The "Alone" Club

dseag2 said:
Welcome. It is always so hard to lose our "kids" who happen to be animals. We have put down so many of our precious cats. Please don't give up on life. The members on SF are always so supportive. Don't be shy about sharing your concerns. We are all here for you.
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thanks, it does seem supportive here. :)

and thanks down the thread for the idealist site.

i think a variety of co-housing situations would benefit a lot of us. some are new to being alone, some know
it well. with age its nice to be around similar others, i think. its safer and its community and has purpose.
we're all taught and told living, being, 'independent' is the only way to go here...meanwhile, thats not accurate
across the board. community is a good thing, imo.

yes this has changed for me the last few years after living alone for so long. i think that comes with age. change.
 

CrowFlies said:
hi. new here. new and old, both here. im struggling with this. i buried my last horse a few years ago
and have not been the same since.
the 19yr feral cat then passed and i was....alone. no dogs cats horses, or, family. just me, alone on the earth.

id say it was the first time but i didnt have much close family growing up either, and it seems the men in my
life orbit were all quite similar from my father to my son. not sure what that was about. i always 'did' things
and they seemed to just watch.

anyhow, after ranching a long time and burying animals and family here i am...alone. and old.
i spent many years alone in the middle of a lot of mountain land, alone with horses dogs cats, wildlife.
alone without other humans i should say. the gate was always locked and i only saw other humans when
i went for mail or groceries.

now being alone doesnt feel so fun.
its nice to see this board and thanks for being here and sharing.
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I know, I'm alone. I have my cats. Please get a pet. I don't know how I'd be without the cats. They keep me going. I'm so sorry you are mourning your departed animals so much.

I'd have loved to live in the country but it always seemed too scary being on my own.
 

Remy said:
I know, I'm alone. I have my cats. Please get a pet. I don't know how I'd be without the cats. They keep me going. I'm so sorry you are mourning your departed animals so much.

I'd have loved to live in the country but it always seemed too scary being on my own.
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hey thanks. i do have a Daisy dog. i was without any animal about 6mos during which time i drove to canada
and spent some time trying to relieve the grief along the lake outside Kelowna.

when i came back to the SW in RV there happened to be a noxious situation across from me at this RV
park, old guy who did Not want the dog someone talked him into getting. i had hoped hed give me the dog.
before the SWAT team arrived as he was waving weapons around, he had told the neighbor to 'get the gd
dog outta here.'

so, she did. once the SWAT scene wrapped about 3am, i asked if she was able to keep the dog. she was not.
so Daisy came to live with me and she is Very glad about that. as am i. we are two peas for sure.
a very good match, as tho i was sppsd to come back here and she was looking for me. :):)

someone had abandoned the dog he got. she was so scared of him. from my place shed growl if she heard
his voice. growl if she saw him. soon we left that part of the state.
the first time i took her to hike a mountain trail---Not sure what shed do unfenced---she ran off about 25ft and
turned to look for me! HOORAY!!! i was so glad to see that in her. she wont go far out there without me.
we always turn to look for each other when we're out in it. that is such a great trait.
so yah Daisy and me we buds.

i just want one day longer than my dog.
unless...im in some kinda co housing situation with other animals and have that to keep me going.

thanks so much for this forum brd. its a big comfort to come and talk about these things.

ive found since being in my 70s, now 74...people tend to back away when they know you are in your 70's.
sixties were diff, no one seemed to mind that; seventies took on a whole nuther behavior?...nuther
attitude?...nuther something.

im sure some of it was me, ive been in shock since my 70's, the big griefs hit And i got old.
im pissed about both.

thanks yall.
i dont know how to do anything tech on this brd so i shall look bland and boring for now. :)
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I've always been a loner, so I'm quite happy being alone. That's not to say that I'm antisocial. I do like to be in the company of others. It's just I don't need them sleeping next to me all the time.
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yah, i agree.
my dog, she can sleep next to me below my knees so i can turn to that side. :)

i think we, many of us, could co-house.
there are a number of ways to build simple structures that allow for independence and also companionship
and ive not understood why more dont do this unless its the econ system that wants us all individually
paying others a lot of money to live month to month.

put a few of us together with our meager incomes NOT going to rising rents all the time and we can afford
many other life items.

btw...happy moms day to the moms. im a mom but have not heard from my career law enforcement son
in 11years.
im good. i know me i know what i accomplished. i raised a son who could hold a career LE gig successfully.
somehow this gig has altered how he sees some other things in his life.
not my problem.

happy mustang mamma day to me!! those kids still talk to me. :):):)
...and i smile sitting here thinking of them. TYG.
 
Hi ! First post here. Single male 67. Living alone. My GF died 5 years ago. I miss her very much.

Very lonely sometimes, but sometimes so glad to be alone, lol. No one messing up my plans, ha ha.

I have to count my blessings whenever I get that feeling that if I just had the right woman in my life, everything would be perfect.

I choose not to date, for a variety of reasons I won't get into.

Like other posters have said before me, I do get desperately lonely sometimes, just for female contact, sex not being required, even, just contact.
Just a good hug. Just lean up against me.

