Will you stay in your home as long as you can?

Remember that story of the old Inuit woman who could no longer use her teeth to stretch the skins and how she walked away from the village, sat in the snow and went to sleep? Sounds like a great way to go. :)
She was dragged off by a polar bear. That's what I always imagined, anyway. But she was still smiling and waving goodbye to the family (in my imagination), accepting her fate. I'll accept mine, too, when the time comes. Only it won't be ice and a polar bear because I live in California.
 

Saying yes with the hope I realize when it’s time to move into an independent living, if necessary.

My mother didn’t have a pot that wasn’t burned solid black. She knew how to fool people, including me.
 

We plan to stay put for as long as our health and abilities allow. If it gets to the point where just mowing the yard is a major challenge, we will probably sell this place and move to an apartment, or senior home in a larger town.
Unfortunately, for most people, if you live long enough, it's not a question of if it gets to the point, it's a question of when. :(
 
I have no idea because I'm not sure what the future will bring. Where I live my final days will depend on my health and ability to live unassisted, my wife's condition and whatever my sons do in their lives.

Strangely enough I'm not that opposed to living in an assisted care facility or a senior community depending on the conditions. One of the favorite periods of my life is when I was living in the dorms in college. There were lots of folks around to socialize with, all I had to do to eat is go down to the dining hall and I only had a little space I had to keep organized and clean. If one were to add good exercise facilities and a pool that sounds like it would be a nice life.

I do however plan on doing everything I can to stay in the home we're in now unless one of my sons moves somewhere else in which case we might follow if that's where the grandson would be going. Thankfully one of the places they might consider moving is Hawaii and I could deal with living there.

However as I said before it depends on what the future brings.
 
Within days of when my parents went into a nursing home (at their request), my father died and mom went down hill fast. They lost a big piece of their life and gave up the ghost, so to speak. I will stay put as long as I can still move or a better offer, or one I can't refuse, comes along. :)
 
Well, I lived in a home for most of a year. I can report that it is way cheaper living in your own home. Also, the more dependent you are, the more it's going to cost you. Money is a factor in rest homes. Nobody is putting 40 hours a week, because they can't get enough of old people. That said, most workers are kind and compassionate, but also understand the staff is made up of 'walk ins' with little training for the minimum wage jobs. Staffing is a problem in r. homes. While there are more ways to socialize in r.homes, you also run into more problems- like the grumpy guy in 205, or the butinsky in193. Being in group activities may be fun at first, but they can also be limiting , due to the multiple skill levels. Like Mrs. Jones taking forever to let go of the ball. What I found I didn't like was seeing residents leaving for the last time. Because of the nature of a r.home, death is always coming around.
Living in the r. home wasn't bad nor was it all that great either. For me, now, I'm in a wheel chair and isolated, but that's OK. All the time I was in the home, I wanted to go back to my own home. That was always an option for me. I'm not sure how I would have made out, if I didn't have that option.
 
Not us, I have seen what happens when people do not take a realistic look at what the future holds in store for them. We plan to sell our house, move closer to the children, and live in a 55 year old plus community.
I've seen it too, seems like hundreds of times it seems like. (I don't think "hundreds" is too far off because I began to notice this in my 20s; worked in offices all my working years and heard *over and over*: "I'm not gonna put my parents in 1 of those awful nursing homes or assisted living places." and when it came time, they had to anyway. Or "I'm never gonna live in 1 of those terrible nursing homes. I don't know what I'll do instead but I'll figure something out when the time comes." And of course, the figuring out what else to do either never happened or came too late.)
 
I know some very independent people who will fight tooth and nail to stay in their own home for as long as possible. Our government supports it too and there's a lot of help available including house cleaning, meals on wheels, lawn mowing, even showering etc. Would you rather go into a facility and socialise with others or stay put?
I haven't found any government help for house cleaning and lawn mowing. The only help I found that Medicare provides is personal grooming and medication taking. I don't need help with those, only with cleaning and mowing. Could you provide more specifics on what government program provides assistance on those? Thanks.
 
There are some very cruel tradesmen out there, a plumber gave a 90 year old woman, (living on her own with no relatives close by) a quote for $2500 to fix a tree root problem blocking the toilet. We talked about it and eventually a trustworthy plumber fixed it for under $300. Sharks are out there just waiting for the vulnerable, makes me sick.
 
Question:

Will you stay in your home as long as you can?​


Answer:

Since our mortgage was paid off long ago, yes! :)

Most people stay in our association until they are carted off to nursing homes or the graveyard.

Tony
 
I stayed in my house as long as I could! ... That was over 3 yrs. ago. ..then decided I needed a life from all the headaches associated with going solo in home ownership.

My 55+ senior apartment is perfect for me. Life is good when you don't have worries to bog you down.
 


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