Is it just me? "Miss" prefix before my first name makes me feel old.

Keesha

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Location
Canada 🇨🇦
In the places I've lived in the West, It's a derogatory term to call a lady of any age "Ma'am!"
I'm not alone in this. It really makes women irate! However, "Ms." is appropiate and doesn't enrage.
I address others by "Thank you dear." for men or women, hahaha! We have to be SO CAREFUL these days of our words!
I’m probably the minority here but I also view it as a respectful thing. The reason I say that is that the actions of the people using these words including eye focuss and body language are nothing but considerate and respectful.

I can think of far more derogatory terms for old other than ma’am
 

RadishRose

SF VIP
Location
CT USA
If you're old, you're old, no matter what title anyone uses. If we're not used to being old by now, lord help us.

These titles are used as a form of respect and proper etiquette. If someone's area or community wants to twist these simple words into something ugly, that's just a shame.
 
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Phoenix

Senior Member
Location
Oregon, U S
I don't live in Merrie "Olde" England. I'm American through and through, a certified mutt. Old is not a four letter word. Those who want to be bummed about it will be. The rest of us can embrace the good things that we have earned by living through it all.
 

Pepper

Well-known Member
Location
NYC
I don't live in Merrie "Olde" England. I'm American through and through, a certified mutt. Old is not a four letter word. Those who want to be bummed about it will be. The rest of us can embrace the good things that we have earned by living through it all.
Sorry. Sometimes I go through my silly hour(s).
 

MarciKS

Resident Fruitcake
Location
My Apartment
It's probably due to what approaches were customary in the areas where members were from.
Must be. I wasn't raised around any slaves or plantations so I don't know anything about it. I was taught to be respectful. Especially in food service. I guess if one of my customers wants to get ticked off when I say "Can I help you Ma'am?" that's gonna be their problem. I could find other things to call them. LOL!
 

Ardith

New Member
The insufferable little college age people next door do that to me, and in a very dismissive sing song tone of voice. Decided I don't like the current crop of rental roomies there and will avoid them. 😳
 
I call it slave talk or plantation speak. The slaves used to use "Miss" or "Mister" with their first names to speak to or about the slave holders and their family members. It's disgusting that this ignorant, grammatically incorrect manner of addressing people is alive and well in 2020. It makes my blood boil when I am addressed in this manner. I never accept it. I always say that I am not a Miss. Please call me Mrs. or Ms. with my last name.

A lot of people get upset and I explain to them why they should not address people in that manner. Usually it's done to older women and sometimes older men. Also being called dear, deary, sweetie or honey is infuriating. Where I grew up people called each other by their names. I say that people who call you by these types names are bullies. Giving someone a nickname without having any relationship with them are pushy, disrespectful people. So they say that addressing a woman as Miss Mary is showing respect. I say it shows ignorance and complete disrespect.
A very dear online friend of mine in his fifties, former 82nd Airborne, African American, often calls me Miss Shalimar ( insert my real name.) It is a gesture of respect, nothing to do with my age. He has no idea how old I am. 😆
 
It is common in Texas and the South to address a lady as Ms. or as Mam and very common overseas to use Madam.

We were raised to be respectful and courteous.

But working International for megaoil corp, I can say for sure I have had interactions with women who were offended by being calling Ms. xxxx or the use of Mam or Madam

Glad I'm from Texas and Thank God for Them Texas Gals and Grits ( Girls Raised In The South ) ........

gamboolman.....
 

RiverM55

Member
Location
Midwest
It is common in Texas and the South to address a lady as Ms. or as Mam and very common overseas to use Madam.

We were raised to be respectful and courteous.

But working International for megaoil corp, I can say for sure I have had interactions with women who were offended by being calling Ms. xxxx or the use of Mam or Madam

Glad I'm from Texas and Thank God for Them Texas Gals and Grits ( Girls Raised In The South ) ........

gamboolman.....
We try to be respectful too. Everyone round here gets called Miss Ms Ma'am whatever title is necessary based on whether we know em or not. It's considered rude to call a person by their first name without permission. Especially if we don't know em.
 

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