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Glad to hear of the results, Frank .. now, to deal with the dry-eye problem. Hopefully, there is something that can be done to not only alleviate, but eradicate it.
 
Pinky said:
Glad to hear of the results, Frank .. now, to deal with the dry-eye problem. Hopefully, there is something that can be done to not only alleviate, but eradicate it.
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Yeah, that eye doesn't burn as bad since I got the artificial tears eye-drops, but it burns a little bit All The Time. Sometimes it gives me a slight headache. That's when I lie back in my recliner and do the warm compress thing.
 
Murrmurr said:
Yeah, that eye doesn't burn as bad since I got the artificial tears eye-drops, but it burns a little bit All The Time. Sometimes it gives me a slight headache. That's when I lie back in my recliner and do the warm compress thing.
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I wonder if there's something other than drops that would work better. I'm pretty certain there's a gel that may have a more lasting effect.
 
I called Paxton's grandma yesterday evening to ask her when she'd have the kids over again because I want to see Paxton.

She said "I want you to see him, too. He asks about you every time he comes over."

She expects to have them for an overnight visit in a week or two, when Tara (Pax's mom) goes out for a night of drinking with her girlfriends. ...yeah, drinking. So anyway, Jackie will let me know when that's going to happen, and I'm going to go over there and hang out with Paxton.

Jackie said we have to pretend like this wasn't planned; like, I was "just in the neighborhood, didn't know the kids were even there" and lalala whatever. So I'll make up some excuse to keep Jackie out of trouble, but what's Tara gonna do....call a cop? It's not illegal for me to see Paxton, she just doesn't want me to. But I don't care about that.

I've stayed away from Paxton for Jackie's sake, so that Tara wouldn't stop taking her kids over there to their grandma, but Jackie said Tara's using her a lot as a sitter lately. Tara can't find another sitter, not for free, anyway, and sometimes she goes there just to get money from her mom and then leaves the kids while she goes shopping or whatever, and Jackie's pretty sure that isn't going to stop any time soon.

Anyhow, I'll be going to see Paxton in a week or two. We got a lot to talk about, me and him. 😊
 
Pinky said:
I wonder if there's something other than drops that would work better. I'm pretty certain there's a gel that may have a more lasting effect.
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I'll look into that and I'll ask my doctor when I see her next month. The ophthalmologist said don't use eyedrops that contain a preservative, but the ones my PCP prescribed do contain a preservative. I'll ask her if she can Rx one that doesn't....but maybe my insurance isn't approving that kind, idk.

Thanks, Pinky
 
Whoa! Just got a text from Jackie asking if it's ok if her and Paxton and the twins spend the night here next weekend!!

Apparently, Tara said it's ok with her as long as Jackie stays with the kids. But she said they're still discussing it, she just wanted to check with me to make sure it's ok, and that we have enough room/beds/food. YES!
 
A sleepover. That’s great news.

I use Thealoz Duo, preservative free drops. There‘re are more brands available now. I think Systane has one now.
 
Jules said:
A sleepover. That’s great news.

I use Thealoz Duo, preservative free drops. There‘re are more brands available now. I think Systane has one now.
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Systane is what the PCP prescribed, but this one has preservative added. If my insurance doesn't cover the preservative free drops I'll have to buy them OTC. But they're kind of expensive. Cost adds up to about $120/month. I'll ask my PCP to make sure to Rx the preservative free next time, and hope it's covered.

Yeah, even a day visit would be awesome but I'm pumped that Paxton might get to stay overnight. Jackie's having work done on her house, so floors and walls are getting torn up and there's going to be fresh chemicals and paint in the air on the weekend that Tara needs her to babysit, so Jackie used that situation to say "Why don't me and the kids just stay over at Frank and Michelle's for the night" and Tara said ok, but then she said "Let me get back to you." She's probably gonna ask if her friends they can go out on a different night. But I hope not.

In any case, there's no law and nothing on paper that says I can't see Paxton, but the only place I can see him is at Jackie's, and she's been on eggshells with Tara, who uses the kids like weapons. I know it seems like a weird idea, Jackie and the kids staying a night here, but I'm sure Jackie knows what she's doing. She used to stay here almost every weekend when Paxton lived here. (strictly platonic)
 
@Murrmurr
Are you familiar w/GoodRx?
It's online, and you can get your prescriptions for much less $$. You have to print out their coupon, or you may be able to text it. (one of my lady friends does it online)

Check it out, I've used it a few times on meds my insurance won't cover.
 
Paxton will be coming over with his g-ma and the twins for an overnight visit, but I don't know when; either this coming weekend or the next. Michelle and I are both stoked. Michelle thinks Jackie is a lot of fun, and she loves having little ones around. Needless to say, I'm totally stoked about seeing Paxton. It's been several months...last time I saw him was the afternoon of Christmas Eve 2021.

