Polygamy

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I didn't want to hijack the thread about the Mormons in Mexico, but I have wondered about this for a long time. Why is polygamy so hated by many in the western world? After all, it exists in the Bible, and has continuously existed throughout human history. If people choose that lifestyle, who is it harming? And why the intense feeling against it?

The TV series Big Love explored this subject in a very interesting way. Did anyone else watch it?
 

I didn't want to hijack the thread about the Mormons in Mexico, but I have wondered about this for a long time. Why is polygamy so hated by many in the western world? After all, it exists in the Bible, and has continuously existed throughout human history. If people choose that lifestyle, who is it harming? And why the intense feeling against it?

The TV series Big Love explored this subject in a very interesting way. Did anyone else watch it?

I think the stumbling block is the marriage of the young girls to the elders @ an inappropriate age.

As for the adults, I agree.......do what ever it is they want.
 

No, I didn't see that show but I have seen others.

These splinter groups who (illegally) practice polygamy incite jealousies not only among the wives but also the children. Incest is not unusual.

Fathers can't support all these kids usually, and then they go on welfare, beg and dumpster dive.
Their homes aren't usually like the nice places like on Sister Wives. They're often dumps, leaky trailers and the likes.

Women are brainwashed to believe if they break away they'll go to hell. They're forced to marry old men who may also be uncles or first cousins.

No woman should be forced to marry, period.

Read about Warren Jeffs, for instance. He's in jail for life.

Teen aged males are often turned out to the streets on their own (the lost boys, they are called) so the old farts can have the younger girls.

I saw at least one escaped woman on a tv interview say these groups are not about religion as much as they are about sex.

Polygamy is illegal in Mexico too, but authorities look the other way like we used to do.

These splinter groups are NOT affiliated with the Church of LDS who obey the law.
 
Polygamy had its place in ancient times, when there was an excess of women with no protection of marriage, i.e. after a war. This also allowed more children per "family", which was needed to support a farm.

I don't have a problem with what consenting adults do (this does not include 13 year old girls). I do have a problem when 7 of the 8 wives troop themselves (and their 25 children) down to the welfare office and claim to be single mothers. You're either married or not......you can't be both.

I had a friend who was born into a polygamous family in Montana. She has nothing good to say about it.
 
Some people object to Muslim women wearing the hijab & burka and being one amongst four wives. Others object to Mormon polygamy for similar reasons -- women are subservient in these societies. Just because one is consenting to their own subservience doesn't make it any different from what it is.
 
I didn't want to hijack the thread about the Mormons in Mexico, but I have wondered about this for a long time. Why is polygamy so hated by many in the western world? After all, it exists in the Bible, and has continuously existed throughout human history. If people choose that lifestyle, who is it harming? And why the intense feeling against it?

The TV series Big Love explored this subject in a very interesting way. Did anyone else watch it?
I wouldn't care if adults joined the lifestyle or if children were allowed to leave if they wanted to, but there's a lot of pressure against them leaving. Sometimes the girls are married off at a very young age to men old enough to be their fathers. And the older and wealthier men get their pick of the youngest and prettiest girls. I'm sure there are exceptions to what I said but it's pretty much the norm in the cult. Polygamy is no longer legal in the US but there are rogue cults that still practice it. And the only reason in Utah that polygamy became illegal is because the law had to be met for Utah to be allowed into the Union.

Just because it existed in the bible does not make it right. David and Solomon had hundreds of wives, why did they need so many wives?
 
A long time ago I watched a documentary but forgot most of the details, of course.

There were four wives and one of them was a lawyer, she was the main provider. They asked her why. She said the lifestyle provided most of her needs. She didn't really like sex, didn't like to cook or housekeeping, wanted to be married and have sisters and a family. The husband was over 50 for sure or maybe 60, scruffy looking, overweight, lazy and didn't do much.

There was also a young girl living in the house who had been ''given'' to the guy in marriage and they were waiting for her to reach 14 or 15 (I forget) so that he could marry her. They asked him if he was looking forward to the wedding day and he got this creepy grin on his face. YUCK!
 
I started watching "Big Love" a few years ago but gave it away. For some reason I didn't like it. Probably, the swearing which seems to be in demand these days in movies & TV series.
 
Due to the fact that I am not a Mormon, I do not have a strong opinion on this subject. To me, it's live & let live. Each to their own. Whatever turns their clock is alright with me as long as they don't hurt anyone. However, a 50 year old man marrying a 16 year old girl! Now, that's a hot potato that I ain't gonna touch!
 
I don't think I ever heard of a woman with multiple husbands???
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Oh yes , it's called Polyandry or to be Polyandrus, is to have more than one husband..and although not as common as the other way around, still quite well known despite being illegal.
I've read that the oldest husband lays claims to all the children since it would be impossible to know for sure who fathered which child.
 
POLYANDRY =
Polyandry was common in areas of the world where resources such as land and food were scarce, but women were allowed to own property. It was at one time practiced in Tibet, but Chinese occupation outlawed the practice, though it still occurs in the Yunnan and Sichuan regions of China. It is still practiced in parts of Africa such as Kenya, Tanzania and Nigeria, as well as parts of South America and India.

Generally, where the practice was followed, a man who desired to marry a woman met with the woman's parents. If they came to an agreement, the man married the woman. If a second man also desired to marry the woman, he spoke with the woman's parents, and unless the first husband presented a dowry large enough to create a monogamous relationship, the second man also married the woman. The family then all lived in the same home.

The vast majority of polyandrous marriages involved a woman who married two or more brothers. Known as fraternal polyandry, this process was considered more stable than nonfraternal polyandry, the marriage of one woman to several non-related men. Two or more related men were more likely to care for all of the children of the relationship than men who had no familial ties to each other.
 

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