare? For that matter, have you ever read the Bible?
Have you read the book I recommended: "The Good Old Days - They Were Terrible?" Or any other history book?
I have been raped, beaten, tortured, terrorised, and left for dead, actions perpetrated by males. Horrific as it was, these monsters were an aberration, and in no way reflect the majority of men whom I am proud to call my brothers.DragonLady, I don't expect you to understand. I mean, seriously, how could you possibly understand. You've never been married to a woman; nor have you then lost 80% of your worldly possessions in divorce court, including the home you built with your own hands.
And, I'm willing to bet that you have never lost custody of your child and had your heart ripped out in the process.
Wow, Shalimar. How horrible. You must be incredibly strong to have risen above that.
I must have lived a truly blessed life. Men have always been kind and friendly to me, I was married for 54 years to a devoted, loving man, and I've always had male as well as female friends. In fact, my son is one of my best friends, along with my two daughters. I don't see the world in terms of gender divisions of good and evil. It sounds like you are on the same page.
People are people, period. There are good and bad among all the divisions anyone can think up. It's sad that some people are squandering their time and energy on anger and bitterness.
DragonLady, I don't expect you to understand. I mean, seriously, how could you possibly understand. You've never been married to a woman; nor have you then lost 80% of your worldly possessions in divorce court, including the home you built with your own hands.
And, I'm willing to bet that you have never lost custody of your child and had your heart ripped out in the process.
When you have experienced every one of those things, then, and only then, might you understand.
So from your own singular, personal experience you create a world-wide theory that covers everyone?
I believe that's called extrapolation.
First of all, I was married to an alcoholic for 19 years. My bad that I didn't get out of it sooner. should I hate all men because of the emotional and occasional physical abuse I suffered? For a while I was pretty angry about it and had some bad feelings towards men., but I finally wised up after a couple of years and dealt with the fact that I was at least partly complicit. I didn't make a lifetime grievance against men. You're not the only person who's been hurt by the opposite sex. We all have been at one time or another. Your experience is not unique. I don't know who's encouraging you in your crusade against women, but they aren't doing you any favors. Maybe you should start looking at women as individual human beings who might make good friends rather than sexual objects who hold your manhood in their hand. No one can take away your "manhood" without your permission. You continually complain about your lousy relationships with women. Quit complaining about it and go do something about it - get some counseling!
I spent a decade in counseling, best investment ever. Doesn’t cure everything, but it is a great journey of self discovery, and one learns many invaluable coping skills. Even an infj personality type such as myself learns to depersonalise things to some degree. We are all people under construction.
Myers Briggs test, devloped from the work of Carl Jung.Transactional Analysis, Eric Berne? I took the full test many years ago at work. I forget what I was then, and likely changed over the years.
I know there is a book that lets you take the test. And I have seen online tests, too. Might be interesting to do if there's any interest.
You seem to fully enjoy your self imposed misery, so of course, you will do nothing about it. I strongly suspect there are many more women who have been misused by men in their lives than vice versa. Most of these "mistreated" men are more likely reacting to the fact that they are no longer the undisputed boss in the relationship. Feminism represents a real threat to the old paternalistic power structure which is why some vilify the movement every chance they get
Myers Briggs test, devloped from the work of Carl Jung.
(laughing) When you realize "the house always wins", it's time to pick up your chips and go elsewhere. That is what I have chosen to do.
Spoken like an old school, hardline feminist, playing the victim role right to the end. Sorry, but I no longer buy that anymore.
There is one great gaping hole in your argument. I have absolutely no wish to be anyone's "boss". Not a woman, Not another man. For, you see, I have reclaimed what is mine. I no longer need anyone's approval, especially not that of a woman. I am free from the shackles of women's desires to control men.
With the help and guidance of other men I've had a moment of sudden intuitive understanding, what some might call a "flash of insight". The only way to win, is to not play the game.
You, Dragonlady, accuse men of vilifying the feminist movement, but that is exactly what you are doing to the new, and rapidly growing, men's movement. Witness all of your put downs of every single thing I have said. But no matter. For it affects me not in the least.
I, for one, refuse to dance to the Sirens song. I no longer crave what women have been tempting men with since the dawn of time. I am free.
In the words of Martin Luther King, "Free at last. Free at last. Great God, almighty, free at last."