How do you feel about birthdays as you get older?

Happy Birthday @MarkD .....
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I'm a Halloween baby. In elementary school, my mother once rented a room at a bowling alley and had all my classmates attend in costume. It was a big deal. Now I hate big deals. It's just another day. Hubs and I try to create special occasions throughout the year.

I've taken my birth date off of FB because I don't want to be inundated with people I never see wishing me Happy Birthday and having to go through and Like all of them. I do have a few close friends who reach out personally and it gives me the chance to catch up with them.
 
seadoug said:
I'm a Halloween baby. In elementary school, my mother once rented a room at a bowling alley and had all my classmates attend in costume. It was a big deal. Now I hate big deals. It's just another day. Hubs and I try to create special occasions throughout the year.

I've taken my birth date off of FB because I don't want to be inundated with people I never see wishing me Happy Birthday and having to go through and Like all of them. I do have a few close friends who reach out personally and it gives me the chance to catch up with them.
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So we have a New Years Eve baby and a Halloween baby. My wife's birthday is on 11/25 so very often a Thanksgiving baby and her brother is a Christmas baby. I often took part in doing party with my just younger brother who was born a week before me so on Lincoln's birthday and close to Valentine's Day while mine was on Washington's Birthday back before the much needed President's day holiday.
 
We never had a birthday party as children, although my mother usually made a chocolate cake for each of our birthdays. I never wanted a 21st birthday party but my parents insisted on it. I was glad when they said I could have friends from work and their boyfriends. There were only 15 people there, but it was a lovely night, and I got some nice presents. My boys now make it special and take me out for a lovely dinner.
 
Birthdays and holidays for me are kind of milestones or time markers that break up the years and keep them from being one big blur when I look back on them. They used to be bigger events, though, when we'd have my wife's family over to celebrate. We'd have a big party and get good and hammered. I don't even drink any more, so birthdays are now usually just a nice dinner, cake, and my pick for a movie... pretty boring.

Funny how we keep on plodding along through life. It's like an old car that keeps running with just some minor repairs every once in a while, but one day, it's going to quit running that will be it. My body will be taken to the great junkyard in the sky to rot away. I doubt there will be any parts in good enough shape for anyone to salvage.
 
I have a big milestone coming not this year but next. Now that one I am hoping I get to see
all 3 of my son's together for that. If it happens it will mean an old old hatchet has been buried
among 2 of them. I am so hoping more than cake or presents it happens.
I don't mention this to them, it's their choice but it sure would make me happy.
 
MarkD said:
My hour glass is bottom heavy enough. Another birthday, another year's accumulation. But I do like the somberness of mortality, it's a nice contrast with the easy joy and frivolity of youth. A cake with the correct number candles would be a fire hazard.

I guess I'd describe my feelings as ambivalent. Let us eat cake.
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To me my birthday is just another day basically. No one celebrates it so I really don't care.
 
IrishEyes said:
I have a big milestone coming not this year but next. Now that one I am hoping I get to see
all 3 of my son's together for that. If it happens it will mean an old old hatchet has been buried
among 2 of them. I am so hoping more than cake or presents it happens.
I don't mention this to them, it's their choice but it sure would make me happy.
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If you have good relationship with all 3 then why not express that as a birthday wish they can fulfill for you. You won't lose anything & could gain a whole lot. Sometimes all it takes is a mothers love to make it happen.
 
Birthdays are just another day for me. Wife doesn't try to 'push' anything special on bday, so just another day as others. I'm totally fine with that. My mother used to call every bday and tell me, once again, how I was born at high noon. Once she got dementia and that stopped, bdays didn't mean anything.
 
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