Okay, (by popular demand), a thread about what was wrong with the ex.!

WheatnLover
Question: is there a mele equivalent for a femme fatale (a woman who attracts men by an aura of charm and mystery-for males?

Lauren Becall-you bet,
but Bogart was a skinny little man, not attractive at all
The movie ex's could not understand, why females were attracted to him.'
 
grahamg said:
You're a similar mystery to me, but I notice you are from Oz, and this reminds me of a song I found on an Andre Rieu CD, sung by a young woman whose name escapes me, but I think the title of the song is "We are Australia"!
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The best performance of that was from Judith Durham of the Seekers. She is not young, but her voice is a s strong as it was years ago.
 
jerry old said:
WheatnLover
Question: is there a mele equivalent for a femme fatale (a woman who attracts men by an aura of charm and mystery-for males?

Lauren Becall-you bet,
but Bogart was a skinny little man, not attractive at all
The movie ex's could not understand, why females were attracted to him.'
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Peter Falk too. He was one of the biggest skirt chasers in Hollywood. Shera Danese Falk knew it too. The tabloids said 99% of the skirts he chased he caught. He, Ben Gazzara and John Cassavetes were tight.

Poor Dick Cavett.

 
jerry old said:
WheatnLover
Question: is there a mele equivalent for a femme fatale (a woman who attracts men by an aura of charm and mystery-for males?

Lauren Becall-you bet,
but Bogart was a skinny little man, not attractive at all
The movie ex's could not understand, why females were attracted to him.'
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Male equivalent? I don't think so.
 
Honest, this is the first thing I thought of. I heard this years ago, and thought "what a fate!". I would try to divorce her ASAP!

pinned around 1660, so the fate of the mismatched is as old as time. :)

"'With many denials she yielded at last,
Her chamber being wondrous privee;
That I all the night there might have my repast,
To run at the Ring tan-tivee.
I put off my cloathes, and I tumbled to bed;
She went to her closet to dress up her head,
But I peep'd in the key-hole to see what she did,
Which put me quite beside my Tan-tivee,

She took off her head-tire, and show'd her bald pate,
Her cunning did very much grieve me,
Thought I to myself, “If it were not so late,
I would home to my lodgings, believe me!”
Her hair being gone, she seem'd like a hagg,
Her bald-pate did look like an Estritche's egg,
“This lady” thought I “Is as right as my leg,
She hath been too much at Tan-tivee.”

The more I did peep, the more I did spy,
Which did to amazement drive me;
She put up her finger, and out dropt her eye,
I pray'd that some power would relieve me;
But now my resolve was never to trouble her,
Or venture my carkis with such a blind hobbler.
She look'd with one eye just like Hewson the Cobler,
When he us'd to ride Tan-tivee.

I peept, and was still more perplex'd therewith;
Thought I, “Tho't be midnight I'le leave thee;
She fetcht a yawn, and out fell her teeth,
This quean had intents to deceive me;
She drew out her handkerchief, as I suppose,
To wipe her high fore-head, and off dropt her nose,
Which made me run quickly and put on my hose,
“The Devil is in my Tan-tivee!”

She washt all the paint from her visage, and then
She look'd just (if you will believe me)
Like a Lancashire Witch of four-score and ten,
And as if the devil did drive me
I put on my cloathes and cry'd, “Witches and whores!”
I tumbl'd down stairs, broke open the doors,
And down to my country again to my Boors
Next morning I rid Tan-tivee.' "

https://www.mustrad.org.uk/articles/dung05.htm
 
grahamg said:
Does that make you a Hawaiian, British Virgin Island, French person, (or the other way around?)? :)
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It makes her human being who is able to live in a variety of locales and be 'at home' to some degree.

And i would hope you realize that being 'from' someplace is pretty meaningless in this modern world where so many people are so mobile. When people ask me where i'm from i usually ask them to be more specific: Where was i born, early childhood, teens, where i've lived the longest, where i live now? Generalizations and stereotypes about national or regional 'character' traits are as meaningless as racial, religious and gender ones.
 
feywon said:
It makes her human being who is able to live in a variety of locales and be 'at home' to some degree.

And i would hope you realize that being 'from' someplace is pretty meaningless in this modern world where so many people are so mobile. When people ask me where i'm from i usually ask them to be more specific: Where was i born, early childhood, teens, where i've lived the longest, where i live now? Generalizations and stereotypes about national or regional 'character' traits are as meaningless as racial, religious and gender ones.
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Graham meant no harm. I was not in the least offended feywon! I do not see anything wrong in his curiosity.
 
Shero said:
Graham meant no harm. I was not in the least offended feywon! I do not see anything wrong in his curiosity.
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I was once asked my name (by a lady whose first name was "Ruvinnie"), and when I told her Graham, she said "No, your surname"!

