What other people think of you is none of your business

hollydolly

hollydolly

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What Other people think of you is none of your business... a 90 year old Ohio lady Regina Brett wrote that among many other sentinents ...do you agree with it?

Do you mind a lot what others' think of you ,?
 

That depends. Are we talking negative feelings? If so, I Agree AND disagree... I agree so long as they keep their opinions to themselves. I disagree the minute their opinion negatively impacts me..
 
Josiah said:
I'm not sure I agree with my fellow Ohioan. I strive to have people think well of me and so how well I succeed is of some importance to me.
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I believe we all would like people to think well of us.. but let's face it.. That's not always the case, and many times we have no control over how others perceive us. I still don't see how it doesn't become our business if someone is being malicious or causing an impact on us in some way.. socially or financially..
 
QuickSilver said:
That depends. Are we talking negative feelings? If so, I Agree AND disagree... I agree so long as they keep their opinions to themselves. I disagree the minute their opinion negatively impacts me..
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That, mess with my livelihood, we're going to have a conversation. :mad: Otherwise, carry on.

Not to say, it isn't nice when you know you are liked, cared for and loved. :) on the other hand, haters going to hate, hate, hate. LOL, wiser words never spoken by a pop singer.

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hollydolly said:
What Other people think of you is none of your business... a 90 year old Ohio lady Regina Brett wrote that among many other sentinents ...do you agree with it?

Do you mind a lot what others' think of you ,?
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Holly, first of all, I love that cute little chick avatar! :love_heart:

I do care what others think of me, especially if I think highly of them. I want them to think highly of me in return. If they don't think highly of me, I'd like to know so that I can either avoid them or try to improve the relationship if it seems worth the effort. So is it "my business"? I'd have to say yes, in a way, it is. I would tend not to agree with the Ohio lady.
 
Although I'm aware that I have no real control over what others think of me, I'd rather be liked. Just as I find I don't like everyone I meet, sometimes for no apparent reason I can think of. It works the other way round too. Good communication and good relationships are important for so many reasons, some very practical, that if things aren't working out, I want to know why. Sometimes the other person is just negative or having a bad day/life, sometimes its me. If I make an effort and am considerate, I find the interaction turns out well.
 
I care about what others think of me, but not to the point that their opinion will change me. Since my wife likes my personality, that is the only person I need to listen to. I already know that many older folks, don't like my humorous side because they don't like much humor or sarcasm. I have both and, again, my wife loves it. They are extremely serious about life, in which I am, but then again, I'm not. I talk about how much I love my wife and being married. Those that don't believe/like "love" or "marriage" really need to stay away from me. I'm very pro-law enforcement and many folks don't feel that way. "Oh well" is all I can say.

When a person tells another person the truth/reality of what they see in another person, some people get really offended by that. It seems like all some people want to hear about themselves is the good/nice things. A truthful/real person will say both the positive and negative. Perhaps if the person who is feeling offended would just think about what's being said about them, they could learn things about themselves and take that as a plus, not a minus.
 
I want people that I know, and like and respect ,to like me obviously, but people who I don't know, or don't know well?I don't think that their opinion of me matters, and they may well be judging me on one remark or something that I once said or did. I wouldn't allow it to concern me.
 
If I were a celeb or a politician, someone whose fortunes rise or fall on popularity, then yes I'd be concerned. Most of those types have spin control / rep management people in the wings to handle that kind of work.

As for what others think being my business? Insofar as it doesn't directly affect me or mine, I don't care.
 
Though everyone would prefer to be liked....if it does not impact my life, I do not really care what others think of me.
 
I know a lot of people don't think much of me or even like me. In fact, I can say that over the years many more have hated me than liked me. But, that's the way it is being a cop. I can't remember anyone telling me how nice a guy that I was while they were sitting in the back of my cruiser. Oh , wait, yes there were a few that I had to take to an auto repair shop to have their car looked at while it was sitting out on the freeway or turnpike. They told me how kind I was not to make them stay with their car and take a chance of getting picked up by a predator or worse. After midnight people become really grateful out on the highways when they break down and I would roll up behind them and turn the lights on. The first words out of their mouth was, "Oh thank God you showed up."
 
If we're talking people I care about, of course I care on most levels as to what they think, but, those whom just want to find reason to critique me to justify their own reasons to like or dislike me, no, can't be concerned with those folks, unless, as I said in earlier post, I have a stake in what they think of me. In general, I try to live my life harmoniously, anyway, without altering my true self, this does at times seem to cause issues though for some.
 
911 said:
I know a lot of people don't think much of me or even like me. In fact, I can say that over the years many more have hated me than liked me. But, that's the way it is being a cop. I can't remember anyone telling me how nice a guy that I was while they were sitting in the back of my cruiser. Oh , wait, yes there were a few that I had to take to an auto repair shop to have their car looked at while it was sitting out on the freeway or turnpike. They told me how kind I was not to make them stay with their car and take a chance of getting picked up by a predator or worse. After midnight people become really grateful out on the highways when they break down and I would roll up behind them and turn the lights on. The first words out of their mouth was, "Oh thank God you showed up."
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911, on the contrary, I'll bet you were appreciated a lot more than you let on.
 
AprilT said:
If we're talking people I care about, of course I care on most levels as to what they think, but, those whom just want to find reason to critique me to justify their own reasons to like or dislike me, no, can't be concerned with those folks, unless, as I said in earlier post, I have a stake in what they think of me. In general, I try to live my life harmoniously, anyway, without altering my true self, this does at times seem to cause issues though for some.
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I find this often too April...for some reason the way I live my life albeit perfectly legally and to me normally..seems to upset certain people..why I have no idea...but sometimes I think that it's just down to plain old envy, whether that's materialistic, or my opinions , or my lifestyle I know not , but some get eaten up with opinions about me that are usually false and vindictive...sad people..but do I care?..I used to, I was a desperate people pleaser ...not any more ...I am a good person and if that bothers some people then the problem doesn't lie with me..
 
hollydolly said:
What Other people think of you is none of your business... a 90 year old Ohio lady Regina Brett wrote that among many other sentinents ...do you agree with it?

Do you mind a lot what others' think of you ,?
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My mother told me there was a saying in German "your thoughts are your own" She said it sounded better in German but that was what the saying meant. I think that is what this is also. What others "think" of you is none of your business because you'll never know.

Now when people open their big mouths and say things that are negative to you, that's something else.
 
Kitties said:
My mother told me there was a saying in German "your thoughts are your own" She said it sounded better in German but that was what the saying meant. I think that is what this is also. What others "think" of you is none of your business because you'll never know.

Now when people open their big mouths and say things that are negative to you, that's something else.
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I like your mother's saying and I agree. When I was a young teenagager, a group of young girls I knew very well, were in another room gossiping about me, I never would have cared, but, the fact that, I could hear each word, was annoying, so I knocked on their room door and asked them to please lower their voices because I could hear every word and I'd much rather not. You should have seen the look on their faces. I won't say, I didn't completely care, one was supposed to be a good friend, but, this was par for course in those days, that's just something I had to learn to deal with all the time, no matter how much I minded my own business. Some girl or girls were always looking to pick a fight with me and you'd never met a person that had no idea why 90% of the time.
 
Sometimes, even though we've all been grown up for a long time, life can be like a movie about high school. You never know what's going on in someone else's mind or why they react the way they do or what their issues are. Best to just keep moving along.
 
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