What I could really go for, in a relationship, is just someone to sit next to me on the couch and watch TV. Can you put an ad in the personals for that, ha ha?

But like I said, I choose not to date, so I live with these bouts of extreme 'animal' loneliness now and then. They last about a week. They come on out of nowhere, then go away for no reason.

Glad this forum exists. I go to a few social activities, for conversation, but I could never admit this stuff to them!

Thanks for your time!
 
I have been on my own since 2016 when dear hubby died from Dementia. He never knew who I was for over a year before he died. To be honest I am still surprised I am still here myself with the amount of times I have been in and out of hospital but I was 92 on May 19th and I bought myself a new computer and enjoying my time not only on forums I belong to but many Facebook groups too.
I see my family each day on Facetime so I think I am a very lucky lady.
Yes I get depressed at times but I usually find a u-tube or video that can brighten my day.
Do I feel alone? Not really I have some super memories to look back on and still getting many from worldwide wanting to know about life and how everything has changed over the past 9 decades.
Keep smiling everyone.
 
Hi Maywalk, I know you from another SF some years ago now. a belated Happy Birthday , a great age, you certainly don't sound it, whatever that may mean. :D
I have been on my own for just a few months now, I especially needed the peace and my own identity, two things which I now have got. I do miss not having someone to share things with but having SF certainly helps me there.
 
Maywalk said:
I have been on my own since 2016 when dear hubby died from Dementia. He never knew who I was for over a year before he died. To be honest I am still surprised I am still here myself with the amount of times I have been in and out of hospital but I was 92 on May 19th and I bought myself a new computer and enjoying my time not only on forums I belong to but many Facebook groups too.
I see my family each day on Facetime so I think I am a very lucky lady.
Yes I get depressed at times but I usually find a u-tube or video that can brighten my day.
Do I feel alone? Not really I have some super memories to look back on and still getting many from worldwide wanting to know about life and how everything has changed over the past 9 decades.
Keep smiling everyone.
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You are a most remarkable woman Maywalk. I am so glad I met you on another forum in the UK so long ago. I've been meaning to email you some laughs and will soon. xoxox
 
RandomName said:
Hi ! First post here. Single male 67. Living alone. My GF died 5 years ago. I miss her very much.

Very lonely sometimes, but sometimes so glad to be alone, lol. No one messing up my plans, ha ha.

I have to count my blessings whenever I get that feeling that if I just had the right woman in my life, everything would be perfect.

I choose not to date, for a variety of reasons I won't get into.

Like other posters have said before me, I do get desperately lonely sometimes, just for female contact, sex not being required, even, just contact.
Just a good hug. Just lean up against me.

What I could really go for, in a relationship, is just someone to sit next to me on the couch and watch TV. Can you put an ad in the personals for that, ha ha?

But like I said, I choose not to date, so I live with these bouts of extreme 'animal' loneliness now and then. They last about a week. They come on out of nowhere, then go away for no reason.

Glad this forum exists. I go to a few social activities, for conversation, but I could never admit this stuff to them!

Thanks for your time!
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So sorry you have bouts of loneliness @RandomName. I hope you will find some solace in sharing thoughts with the members in this forum. Great bunch of folks here. Welcome to Senior Forums!
 
I was very lucky to have a good friend when my husband passed. I had known him since age 7. He met my husband in high school and they became best friends. He was very much a part of our lives. He was there through five years or chemo, surgeries and struggles. When my husband passed he looked after me. Made sure I went out dinner with the gang. He would come over to watch TV/movies. I would cook a good meal. We talked many times a week, current events, gossip etc. There was never any romance between us, he was like a brother to me and he felt the same about me. He passed of a sudden heart attack in 2020. He had never married, had no children, he left his estate to my son. He had family but was not close to them. He considered us his family. His brothers had no problem with his decision. I still miss my husband and now this friend (brother). Now I feel totally alone.

@RandomName I would say that you should be honest and open with the groups you socialize with. It is great to have a friend or friends to go out to dinner etc. Have movie day or night at each other's home. I don't think you are looking for romance, just people to share your life with. You just have to be willing to put yourself out there to find good friends.
 
Blessed said:
@RandomName I would say that you should be honest and open with the groups you socialize with. It is great to have a friend or friends to go out to dinner etc. Have movie day or night at each other's home. I don't think you are looking for romance, just people to share your life with. You just have to be willing to put yourself out there to find good friends.
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The movie night thing sounds like fun.
 
I'm new to this forum. I've always pretty much been a loner and I've never been bothered by doing things by myself. I've been divorced for many, many years and have no children. My nephews were my children but they're all grown up with kids of their own. I've also always had great pets and I still have one older dog that is a joy. The older I get, the lonelier I get. Mainly, there are things I want to do before it's too late and I can't physically do them. Travel is number one! I sold my home this year and moved to an apartment and I don't regret it at all. I'm enjoying not having to cut grass and keeping up with maintenance on a house. Will con't.
 
I've been looking into 55 plus communities since they have a lot of activities and people that want to be active. The problem I'm running into is that I don't want to buy, just rent. I like the flexibility of renting. I live in Prattville, AL and there's not much going on here, especially for seniors. I'm 62 and really bored. Any ideas?
 

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