Dating After 50

Thank you, Gaer. I do think Loretta could have gotten married at 103 if she was around. I did watch her show once in awhile when I was younger. Loved the way she entered that room through the door.
 

MarciKS said:
Just because it's not a dating site doesn't mean that sexual predators aren't gonna go there. That is why they tell you those things. But it won't keep them from following you home.
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And not just sexual predators. Financial predators, too. And all kinds of God know what other predators. That guy who says he's a 60 year old widower looking for companionship may be just that, or he could be a guy looking for someone gullible to fleece, or worse. And some of those guys are very slick and know just what to say to entice a potential victim.

I think the advice Jeni was talking about above is very sound.
 
I knew a disabled guy who I did some free work for until I found out he was supplementing his disability income by getting women he met on the internet to help him with his phone bill. He would repay them quickly. When they sent enough to help with rent he would ghost them. I discovered this one day when in his glee, he showed me an $800. dollar check he had just received. I try not to mistrust anyone's intent until they show there colors.
 

The current generation has the term "incel" to describe those guys who are said to be involuntarily celibate. Dunno if there is a similar term for females in this category. It largely describes me as it does most single guys. But hey, that's life.
 
I pretty much gave up "dating" by the time I was 50. It's too much trouble. I did meet my wife when I was well over 50 but she's 22 years younger than me and I thought she was only going to be my friend. She had other ideas. We ended up getting married and we have a son together who was born when I was 60. He's 14 now.

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Ruthanne said:
I was chatting with a man at a dating site and I guess I took too long, in his opinion, to try to get to know him. He quit chatting with me. I find many of the guys who contact me want to go off the site right away. The site warns not to do go off the site with the person too quickly.

So, now I am chatting with 3 other guys there trying to get to know them and decide if I want to meet any of them.

I want to meet someone but am not desperate and do okay on my own, too.

Is anyone else dating or trying to date at this age?
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You ought to try dating after 70.
After my wife passed away, I found I didn't know much about dating.
A companion might be nice. Someone to go to a movie with, or fish'n a walk etc.
I've got family and grand kids in the area so I'm not alone but live alone.
 
Frogfur said:
You ought to try dating after 70.
After my wife passed away, I found I didn't know much about dating.
A companion might be nice. Someone to go to a movie with, or fish'n a walk etc.
I've got family and grand kids in the area so I'm not alone but live alone.
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That shouldn't be too difficult to arrange. I'll bet there are lots of elderly women who'd love to spend some easy time with you. The only problem I can see is deciding which one to choose.
 
Verisure said:
That shouldn't be too difficult to arrange. I'll bet there are lots of elderly women who'd love to spend some easy time with you. The only problem I can see is deciding which one to choose.
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I wish that were true. But folks seem scared of one another and mis trustful. I understand that.
I'm not stupid, but i don't want to spend the rest of my days thinking everyone I meet is out to use or abuse me either.
I don't need someone to take care of me. I'm fine. But some adults conversation would be nice at times.
 
Well, I'm not sure anymore that I want to be alone the rest of my life. So, I might look around. Not going to go on a site though.
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He would have to be pretty incredible! kind of a Shakespearian Grizzly Adams who likes old rock and roll!
Ha! I'm so weird, He would have to be so indulgent! He would have to have a personality through the roof!
 
Verisure said:
I pretty much gave up "dating" by the time I was 50. It's too much trouble. I did meet my wife when I was well over 50 but she's 22 years younger than me and I thought she was only going to be my friend. She had other ideas. We ended up getting married and we have a son together who was born when I was 60. He's 14 now.
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Same here. I did date after 50, but swore to myself I'd remain a bachelor till death.
Then I met Michelle early this year and we married a couple months ago. Best thing to happen to me in a very long time.
 
Ruthanne said:
I was chatting with a man at a dating site and I guess I took too long, in his opinion, to try to get to know him. He quit chatting with me. I find many of the guys who contact me want to go off the site right away. The site warns not to do go off the site with the person too quickly.

So, now I am chatting with 3 other guys there trying to get to know them and decide if I want to meet any of them.

I want to meet someone but am not desperate and do okay on my own, too.

Is anyone else dating or trying to date at this age?
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I met my second late husband on a dating site. I'm now in my mid-seventies and any man still alive at this age seems to have serious issues. But I keep trying!
 
Dancing_Queen said:
I met my second late husband on a dating site. I'm now in my mid-seventies and any man still alive at this age seems to have serious issues. But I keep trying!
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About the same age! I was against younger men but there must be some younger men who are intelligent, aware and capable of love.
So I've opened up to new possibilities! Why not younger? I feel and look younger than my chronological age.
If we are healthy and active, why should we limit ourselves to older men? We don't need their liabilities or "serious issues".
Just thinkin!
 
Gaer said:
About the same age! I was against younger men but there must be some younger men who are intelligent, aware and capable of love.
So I've opened up to new possibilities! Why not younger? I feel and look younger than my chronological age.
If we are healthy and active, why should we limit ourselves to older men? We don't need their liabilities or "serious issues".
Just thinkin!
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I do a search beginning at 65. I figure that any man younger than that who would want a woman that much older is probably looking for someone to support him. But, if he wants to find me, go ahead.
 
Frogfur said:
I wish that were true. But folks seem scared of one another and mis trustful. I understand that.
I'm not stupid, but i don't want to spend the rest of my days thinking everyone I meet is out to use or abuse me either.
I don't need someone to take care of me. I'm fine. But some adults conversation would be nice at times.
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I'm sure you are speaking from experience but mine tells me that the older people get the more open, honest, and friendly they become with others of their own age. I believe there are tons of men and women in the very same situation as you and would just love to meet you and others for the same companionship that you yearn for. I don't belong to any club or evening class where people often meet but I do ride the city buses (in the elderly seats up-front) and it is astounding how easily strangers of my own age open themselves up to discussion in those few minutes talking about taboo political subjects about which younger people would only speak in whispers amongst themselves at home. Social contact is very difficult to come by in Sweden so it is highly pleasurable to meet people who say what's on their mind without any hindrance at all. It's great to be a senior citizen! (y)
 
Dancing_Queen said:
I do a search beginning at 65. I figure that any man younger than that who would want a woman that much older is probably looking for someone to support him. But, if he wants to find me, go ahead.
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The problem might be that ....... you're a teaser, you turn 'em on, leave 'em burning and then you're gone. :)
 
Verisure said:
The problem might be that ....... you're a teaser, you turn 'em on, leave 'em burning and then you're gone. :)
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I'm sorry, but I don't understand. I search for men beginning at the age of 65 because I don't think anyone younger than that will show an interest. However, if someone younger would make the contact, I'd treat him the same as I would an older man.
 
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