I am only into 2 months of retirement so am still in the enjoying doing nothing stage. However I do spend a few hours in forums providing information and advise since I have been there and done that many times. I did not realize how many marriages are unhappy until I started joining sites about marriage and relationships. I am married 46 years and we have had a great life and still madly in love. Very surprised how spouses cannot compromise or solve the many problems that living with another person come your way. My message is usually something along the lines that rather than go down with the ship when the marriage structure handed to them does not work, perhaps they should swim to another ship.