Jackie said he's changed a lot. He's kind of a bully. He yells a lot. He's destructive and argumentative. He's like that because he's hurt and angry. I would be too if a bunch of big strangers took my sunshine away; yanked me out of a secure, happy home and dumped me into a state of total confusion. Nobody is teaching him how to cope with all this sh1t, so he's winging it. He's taking lessons from an unstable mother, an equally confused father, and a bunch of other traumatized kids.

I hope I can help Paxton reconnect to what was taken from him, and somehow convince him that all that good stuff and all those good old feelings are still inside him. Also that this will be only the first of many visits. In fact, if anybody changes their mind about this upcoming visit, I'm gonna tell Jackie to text me every time he goes to her house, and I'll see him there. The CPS case closes next month; no one's gonna do anything about me seeing Paxton at this point.
 
Murrmurr said:
Paxton will be coming over with his g-ma and the twins for an overnight visit, but I don't know when; either this coming weekend or the next. Michelle and I are both stoked. Michelle thinks Jackie is a lot of fun, and she loves having little ones around. Needless to say, I'm totally stoked about seeing Paxton. It's been several months...last time I saw him was the afternoon of Christmas Eve 2021.

Jackie said he's changed a lot. He's kind of a bully. He yells a lot. He's destructive and argumentative. He's like that because he's hurt and angry. I would be too if a bunch of big strangers took my sunshine away; yanked me out of a secure, happy home and dumped me into a state of total confusion. Nobody is teaching him how to cope with all this sh1t, so he's winging it. He's taking lessons from an unstable mother, an equally confused father, and a bunch of other traumatized kids.

I hope I can help Paxton reconnect to what was taken from him, and somehow convince him that all that good stuff and all those good old feelings are still inside him. Also that this will be only the first of many visits. In fact, if anybody changes their mind about this upcoming visit, I'm gonna tell Jackie to text me every time he goes to her house, and I'll see him there. The CPS case closes next month; no one's gonna do anything about me seeing Paxton at this point.
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So glad for you!!!
 
Murrmurr said:
Paxton will be coming over with his g-ma and the twins for an overnight visit, but I don't know when; either this coming weekend or the next. Michelle and I are both stoked. Michelle thinks Jackie is a lot of fun, and she loves having little ones around. Needless to say, I'm totally stoked about seeing Paxton. It's been several months...last time I saw him was the afternoon of Christmas Eve 2021.

Jackie said he's changed a lot. He's kind of a bully. He yells a lot. He's destructive and argumentative. He's like that because he's hurt and angry. I would be too if a bunch of big strangers took my sunshine away; yanked me out of a secure, happy home and dumped me into a state of total confusion. Nobody is teaching him how to cope with all this sh1t, so he's winging it. He's taking lessons from an unstable mother, an equally confused father, and a bunch of other traumatized kids.

I hope I can help Paxton reconnect to what was taken from him, and somehow convince him that all that good stuff and all those good old feelings are still inside him. Also that this will be only the first of many visits. In fact, if anybody changes their mind about this upcoming visit, I'm gonna tell Jackie to text me every time he goes to her house, and I'll see him there. The CPS case closes next month; no one's gonna do anything about me seeing Paxton at this point.
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It's not a few months is it?...it's 8 months ..a very long time in that little toddlers life... :(
 
hollydolly said:
It's not a few months is it?...it's 8 months ..a very long time in that little toddlers life... :(
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Yes, that's why it's pretty customary that CPS starts talking about adoption if the natural parent(s) don't get their act together by the time the child is 18months. By then, they're too attached to their foster parent(s). I was set to adopt, I'd agreed to, but the family court judge kept delaying things (covid) and Paxton's mom kept manipulating the system. He was 2 1/2 when the court "reunified" them. He'd just turned 3 when CPS took him again and put him in the other foster home, and nearly 4 when Tara got them back again.

It's possible that if Tara had provided Paxton with a stable, secure, loving home, he may have forgotten me, but she didn't, and he hasn't. He's wanted nothing more than to come back here since the day he left almost 2 years ago.
 
@Murrmurr

Frank, I hope that this is the beginning of regular visits for you and Paxton. He needs some consistency in his young life - a stable role model. He also needs to see a positive female role model, which he will have in Michelle and his grandmother. I hope all goes well, and continues without issues.
 
Pinky said:
@Murrmurr

Frank, I hope that this is the beginning of regular visits for you and Paxton. He needs some consistency in his young life - a stable role model. He also needs to see a positive female role model, which he will have in Michelle and his grandmother. I hope all goes well, and continues without issues.
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It will be now that CPS is pretty much out of the picture.
 

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