End of the Manly Man?

I see a lot of posts from women, who wish for a John Wayne type to come riding in on a white horse, and care and protect them. And, of course, the men in their lives don't measure up. I don't know many two fisted, want to control everything types. Sounds more like potential wife beaters. I think some women look in men for something missing in their own lives. Sometimes, women find it. But if what you are looking for is so elusive then maybe it's a need that is impossible for any real man to fulfill. John Wayne was a celluloid creation, while Marion Morrison was not.
 

I was running my trap line, a grizzly jumped out of the bushes and tried to eat me up. It was nip and tuck-i finally stuck my knife in both of his eyes, no more griz.
I was stumbling home with my pelts, when a crazed moose pinned me to a tree. I thought i was dead, still haven't made up my mind
on that...
I was purty well bled out when i reached the cabin. The though of my loving woman was all that kept me going.

I finally made it to the house, bloody and dying as far as I could tell; i slumped on the door.

My loving woman opened the door, "Don't you dare come in and walk on my clean floor. Go to that snowbank and rub the mess off
yourself before you come into my house."

That why I moved into a cave with a grizzly.
 

I read this thread several times wondering if I could come up with an input. While not disputing anything that has already been presented, I will offer the following:

A manly man will get up every two hours at night for weeks to apply antibiotic salve and change the dressing on his wife's stitches following an intense eleven hour surgery on both eyes and part of her skull. He will comfort her and assure her that he loves her, always has loved her, and always will love her and any scarring she may have is simply unimportant. He will take vacation time so that he can continues taking care of her during the long days ahead. He will read to her. You can count on this kind of a guy, he is a man. All that macho stuff and how he dresses is mere trivia.
 
Pecos said:
I read this thread several times wondering if I could come up with an input. While not disputing anything that has already been presented, I will offer the following:

A manly man will get up every two hours at night for weeks to apply antibiotic salve and change the dressing on his wife's stitches following an intense eleven hour surgery on both eyes and part of her skull. He will comfort her and assure her that he loves her, always has loved her, and always will love her and any scarring she may have is simply unimportant. He will take vacation time so that he can continues taking care of her during the long days ahead. He will read to her. You can count on this kind of a guy, he is a man. All that macho stuff and how he dresses is mere trivia.
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Pecos, YOU NAILED IT!!!!!
 
Pecos said:
I read this thread several times wondering if I could come up with an input. While not disputing anything that has already been presented, I will offer the following:

A manly man will get up every two hours at night for weeks to apply antibiotic salve and change the dressing on his wife's stitches following an intense eleven hour surgery on both eyes and part of her skull. He will comfort her and assure her that he loves her, always has loved her, and always will love her and any scarring she may have is simply unimportant. He will take vacation time so that he can continues taking care of her during the long days ahead. He will read to her. You can count on this kind of a guy, he is a man. All that macho stuff and how he dresses is mere trivia.
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Beautiful Pecos...yes, that's a manly man.
May I add, a manly man gets up during the night to comfort his pregnant wife when she is feeling sick. A manly man, helps to change diapers, a manly man helps in the kitchen. A manly man is one who does what is necessary without whinging.
 
jerry old said:
I was running my trap line, a grizzly jumped out of the bushes and tried to eat me up. It was nip and tuck-i finally stuck my knife in both of his eyes, no more griz.
I was stumbling home with my pelts, when a crazed moose pinned me to a tree. I thought i was dead, still haven't made up my mind
on that...
I was purty well bled out when i reached the cabin. The though of my loving woman was all that kept me going.
I finally made it to the house, bloody and dying as far as I could tell; i slumped on the door.
My loving woman opened the door, "Don't you dare come in and walk on my clean floor. Go to that snowbank and rub the mess off
yourself before you come into my house."
That why I moved into a cave with a grizzly.
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I can relate to that beautiful story, as maybe will others, life in a cave with a bear being better than a grizzly missus! :)
 
Just wanted to show you what a real man looks like.
This was my late husband. A Federal Marshal, shot 11 men in his life(in gunfights) and one night when I was in pain, he stayed up all night long and rocked me in his arms. He had it all; the toughness and the tenderness.
 

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Pecos said:
I read this thread several times wondering if I could come up with an input. While not disputing anything that has already been presented, I will offer the following:

A manly man will get up every two hours at night for weeks to apply antibiotic salve and change the dressing on his wife's stitches following an intense eleven hour surgery on both eyes and part of her skull. He will comfort her and assure her that he loves her, always has loved her, and always will love her and any scarring she may have is simply unimportant. He will take vacation time so that he can continues taking care of her during the long days ahead. He will read to her. You can count on this kind of a guy, he is a man. All that macho stuff and how he dresses is mere trivia.
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As it turned out, my wife had minimal scarring and after about four months was able to drive again. We did have several stressful weeks where she had double vision, but that cleared up on its own so she did not have to have a second surgery. At one point in her surgery they actually shaved part of the skull away around her eye socket. I shutter even now when I think about that.

But my wife has taken good care of me over the last 28 months as I have dealt with prostrate cancer. That is what couples who are in love do.
 
