Long marriages - the secret?

[Rossana]

I have been married for 47 years.
The secrets certainly are good communication, love, trust, respect, compromise, and commiment. Also appreciation, kindness, and shared interests and values.

 

[StarSong]

The secrets certainly are good communication, love, trust, respect, compromise, and commitment. Also appreciation, kindness, and shared interests and values.

Agree with all the above, plus flexibility and plenty of laughter. Also holding your spouse's family dear.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

Give each other some space; don't try to make your mate over into what you want them to be.

 

[Pappy]

Solve all problems before you go to bed. Worked for us for 69 years.

 

[OregonGuy]

two words ....
YES DEAR !!!!

 

[spookycat]

I asked ex why her sis stayed w/her hubs like glue, though he wasn't such a great dad/hubs... it took a while but eventually she admitted that he had threatened her sis long ago that if she ever left him, he was going to end her dad's time on earth.

I'm not surprised.

Her dad was a real good dude. A classic in his own right.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I’ve been with my man for 35 years now. It’s not as long as many here but our love is both strong and true. I don’t know that there’s any secrets. Something that I had to learn to do was bite my tongue when we got into an argument and never say something I was going to regret. You can’t take words back that you’ve said. Now when we fight, which isn’t often, I busy myself with something else.
Don’t try and make your spouse into somebody they’re not. Accept them as they are worts and all. My husband is definitely my best friend and I have to remind myself of that every single day. He’s definitely the love of my life.

 

[Mitch86]

My wife and I have NEVER had any disputes. If I want something, she agrees. If she wants something, I agree. We've lived 65 years together and never disagreed about anything. When bad things happen to either of us, we help the stricken one ACCEPT whatever bad happens.

 

[timoc]

Long marriages - the secret?​

A hug and a kiss in the morning.

A hug and a kiss after coming home from work.

And whatever you both can think of when you go to bed.

 

[RedAlert76]

Separate bathrooms and more than one tv - perfect

 

[Twostep]

Long marriages - the secret?​

A hug and a kiss in the morning.

A hug and a kiss after coming home from work.

And whatever you both can think of when you go to bed.

Finally someone who knows.

 

[NotCompSavvy]

Separate bathrooms and more than one tv - perfect

Lol yes .

I live by myself and still prefer 2 bathrooms .

 

[NotCompSavvy]

I’ve been with my man for 35 years now. It’s not as long as many here but our love is both strong and true. I don’t know that there’s any secrets. Something that I had to learn to do was bite my tongue when we got into an argument and never say something I was going to regret. You can’t take words back that you’ve said. Now when we fight, which isn’t often, I busy myself with something else.
Don’t try and make your spouse into somebody they’re not. Accept them as they are worts and all. My husband is definitely my best friend and I have to remind myself of that every single day. He’s definitely the love of my life.

I know you left home young as you mentioned it some time ago , you meet your husband right when you left ?

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I know you left home young as you mentioned it some time ago , you meet your husband right when you left ?

No! I left home at 16. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 29. He was 24.

 

[RedAlert76]

Give each other some space; don't try to make your mate over into what you want them to be.

oh so true. Many young women usually, think They can change men. Yeah they can, which causes them to leave out the back door.

 

[LoveTulips]

35 years of marriage as of this past January 3rd. Had arguments about stuff, but more importantly, we share the same values and that's why we are still together.

 

[SeaBreeze]

Marriage, not easy. Let's face it, the heady phase must fade away sooner or later. Reality sets in and soon sobers you up. The very things you thought so cute or that don't matter, do. Daily domestic drudgery comes along. It is that which can be the enemy to happiness.

Could it be said that those with the greatest patience, stamina, self discipline and ability to accept reality are the ones that last longest?

There probably comes a certain crossroads when you decide, maybe not even consciously, whether you will continue or cut your losses. If you can get past that time, that's when the rewards truly build and eventually become a treasure trove sustained into old age. Then only death will part you.

Sweet elderly couples married for an eternity get asked the question. What's the secret?

The secret is love along with friendship.

 

[Timewise 60+]

I was luckier than my wife! I wasn't much of a bargain! Thank God she was a very patient and loving lady!

Old Salt...from your posts it seems like you and your wife had a wonderful life together.

My wife and I have been married for 55 years and still going strong. We both recognize our time together could end at any time. But we still love each other and enjoy our time together. My wife also is very patient and loving lady.

I am truly sorry you lost your wife...

 

[mrstime]

Marry young, stay healthy, and don't get divorced.

Thats what we did, come June 10 if we last that long it will be 68 years. Respect figures big in our relationship!

 

[Bobby174]

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I have been married for 47 years.
The secrets certainly are good communication, love, trust, respect, compromise, and commiment. Also appreciation, kindness, and shared interests and values.

Patience , ability to tolerate each other

 

[Bobby174]

Agree with all the above, plus flexibility and plenty of laughter. Also holding your spouse's family dear.

Yes

 

[Bobby174]

No! I left home at 16. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 29. He was 24.

Wowo

 

[BlueDragonfly]

I try my hardest to stick with God's plan.

Genesis 2:18, 21-23
Ephesians 5:22, 25, 28, 31
Colossians 3:18
1Timothy 3:11
Proverbs 12:4
1Corinthians 13:4-7

 

[MaidMarian]

The secret to my long marriage of 37 years is that I can’t afford to live on my own.

 

[JustDave]

Finding the right mate is a good start.