I stood corrected, because she was right, I hadn't identified myself by just giving her my Christian name, (this was at a conference, where the lady carried some weight, and the other interesting thing was the reaction of some other delegates when she approached me, they "skeddadled"!).

If everyone answered the question, "Where are you from"?, by stating "The Earth", there would obviously be no reason to ask the question. It doesn't mean I stereotype people by their country of birth, or nationality, but people do have differing experiences based upon where they grew up etc., and this is of interest, if not healthy intrigue, if its a land I'm unfamiliar with, or have never knowingly conversed with anyone from that land.

Now back to the business of "knocking our exes"! :)
 
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feywon said:
It makes her human being who is able to live in a variety of locales and be 'at home' to some degree.

And i would hope you realize that being 'from' someplace is pretty meaningless in this modern world where so many people are so mobile. When people ask me where i'm from i usually ask them to be more specific: Where was i born, early childhood, teens, where i've lived the longest, where i live now? Generalizations and stereotypes about national or regional 'character' traits are as meaningless as racial, religious and gender ones.
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Are you a human being or an algorithm, (rhetorical question, no need to answer of course!)?
People used to ask where I come from, "Which cricket team do you support"?, (they thought this significant at the time, though funnily enough I don't always support my own country's sports teams, especially if they're behaving arrogantly in my view).

Do jump in on whoever's behalf you feel the need to, " I'm sure they appreciate it"! :)
 
feywon said:
Actually i didn't do it on Shero's 'behalf' i know she's quite capable of speaking for herself. It was just an observation.
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Anyone "jumping in on behalf of someone" could claim that though, not that I'm doubting you in any way, and the matters surely closed since the forum member who might have disliked my question didn't! :)
 
charry said:
GreAt Thread Grahamg
I can let it all out 😂😂
My ex was one obnoxious , controlling , nasty bully........who could never control me lol
So out he went, ,!......pathetic man.........
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"I think I can see what's you're coming from there"! :(

The word "controlling" turns up quite often I feel, as to what went wrong, but when you try to think about my fathers estimation of what it meant to get married, "It was like entering a boxing ring"! (a psychological boxing ring he meant), even happy marriages can be a rocky road can't they! :)
 
More expert opinion:
https://www.today.com/health/why-couples-get-divorced-t117476

"Why do couples divorce? These 6 reasons are often to blame
Divorce is common in the U.S., but why? What makes a couple decide to throw in the towel? A relationship expert weighs in.

By Bela Gandhi
More recent breakups by celebrities lead them to talk publicly about their decision to split with their spouses — to the chagrin of fans who, from the outside, saw happy and stable marriages.
And its not just celebrities who are calling it quits: According to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention, by the first five years of marriage, 22 percent of couples experience some form of "marital disruption," which refers to separation, divorce or death. After 20 years of marriage, 53 percent of marriages have been disrupted."
 
grahamg said:
More expert opinion:
https://www.today.com/health/why-couples-get-divorced-t117476

"Why do couples divorce? These 6 reasons are often to blame
Divorce is common in the U.S., but why? What makes a couple decide to throw in the towel? A relationship expert weighs in.

By Bela Gandhi
More recent breakups by celebrities lead them to talk publicly about their decision to split with their spouses — to the chagrin of fans who, from the outside, saw happy and stable marriages.
And its not just celebrities who are calling it quits: According to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention, by the first five years of marriage, 22 percent of couples experience some form of "marital disruption," which refers to separation, divorce or death. After 20 years of marriage, 53 percent of marriages have been disrupted."
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I lasted 15 years.
 
grahamg said:
I can see some people are struggling with the thread topic so here is a bit of research into it:

https://www.divorce-online.co.uk/blog/reasons-for-divorce/

  • Couples just stopped loving each other.
  • The other party being bad with money.
  • The other party having personal problems.
  • Lack of love and affection.
  • Lack of sex.
  • Lack of communication.
  • Addictions.
  • Money Issues
  • Cheating/Adultery
  • Abuse.

More here too:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/mar/13/the-top-10-reasons-why-couples-argue
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And this is just the list put forward by those "mysterious Ex's".

Now let's have the list of fault found by the "victims". Before reading some of these forums, I never knew there was such an evil group as "the ex's". Hope I never run across one!
 
DaveA said:
And this is just the list put forward by those "mysterious Ex's".

Now let's have the list of fault found by the "victims". Before reading some of these forums, I never knew there was such an evil group as "the ex's". Hope I never run across one!
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Just for the record, my ex wasn't evil, as far as I'm aware no one else discussing their exes on this thread have called them evil, so carry on in whatever way you wish, but please don't mislead or obsfucate on this thread, if you don't mind!
 
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