Sometime before i pass on

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Sometime before I pass on, I'd really like to know if there is anything that takes a woman's breath away, anything that causes her to feel a deep sense of desire.

Men, as a general rule, are not very complicated creatures. Although there are a few exceptions, we all want pretty much the same things. We look forward to a decent meal, most of us enjoy sporting events, and we go batty over a beautiful woman.
Tastes may differ, but there is not a man alive that has not seen some stunningly gorgeous woman and said to himself, "OH. MY. GOD". This is accompanied by a sharp intake of breath and a deep sense of longing for the unattainable.

Women know, with absolute certainty, exactly how to get a man's undivided attention. Think back to a time when we were younger and our hormones were running wild. It may have happened at a social occasion, when suddenly we were aware that an attractive woman was smiling at us, in that special way. If she is seriously interested in him, she knows what to do. All she has to do is walk over to him and position herself within a few inches of him, look into his eyes and smile. Instantly, the hormones are raging. She has landed him !

Yes, I know, women, as a general rule, are not ready for sex at the drop of a hat. But is there anything, anything at all, which causes a woman to have a comparable feeling of desire ?

It is claimed that Sigmund Freud once asked, at the end of his career, "What the hell do women want"?
Seriously, before I die, I'd dearly love an answer to that question. :confused:
 

Many things, not necessarily all of them.

A resonant, deep, masculine voice.
A straight back and broad shoulders.
Listening at least as much as talking.
Clean hair and fingernails.
Kindness to animals.
Sense of fun.

Does that help?
 
oooh for me it's definitely some -one who listens and has empathy.. someone who enjoys talking and contributing to a conversation and enjoys it.

Someone who laughs readily..


...and a definite turn on for me is an educated man...I would fall for an unattractive professor or a perceived unattractive but Intelligent blue collar worker very much more than a super handsome unintelligent Actor for example.....and also anyone who has a musical talent will get me every time..
 
Kind to animals and small children.
Quirky sense of humour.
Intelligent, original mind.
Able to be emotional.
Passionate about what is important to him.
Excellent communication skills, enjoys conversation.
Empathetic.
Beautiful hands. Not a prerequisite, of course.
Loves water.
Ethical/compassionate.
Willing to be silly, and play with me. That is a game changer.
Imagination.
 
In addition to all of the above, I think women are drawn toward an "alpha male" type. By that, I definitely don't mean a swaggering, bossy type. I mean a man who seems to understand what is right, and what is important in life, and takes positive steps to pursue those things. And can be counted on to be loyal and protective. In other words, a man who is internally strong, and hopefully somewhat wise as well.
 
Tall
Broad shoulders
Nice hair
Good teeth
Articulate, educated
Hygiene - clean & smells good
Twinkle in his eye
Knows how to fix things
Nice to employees in stores & restaurants
 
Men and women are just wired differently.
Men turn on by simply a body or a body part.
Women are wired to turn on to many things beyond the physique, that lead to the long term protection of the family.

It makes me laugh when I hear of men sending or texting a photo of one body part to a woman convinced it will turn her on because that would turn him on.

Lol, NOT! If she says it does, she's probably lying .
 
But is there anything, anything at all, which causes a woman to have a comparable feeling of desire ?
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Yes, and it's called----LOVE. :) And that takes time knowing a person. Doesn't even have to start as an instant attraction. It's interesting how another person's looks can change over time as feelings grow. That's probably explains why people can look at couples and wonder why one person is attracted to their partner when to an onlooker he or she is just not really attractive compared to the other. Kind of like the song "Looking Through the Eyes of Love" by Melissa Manchester.
 
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This:glittered:....finding it is the hard part.
 
Well, this is getting quite interesting. So far, the overwhelming #1 trait most admired by women is some variation on the following: kindness, empathy, compassion, and protective.

There is a 2nd place tie between grooming/hygiene and intelligence.

One person mentioned, tall. Just out of curiosity, what happened to, "Tall, Dark and Handsome ? Or is that a thing of novels and Hollywood ?
 
Traveler said:
Well, this is getting quite interesting. So far, the overwhelming #1 trait most admired by women is some variation on the following: kindness, empathy, compassion, and protective.

There is a 2nd place tie between grooming/hygiene and intelligence.

One person mentioned, tall. Just out of curiosity, what happened to, "Tall, Dark and Handsome ? Or is that a thing of novels and Hollywood ?
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Tall, dark, and handsome is a lovely visual, but not enough to build a relationship on. My son’s father was the most gorgeous man I have ever seen, although, tall, blond, and handsome. Loll. He would have given the statue of David a run for it’s money. Sadly, he was Peter Pan, and with very few ethics. Eventually, we parted ways. My son now thanks me for that difficult choice, as his dad became violent in later years. ( After we were split up.)
 
Well, handsome isn't out of the equation entirely, but the other factors are much more important. What makes a man attractive to us or sexy, is most of the above. An aura of masculinity can be much more powerful than a handsome face.

A muscular physique often signals to us that the family will be protected, just as bosoms signal to men that a woman can feed and keep his progeny alive. It's not in so many words or thoughts....it's instinct.
 
Olivia said:


Yes, and it's called----LOVE. :) And that takes time knowing a person. Doesn't even have to start as an instant attraction.
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I have to agree with Olivia about the love, there doesn't have to be an instant attraction, but it doesn't hurt. :)
 
RadishRose said:
Well, handsome isn't out of the equation entirely, but the other factors are much more important. What makes a man attractive to us or sexy, is most of the above. An aura of masculinity can be much more powerful than a handsome face.

A muscular physique often signals to us that the family will be protected, just as bosoms signal to men that a woman can feed and keep his progeny alive. It's not in so many words or thoughts....it's instinct.
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Rose, when you say "an aura of masculinity" are you referring to a "muscular physique"?
 
No, much more than that-all the things we've been listing, intelligence, the kindness and courtesy that come with emotional maturity. It's the whole package. Some women respond more to some components of that package more than others.

For instance, while I do appreciate a healthy build, intelligence, good humor and acting like an adult always meant far more to me; those are qualities that move me to love, If not for that, why bother?

A man who looks like a Greek god can come along and act like a baby, selfish, weak, childish, mean and/or brutish; decidedly un-masculine.
 
I like a man who is chivalrous. Someone who holds open doors and pulls out chairs for a lady, helps her if she is in need or distress. Caring and commitment are the most attractive qualities a man can possess. A man who makes me feel like his queen, and who is my friend day in and day out is someone I find hard to resist. A man who is artistic, romantic, whimsical but also practical would be completely irresistible to me. Politeness and caring are the first signals that a guy would be someone I'd want to know better. Maybe this is boring, but it's me.

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I feel in love with my husband the first minute I met him. After being married now for just 52yrs our love has grown minute to minute. In spite of the opposite things about us,I can always see love in his eyes for me and mine for him. When we met we both were in relationships with others. By the end of the night he had broken up with his girlfriend and I had broken up with my boyfriend. What won me over was simply the look of love in his eyes he had for me and he still has that look.
 
Chic, not at all boring. I appreciate you comments.

Pregunta: Where does being a good provider enter the picture ?
 

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