Will you attend funerals of family members who live far away?

I'm assuming you have family in the Old Country?
That is a very hard ask.

We only have to cover eastern Australia and we have always ensured that the family is represented by at least one or two of us. We have, in the past, chipped in to help with travel expenses.
 
Distance would not be as important as how much they meant to me. I wouldn't attend most of my family members' funerals if they lived next door.
My brother was the only one who attended our mother's funeral; because he's just like her. It was only 12 miles away.
 
mike4lorie said:
Not a lot of people talk to me now that Mom is gone... So I probably wouldn't hurry to many of their funerals...
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sorry to hear that mike. I've gradually lost touch with my family (brothers) over the years. I have little in common and we don't get on like we used to. We've all changed. We grew up together. We had the same parents. But there's nothing to glue us together these days.
 
All of my family except one are on the West Coast very far from me. Only one comes to visit here now a days. I have my pets and no one else to care for them. So, as much as I'd feel awful about it I wouldn't be able to attend. I really hope they live long lives.
 
I think what you call a "family" changes over time. When I was a kid, my grand parents were alive , I belonged to their family. But once they passed, the "family" split into their children's families. Gradually, all those "families" tended to fade away. There weren't any huge gatherings anymore. It was my mom & dad's family. When they passed, it again was a loose association of the sibling's families, that gradually drifted away. I really haven't seen my cousins in decades. While we have memories of growing up together, I wouldn't recognized them.
 
I have a very small family. I travel only about four hours for some of them. The rest of my family would be about sixteen hours away, but I would go, if I could make it there for the services.
 
My sister lives in England and I've never been 'across the pond' so I don't know what I would do
My brother lives in Conn,as for my cousins a couple live in VT,others live around the country.The last time I saw my VT cousins was 3 yrs ago,they came to Buffalo for another cousin's memorial service
 
When I lost my older brother,even though he lived hundreds of miles away I would have gone, but I found out about his death on Facebook. His daughter didn't even bother to call me or my sister to tell us. She had a Memorial service for him after he was cremated. I saw no reason to go so neither me or my sister went.
 
No more attending any family funerals for me ......( as usual I was asked for money to buy cigarettes)
I’m way to old to be bothered with their fighting and arguing ,the last one I attended was for a brother 11 years younger than myself, about 14 months ago ..he was 61 ....it was stressful looking at his last goodbye ,he’d never saved a dime in his life , so his farewell was a paupers funeral, ( like a hard cardboard box ) his partner/ Kids didn’t even bother about buying a flower or anything to place on his coffin ..she openly admitted she wanted that money to play the pokies after the brief service .....the 3 younger brothers / 1 sister that are left will go the same way IMO.
Other than that all the family I was close to have died
 
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I have two immediate family members left and both have said that they will not have any sort of funeral ceremony.

I hope that they stick with that plan but if they don't I will make an effort to attend.

I have left instructions for my own direct cremation and burial. If people want to pay me a visit after I'm settled in my new digs I'm fine with that.
 
I would attend my mother and father-in-law’s funeral, they’ve always been very kind and loving to me.
 
My wife's Brother-in-law, in Idaho, passed away in early July....age 84, massive heart attack. It happened suddenly, with no previous indications of health problems, and he passed quickly. We quickly started checking on flights, etc., as soon as we got word, but her Sister said not to come, as they were just having a small quiet ceremony and cremation 3 days later. Their kids came in from Seattle and Las Vegas, and had a short visit. Having to go that distance with such a short notice would have been a major hassle, and probably not worth it.
 
Just my brother's
Or, he'll come to mine

We've got cousins, but less than half of them are left
Speaking of 'left'...... got into a pretty big political row with a good lot of them

For them, I might go

Just to make sure
 
The only family that we have left are our children. grand children and great grands. All of my close cousins with the exception of one, have died. With the exception of one grandson and wife, all the rest are within a 2 hour radius from our home. All 4 of our kids are very close with their siblings and the grandkids as well. We all see each other regularly and naturally, we would attend a funeral for any of them. Hopefully that won't be necessary and we'll be leaving before them although our DIL (age 55) is suffering from cancer at present and the prognosis isn't that good.
 

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