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As it turned out, my wife had minimal scarring and after about four months was able to drive again. We did have several stressful weeks where she had double vision, but that cleared up on its own so she did not have to have a second surgery. At one point in her surgery they actually shaved part of the skull away around her eye socket. I shutter even now when I think about that.

But my wife had taken good care of me over the last 28 months as I have dealt with prostrate cancer. That is what couples who are in love do.
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Oh No! I am SO SORRY to hear about your disease! I KNOW many of us will pray for you! From what you have told us of your lovely wife, I know she is taking the best of care of you!
 
Gaer said:
Just wanted to show you what a real man looks like.
This was my late husband. A Federal Marshal, shot 11 men in his life and one night when I was in pain, he stayed up all night long and rocked me in his arms. He had it all; the toughness and the tenderness.
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All shot dead I'm assuming, so yes a very tough man, with a good deal to deal with in his job most couldn't contemplate or imagine, certainly those outside the USA(?)
 
Gaer said:
Oh No! I am SO SORRY to hear about your disease! I KNOW many of us will pray for you! From what you have told us of your lovely wife, I know she is taking the best of care of you!
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I suppose that if a man has to get cancer, prostrate cancer is the way to go, as long as it gets caught early enough. Mine had not spread so I did not have to have chemo. Every day for nine weeks I went in for radiation treatment and the people having chemo turned to the right while those of us just getting radiation turned left. A quick glance into the chemo waiting room told me how rough it was for them. I had some pretty rough days, but nothing like those women with breast cancer.
At this point, I am nearing the end of the hormone treatment and will probably be out of the woods sometime this Summer. I still deal with fatigue and with hot flashes like a women. If fact, I am now an expert when it comes to hot flashes, and I once thought that women were exaggerating. Not now, it has been an eye opener.
With my own hormones being suppressed, I have been a "completely harmless male" for over two years. I am really looking forward to getting my "mojo" back and regaining some muscle along with other important things, ... as you can guess.
But I am on the mend and before too long, this little "adventure" will be in my rear view mirror.
 
Pecos said:
I suppose that if a man has to get cancer, prostrate cancer is the way to go, as long as it gets caught early enough. Mine had not spread so I did not have to have chemo. Every day for nine weeks I went in for radiation treatment and the people having chemo turned to the right while those of us just getting radiation turned left. A quick glance into the chemo waiting room told me how rough it was for them. I had some pretty rough days, but nothing like those women with breast cancer.
At this point, I am nearing the end of the hormone treatment and will probably be out of the woods sometime this Summer. I still deal with fatigue and with hot flashes like a women. If fact, I am now an expert when it comes to hot flashes, and I once thought that women were exaggerating. Not now, it has been an eye opener.
With my own hormones being suppressed, I have been a "completely harmless male" for over two years. I am really looking forward to getting my "mojo" back and regaining some muscle along with other important things, ... as you can guess.
But I am on the mend and before too long, this little "adventure" will be in my rear view mirror.
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GOOD! GOOD! GOOD! You WILL DO THIS!!!
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I see a lot of posts from women, who wish for a John Wayne type to come riding in on a white horse, and care and protect them. And, of course, the men in their lives don't measure up. I don't know many two fisted, want to control everything types. Sounds more like potential wife beaters. I think some women look in men for something missing in their own lives. Sometimes, women find it. But if what you are looking for is so elusive then maybe it's a need that is impossible for any real man to fulfill. John Wayne was a celluloid creation, while Marion Morrison was not.
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This I find seriously amusing! John Wayne?
Personally I hated John Wayne movies and although my man has some John Wayne characteristics, he had more characteristics that Pecos describes.

He’s there for me through thick & thin, for better or worse. He’s not shallow enough to be with me for just my looks. We both understand they fade, distort and change over time throughout ‘our’ life together. My man is man enough for me and that’s all that matters.
 
Keesha said:
This I find seriously amusing! John Wayne?
Personally I hated John Wayne movies and although my man has some John Wayne characteristics, he had more characteristics that Pecos describes.

He’s there for me through thick & thin, for better or worse. He’s not shallow enough to be for me for just my looks. We both understand they fade, distort and change over time throughout ‘our’ life together. My man is man enough for me and that’s all that matters.
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Add both me and my hubby to the list.
 
Pecos said:
I read this thread several times wondering if I could come up with an input. While not disputing anything that has already been presented, I will offer the following:

A manly man will get up every two hours at night for weeks to apply antibiotic salve and change the dressing on his wife's stitches following an intense eleven hour surgery on both eyes and part of her skull. He will comfort her and assure her that he loves her, always has loved her, and always will love her and any scarring she may have is simply unimportant. He will take vacation time so that he can continues taking care of her during the long days ahead. He will read to her. You can count on this kind of a guy, he is a man. All that macho stuff and how he dresses is mere trivia.
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Exactly DF! He'll also help with the chores and I LOVE when a man cooks. Islam teaches that men should help their wives around the house and be engaged with the children. If he works long hours to support the family, that may be hard but it's recommended just the same.
 

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